If you ever find a "normal healthy" woman, please tell me how you did it. Do they really exist?

roflmao! well when you find the normal healthy female, then ask her if she has a brother! lol

Ihave beend told that if I want to find a normal, healthy attractive woman, I should become a normal, healthy, attractive man.

That's no fun. LOL

If I keep falling for "wrong" women, then maybe those women are not wrong for me at this time.

lol well that is a tough question because everyone has their own perception of what their definition of normal is. I guess in my opinion we all go through bad relationships and I think what we take from those bad relationships should give us better ideas on what we don't want.

To me a person has to set limits and standards on what they do want and start with that. If you settle for less then that then you can always expect the same disasters to happen. I also think you have feel comfortable with who you are as well because if you are constantly trying to do things to impress people chances are you will get people who will not treat you so well.

If you are confident on what you want in a relationship and show that in your behavior I think you will find what you are looking for. Sometimes the hardest thing is just being honest with who we are and accepting what we can and won't tolerate. Sometimes I think people get so lonely or are afraid to be alone they tend to be drawn to people based on those things alone and that always turns out bad in the end.

Anyway try to not focus so hard on finding the perfect mate if you are confident on who you are and what you want it will show and the right person will come along.:)

Thanks katiebell that makes alot of since

So...who are you, mysteryman? A sex fiend like me lol?

Nah, I think I've got the right balance in my heart between warmth, humor and lust. Maybe it's just a matter of finding that balance in YOUR heart. Too much lust is a dark road, that makes you and her feel like sex machines. Not enough lust makes us feel bored, deprived, like we're missing something.

Good to be a moderate. Got to be an in-between place.

mysterman73: You get to that point by healing yourself. You are totally on the right track in saying that you are "trying to be happy with /yourself/ before /you/ try to find somebody else." Go for it.

dsaddict, "normal healthy" women exist every bit as much as "normal healthy" men.

My therpist told me that you atttact the level of healthiness that your at.. So if you off balance then you will attract the same. It makes sense.

well go for some one that you would normally not go for and get attracted to there inside more learn about the person