I am sorry to read that you are going through this. In my opinion, if you are the love of his life, the he would be honored to have you by his side, have you meet his friends and family. To me, love is not just a word, it's an action. You should not feel sad, guilty, or any negative feelings for something that he is doing or not doing, and you don't need to be anyone's emotional punching bag. You need to ask yourself(like all of us who were there or are there) do you want to live like this and do you deserve the treatment you are getting from your significant other. I hope this helps a little and I do hope all the best for you too.

It definitely sounds fishy... You have been dating for almost a YEAR and he LIVES with his parents, but you haven't met them??? It is definitely a concern, but you're right, if you have to push him to meet them, there is no joy in that. I don't have any advice, but it took my husband 7 months to introduce me to his kids when we were dating, and I thought that was odd as well...

thanks, I think I may need counseling for self esteem issues, I have the insurance for it, why not, why am I putting up with this? I googled it though, and I am not the only one. sometimes young men are slow to introduce gf to their parents, some of the girls asking still hadn't met them after three years! I don't want to wait that long. it just seems like it would be a waste of three years.

I agree with Violet as far as the him living with them and you not having met them.. The kids are different though.. I have a child and it took almost a year before he met my current bf. He was young (my son) and didn't want him to get comfortable with someone just to have them yanked out of his life.. But parents? That's a whole nother story.. You certainly should have met them by now.. You need to go with your gut.. If it's telling you something isn't right, then something probably isn't right. Give him a time frame and if he can't meet it leave..

Did you have a discission with him about this?
I mean a discussion, as in communication, not as saying a sententece about it once in a while...

I guess that if you did, you would know why he didn't yet present you to his parents... Knowing why, you wouldn't worry so much about it, or you would at least know where you stand with him...

Here are a few tips for a good communication:
1-Speak at the first person:
"I am under the impression that you..." or "I feel that you ..." Instead of saying "You'll never present me to your parents!" or "when will I meet your parents?". Speaking at the first person helps not to sound too accusative. When the other have the impression that he's accused, the natural reaction is to get defensive, thus leading the discussion nowhere.

2-There's a time to listen and there's a time to speak.
Interruptions does no good in a discussion. Avoid interrupting the other and ask the other no to interrupt you as well.

3- Keep focus
Many times, the discussion drifts on other subject than the one we want to discuss. If one of the people who have the discussion see that this is happening, he or she should say so...

4-Time and place
Starting a serious discussion when you know there won't be enough time to go through the subject is not a good idea. Nor is it when the other is not in a mood to be concentrating on a specific subject (as in evenings, when you are tired, or right at the moment the other passes the door...). The setting plays a great part in good communication. While chatting while walking on the side of a street is not a bad idea, speaking of something serous is not, for obvious reasons... When discussing, the attention must be on the conversation, not on avoiding other pedestrians or else...


Now that the basic is stated, you could try to find out why he is acting like that... He's the only one who could explain to you why he never introduced you. He might even not be aware that you'd like to meet them! Or he could have some issues...
We are still young in our twenties, and have much to learn about life and relationships...

I wish you'll find hapinness...

I went through this with an X. We were together for 3 years and even got engaged. I had never met his family in this time. They lived all of an hour and a half away. When he went to visit them he always had an excuse why I shouldn't go. I am beginning to think now that I know more about him, it wasn't me he was afraid of...I think his Step Dad had opinions about him he never wanted me to hear. If he kept us apart I would never know the truth. When it came down to getting honest and actually getting married, he bailed rather than face the inevitability of me knowing he wasn't the knight in shining armour he made himself out to be.

I saw the warning sign of it but opted for denial. I was happy with that for awhile but eventually it wore me out.

good luck...

you really do need to address this with him and tell him how you truly feel...If he can't honor that, then maybe you do need to move on.

in my opinion, there is something fishy going on. You have been dating a year and he won't introduce you to his parents?? If you were that important to him, im sure he would have done it by now...unless he is hiding something from you.

Here's a thought... Are you SURE he lives with his PARENTS??? After giving this more thought I'm reminded of a friend that dated a guy for about 6 months. She never was allowed to go to his house because he lived with his parents and they wouldn't approve of her (she was white he was black)... Later on she found out he was MARRIED!! So I got to thinking maybe he lives with another girl.. I mean who knows.. He won't introduce you so I'm assuming you've never been to his house/their house.

what you don't know is whether he's keeping you from them or them from you. You have to ask yourself, in your gut... do you believe that you are the love of his life? If so, then consider that perhaps what he has told you about his family may be a bit inflated... perhaps he is not proud of them.

As far as the idea that he may not actually live with his parents... think about this... does he keep you from going to his house all together even when they are not home? Do you know exactly where they live? It wouldn't be hard to find out if its really his parents house, or if its something seedier.... Maybe they are slobs. Maybe he is afraid that if you see where he comes from, you will think differently of him.

Don't press him for an introduction, but do ask him to be honest with you about why he is putting it off. Maybe it represents a level of commitment moving toward something that he isn't comfortable with yet. Even if its not how you would feel about it, if he were to equate bringing a girl home with something like expectations of marriage, then so be it. After a year, there is no saying that he should be ready to take that step, but understanding if thats the way it plays in his mind could make a big difference. It doesn't have to make sense to you... people think differently. They key is to understand HIS thinking, and not judge it for whatever it is. Maybe his parents aren't nice to him. If they verbally berate him, for example, how embarrassing would it be to bring around someone whose opinion matters. Don't make assumptions. Just because he is keeping something from you doesn't NECESSARILY mean that its deceptive or negative. Sometimes people just aren't ready... and we have to give them the space to come to their own comfort zone naturally. Now, if this goes against what works for you, then maybe youre not well suited for eachother.

Trust me you dont want to push things. My bf did the same thing and I asked to go to church with his family... No they dont like me and it causes nothing but drama.

I would ask him if you could meet them soon, tell him that you feel its important, give him all of your reasons for wanting to meet them. He is a man, that means you have to tell him everything you want for im to understand!

I was on board with you until he said that he lives with his parents. If he were estranged from his parents or if they lived far away this wouldn't really be much to worry about.

If I met the love of my life I would be talking about him all the time. To anyone who would listen. Especially to the people I live with. Doubly especially to my parents. And they would be asking to meet him. What kind of parents wouldn't ask to meet the love of their child's life? Which is what leads me to believe that either a) he hasn't mentioned you to them (bizarre) or b) he doesn't really live with them (liar!!).

How can you be dating someone for a year and never have dinner at his house? Just go there. Stand up for youself. You deserve honesty and openness and hiding his family (THAT HE LIVES WITH!!) from you is not acceptable.

Ok, flipside here.....

I come from a family where my mom is the most INTRUSIVE mother you could ever IMAGINE! As soon as you even mention any sort of relationship, it is all up in her business. It is hell. My brother and I have learned to never bring relationships home. My sister never learned that lesson.

However, I have no problem explaining this issue to people. I don't care who knows. And I have no problem with telling my brother, and father about relationships because I know they wouldn't tell my mother.

So something is fishy....you need to find out what his deal is...