maybe I missed something, but what does the dog have to do with leaving your bf? It's sounds like you're already lost your place due to your bf's obsession with fix it cars. I'd think the dog would be better off with you, in a stable environment (vs moving).

I do not fully understand your situation either but it sounds like by your post that your living conditions at least for right now are not so great. I think and I do not know what your relationship is like with your b/f meaning if you are living with him in a hotel or not it seems to me that he is happy to keep on doing his thing and not focus on changing or wanting the same things as you do for the future.

Anyway perhaps you should consider checking out what is available in your community on what just your income is. It would give you the chance to get into something rather then live in a hotel and save up for something better. As for your dog there are places that will allow them for an extra deposit. You also could see about boarding the dog or check with friends and family to see if they can keep him until you get back on your feet.

In all aspects I know it isn't easy but the only one stopping you from leaving and changing is you. And that will take some hard work on your part to check out all other resources available in your community. If you choose to stay with your b/f and try and work things out I will just say make sure he is willing to do so and proves his actions to you, otherwise you will continue to stay in the same spot or worse end up on the streets.

Anyway I hope this helps a bit and like I said I do not know all your circumstances here I can only say if you want a better life you have to rock the boat a bit. Wishing you the very best.

The dog is his. We have been together for so long and he works all the time she has basically been my shadow for close to 4 years. I love her to death and can't bear leaving her even tho I am miserable. We have discussed shared custody but he won't agree to it. I am staying in a hotel he is at his parents house. And when we talk all he says is how badly he wants us to live together again. But when it actually comes to finding a house he yells at me and says it's not his problem he HAS a home. I asked if I could move into his basement room with him at his dads house (like that is an ideal situation) and he said no. He doesn't care I have to drive 12 hours a week for school. I only stay in the hotel mon-wed and at my parents house 3.5 hours away the rest of the week. I know I sound moronic for having the attachment to the dog. But she has gotten me through some really dark awful times. I am not denying that I am in recovery. I used drugs so I wouldn't have to deal with my depression. Now that I am sober I have to figure out healthy ways to manage my disease. And right now his dog is my best friend who has been with me through most of it. If I leave him I have no one. No friends, my family is around but they are so sick of me... sorry I am venting. Just trying to make more sense of my first post.

Sorry to be blunt, but your bf is an arse and you can do much better. I know recovery is hard as you struggle to find positive coping skills...however, I can't help but think that this jerk is holding you back. I struggle with PTSD and have had addictive issues in my past, so I know what it's like to be alone without support. Yes, it sucks! But believe me when I tell you that things do get better. My heart goes out to you because I know it is painful to lose a four legged companion.

Thanks for adding a bit more to your post. I am truly sorry about the situation with the dog. I am a huge animal lover myself and can understand how attached a person can get as they become a part of the family. I was also going to add that maybe for now as you are trying to find a place to stay and get things worked out you might want to take a bit of time and volunteer at a animal shelter or even a vet clinic.

I think it would give you a chance to spend time with animals as well as making some new friends that have something in common with you. It just might help you heal a bit as I always find doing something I enjoy and being around people who share something in common with me certainly makes life a whole light brighter even in dark times. And heck who knows your b/f probably is only saying he wants to keep the dog out of spite so if you tell him fine keep the dog and he sees it has no affect on you he probably will give the dog to you. But first you want to get yourself better and back in control of your life. So stay strong kiddo and don't give up on having a much better future:)

This sounds like a nightmare for you........dogs are so easy to love, they have all the qualities of loyalty and devotion we'd like in our human relationships don't they? Without any of the downsides. I can see how you'd feel, when my partner and his ex split up they fought so hard over theirs that friends called him the tug of love dog!

I hope you find a way out of it soon

Disagreements about money: The cause of many a breakup or divorce.

I know you love that dog, but you're better off away from him and the whole situation. He has already tried that fix-up cars business, and it failed miserably every time. The very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.

Find yourself a more sensible boyfriend who is willing to get a job and work for someone else like every other poor schmuck has to do when visions/delusions of grandeur in the form of a business don't go their way.

I'm sorry, Courtss, but your guy made his choice. He obviously does not want to be with you, at least not enough to man-up and make responsible decisions and even care about the fact that you're living in a hotel right now, for cryin' out loud. Glad HE's got a comfy place to stay! What a selfish ass. Sorry, but gotta be real. ALSO, please keep in mind that the way he's behaving now will NOT change. Would you really want to live with this the rest of your life?

The title of your post says it all. This is a bad relationship that you need to get out of and I think you know it. Like others here, I understand your attachment to the dog but you absolutely cannot let that influence a decision to stay in the relationship. Staying is easy, leaving is hard and will require work on your part to make the separation emotionally and move on with your life. But it will be the best thing you ever did.

Hugs to you. Keep us posted.

I do understand that you don't want to leave your dog. I actually stayed with my ex for quite a while because I couldnt stand the thought of leaving my Rottweiler. She was my baby. Coincidentally, my ex and I also lived in a hotel for a while because we lost our house. In the end tho, I realized that I could not stay in a bad marriage because I loved my dog. So I left. It was hard. Very hard. But I knew that he loved her as well and she would be in good hands.

I urge you to leave if you're unhappy. Life is too short to be miserable. You deserve a life of happiness with somebody who loves you and treats you well!!