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BrooklynnMB 02/15/2013

Uhh, I was supposed to marry my fianc last fall, but I called off the wedding. I just couldn't go through with it. There were a lot of reasons I called it off but one of the main ones was that I just was having too many second thoughts that maybe I didn't want to spend the rest of my life with him...? We are still together but I can't shake those feelings. Lately I haven't even been attracted to him, I used to love him so much and wanted to marry him. Now, I just don't know if he's "the one" I mean, I don't know if I believe in soul mates, but I do believe in true love. So confused, lost, and depressed. I find myself wanting to spend time away from him, not with him.. am I just in a funk and will this pass? or is he not the right one for me? we did try separating for a little while and I missed him so much, but now that I have him again, I want my own space again.

deleted_user 02/15/2013

I'm not sure of your age, but if you are really young, take all the time you need to make your marriage decision. Talk to someone about your feelings outside of the relationship. Best advice, follow your gut instinct. If it doesn't feel right, don't go thru with it. Marriage is too easy to get into and too hard to get out of... (i've been married twice before)

Hope this helps... again take your time.

ScarletAngel 02/16/2013

we did try separating for a little while and I missed him so much, but now that I have him again, I want my own space again.

Sounds like you don't necessarily want to be with him, you just don't want to be alone.

If you have doubts that "he is the One", then he probably isn't. And you won't find "the One" while you are with him.

deleted_user 02/16/2013

Talk it over with someone close to you family or friend... if you are having second thoughts ... listen to them, journal them, think about them, and take all the time you need to make a decision. Marriage is easy to get into and very very hard to get out of. If something works and is right, then it comes easy... we all make mistakes though. Do what you feel is best for you.

deleted_user 02/16/2013

Also, try to remember there are a lot of fish in the sea... if this isn't the right one, another one will come along. I guarantee it. Live your life with what makes you happy for now not trying to make something work.

deleted_user 02/16/2013

I'm in a relationship that is by no means considering marriage but I feel this same thing is happening to me. I'm the guy and I feel like my girl is falling out of love. I'd be real honest with yourself (as your obviously doing) and then be really honest with him. My girl is pretending like nothing is wrong and that is the part that really hurts. If you don't want to be with me then break up with me! If you want to be with me then act like it!

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