I need to make more friends, I think that most of the problem.

I agree..friends are a good thing and hobbies to..its good to do things together with your partner but you also need to do things on your own...maybe try playing a sport or joining a club of some kind..

I ask myself the same thing all the time and hear guys tell me that I am a lot. or that im insecure. I don't feel I am at all. Ive been dating on and off a long time, I was in a 11 year relationship with my first love and sense then only had a couple long term relationships. The men I date instantly fell something for me or claim to, as soon as the words come out of my mouth "I miss you" or "cant wait to hear from you" they run.
So is it us that are clingy or the men that cant handle to hear those words. I personally would love to hear those things from a guy.

I'm clingy too. What helps me is being aware of things you do that are clingy and stopping it before it starts. The last girl I was with was super needy and I actually liked it, it made me feel special. She thought I was insecure though. I don't think I'm insecure for being open with how I feel or if I'm questioning something I do. I agree with LSU that if I'm going through a rough time I'm probably needy. I also agree with you that more friends would help you be less clingy and busier so you two aren't constantly together. I don't think clingy is necessarily a negative thing. I mean it can be but it's nice to feel wanted or needed.

Learn to be more independent, a person has to be good on their own! It's great to share life with someone- it's a whole lot more fun etc. but if that other person is busy you gotta be able to entertain yourself! You need your own interests, things that you can do that you enjoy- not just with your SO but alone or with another friend.

whats your definition of clingy?

My definition of being clingy is not having my own life wanting to do everything with my girlfriend. When I was married me and my exwife did everything together and it worked for us but, the people I have dated after my divorce do not like it.

I'm sometimes clingy and my girlfriend eats it up like candy.

My ex thought I was clingy because I'd call her everyday on my drive home from work to see how her day was. To me, clingy is not letting me go snowboarding without calling at least 3 times even though you know what I'm doing and that I'll call you as soon as I'm on my way back.

I'm clingy lol I'll admit it. My fianc is ok with it.
Clingy isn't always a bad thing.

Have you tried bounce sheets? or static guard?

I love Bounce sheets. They smell so good!!

Maybe I'd like a guy that's a little more clingy! One that just really wants to be with me, doing whatever- so long as it's with me! How do you get one of those- is it like rubbing a balloon on your head and creating that static cling?

Anyone ever watch the older Jersey Shore shows? Sammy was incredibly clingy- even in the gym she would follow Ronnie from one piece of equipment to another- she went where he went and did what he did and seemed so insecure and lost if she wasn't with him. Pretty sure that's NOT a good thing.

in my single days I was very cold to guys I dated and was intimate with.....you wanna cuddle!?!??! what?!?!?! if you want a clingy Guy...he's gotta be interested in you, but being cold and unavailable will make them cling. I'm not saying be a bitch, just unemotionable, blow them off sometimes, soon as you finish having sex, hop outta bed, get dressed and leave the room before they even have time to process what just happened.

to stop being clingy, when you grab the phone to call them every hour..stop yourself, no matter what it takes...let her come to you once in a while....do take breaks, go do something on your own once in a while. remind yourself that if she didn't want you she wouldn't be with you, so its okay to let her breathe she's not going anywhere

I agree with freakchic..sometimes we like someone so much we dwell on their presence. I can be quite clingy as well. If people starts all walled up during the beginning of a relationship then starts to open up, I'm the opposite..I am all out but when I get hurt, especially disrespected and taken advantage of, I slowly curl in and become cold.

I think, it's OK to be clingy but not too dependent --I think there's a difference. To call or text more often is not bad, it just means you're excited to hear from the person or wanting to share special moments of your day--after all, we are in cloud 9 when we're in love and it's so good to share that happy feeling with the one who makes you feel like heaven. I think those people who get scared of "clingy" people are emotionally walled up and I think if they can't take the way we express ourselves then they have no place in our lives. We deserve people in our lives, whether they are clingy or not, who can understand that this is simply the way we express our affection and our fondness. Of course this has to come with moderation --telling someone you miss them or looking forward to see them does not mean we want to be with them 24X7, it's just a straightforward expression that we really like their company.

I realized that there are people who just find so much satisfaction doing things with a partner, not because they can't do it on their own, they just find that sharing these moments is happier. I am one of those people..there's just some explainable joy in sharing although there are things that I prefer to do on my own and wish people would respect that.

Sadly, some people are more comfortable with their walls and do not view sharing the same way some of us do. But then, I wouldn't really say you should change and be less clingy..don't commit this crime to yourself...those who are turned off by the way you express your affection are those who doesn't share or understand that it's just how you express your affection...someday, someone will come along who will appreciate that kind of expression and you're better off shooing away all those who do not appreciate the way you express your love rather than pretend to be someone else and end up unsatisfied in the end.