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Me and my boy-friend has been together for 2 years. We have a 9 month old son together and I would thought that would change the both of us. But it seems like that its tearing us more and more apart. We love our son very much but I feel that he isn't spending enough time with him. He seems him when he gets off work for bit while I go to work. Then on Saturdays he is so involved in playing sports and doing his thing while I have him. Sundays is the same thing he has to have his football then seeing us. I have given up so much that its killing me. I guess that he doesn't relize that I've given up going out, drinking once a week all night, and working part time. All I've seen him give up is a few hours of sleep. I love him very much and want this to work so bad but I'm hurting that it seem on not to bother him. What should I do...
Also something to consider when you are having the discussion is to allow yourselves some days to do your own thing and also have days where you both can spend time together and with your son. If you both can find a happy balance I think your whole family will benefit from it including you.
The only other thing I will say is when you do confront your bf remember it is not about what he is doing and what he should stop doing it is about changing the schedule a bit as if you tell him he can no longer do things he might rebel and nothing will be accomplished. Keep it simple and allow him to share his feelings as well because he might not be aware how much he is neglecting his son and you. Best wishes to you both:)