New to this group but I think it would help. I was emotionally involved with someone over time as just a friend who was a HS classmate. After I took a two week biz trip I met her in my hometown and told her how I felt about her. She responded in kind but no physical contact of any sort, thank goodness. Emotional roller coaster over two months and I wanted a divorce after 32 years. I started the process and my wife "lost it" . She went to intensive outpatient therapy and had a lot of emotional baggage from growing up in a broken home. She's doing really well now and I asked her back. She forgave me, thank God, but I'm having a difficult time forgiving myself. We are getting along really well now and communicating. We saw the movie Hope Springs and so much of it is what we went through. Not separate rooms though. I didn't know if I could get back the feelings I had for her when we first met but, so far so good. She's really helping me with forgiveness and I keep telling her how grateful I am she came back. More therapy for me needed, especially communication. That is so key. I sure didn't want to hurt anyone but, too late. Now I have to build up trust , of course. Long road ahead but, it's good to be together. I don't want to get back into a rut ever again. I needed to give my wife a 2nd chance. I'm just glad she gave me one. Comments welcome.