I am in a relationship with a man I met while going through a divorce. I was warned not to date for a given amount of time after divorce. People tend to look for something to replace what they have lost. (which I was and did) My husband of 7 years ( 10 years total) was lying to me for much of our relationship. He was wooing women behind my back and as I discovered taking them home to our house to have sex with them in our bed at lunch time. I am really glad I never walked in on it, but for years of our marriage It was always in the back of my mind that he was cheating. It was not something I wanted to believe. I just didn't know to the extent of lies that he had told me. Anyway, The person that I thought I married, he was not. I felt like I had been conned.

So after I moved out I needed someone in my life and to feel appreciated and loved. and started on-line dating.(against all advice)

I met a man on-line. a few years older than me and we hit it right off and started dating. Sex was great as it had been a while. After about three weeks he practically proposed to me. I told him I was not ready to re-marry, as 1. we just met. 2. I am still married,.. 3. I needed time. so we continued dating, and after 2 years he moved in with me. now he works nights and I work days and we are not much more than roommates and he doesn't put our relationship as a priority and is planning his life as if I am not in it, for more than a paying the rent. He does not mention marriage anymore or anything about the future. His last relationship his girlfriend ended up paying all the bills while he was going to school. I feel like he is just looking for a free ride. I am Nave and find it difficult to trust people at the same time.

Not happy. need advice.
thanks