Hi, I originally wrote this under the "codependency" group but I think it may better apply here. I am new to this but I need all the support/help I can get. Me and my ex got back together after 8 months of no contact about 6 months ago. It has been very rough, we had our fights in the beginning (due to need of rebuilding trust mainly) but we were still positive. Unfortunately lately the arguments have been getting worse and worse and it seems the hope is just gone. I came to this group because our couples counselor has told me that she believes I am codependent.

We constantly (like 85 percent of our fights) argue about the same 2 subjects: him not inviting me around with him and his friends (when there are other girls present, I don't want to be around with just guys) and his friendship with a girl who was my friend initially but switched sides the last time we broke up (she also has not tried to mend anything and, in my opinion, continues to disrespect our relationship, although he says he doesn't believe that she does).

Regarding the friends situation: I have already explained to him that I don't think that he will cheat on me and that's not what any of this is about. To me its about respect and being in his life and circle (just as all his friends' girlfriends are). We have fought about this time and time again and he still doesn't invite me around (in the past 6 months he has invited me with them about 4 times) and every time it turns into this huge fight and then he ends up doing it anyway, then tells me after it wont happen again, and the does it again the next time. Just the other day I asked him why doesn't he follow thru with the stuff he says he will do and he said "I only do it to make you happy" but he said it in a really angry voice, like that's not good enough reason to do something.

This situation pretty much applies to the girl he is friends with as well. I have explained to him time and time again that I don't trust her and I don't want her in our lives. Even our couples counselor tells him that his relationship with this girl is "too intense" and that "she doesn't seem to respect the relationship". But he defends her ALL THE TIME! He doesn't think she did anything wrong and therefore makes it seem like I am being irrational and she is the victim in all this. We finally came to the "agreement" (and I say it like that because it did not come without weeks of fighting about it) that he would lessen his relationship with her; not hang out with her, keep convos short, etc. But the second she calls him for a favor there he is telling me he is going to do it because its "not a big deal" and therefore it "doesn't matter if your going to be upset about it".

Anyway these past two weeks have been just horrible. Then this last Friday he was being really mean and says he is going out with his friends (guys and girls, AND including Frankie) and that he does not want me to go. He said he was tired of fighting and didn't want me to come because he didn't want to fight that night. I told him we didn't have to fight, we have put stuff aside many times before and we have NEVER fought in front of his friends. We even saw our counselor that day and she tried to ask if he can compromise (agree to come home early or that I can meet up with him for an hour) and he just said NO. And I just lost it to be honest, I was very hurt. So he went anyway, and I pretty much didn't hear from him all weekend. Monday and today we barely spoke except for a good morning text.

I feel really lost and helpless.. It's like he shows absolutely no remorse for anything he does and I feel like our relationship is almost over again...