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HI, here is my situation. My wife of 6 years left me a year ago, it was a total shock to me as she never said she was unhappy in our marriage. we have 2 young girls together. I moved out and through the year she came back 3 times only to leave a few weeks to a month later, it really took a tole on my heart and my mind. I know that a month after she left she was with another man sexually and I know my girls were introduced to him and stayed at his place, I know because my oldest daughter talks about him.
A year later she has asked me back again and to move back in with her, I did. As I was in process of moving back I was laid off from my job, and she was offered a good job in a location 5 hours away and stays in a 1000 person camp. I am now a stay at home dad, which I love doing, but my problem is the trust I had in her through our marriage is now broken and I do want it back. The things that get me the most is that she has blocked everyone including me from seeing her friends on face book and then there is the fact that the man she was seeing I know works in the same area as her but she denies that he does. How do I trust that she is being honest with me?
A year later she has asked me back again and to move back in with her, I did. As I was in process of moving back I was laid off from my job, and she was offered a good job in a location 5 hours away and stays in a 1000 person camp. I am now a stay at home dad, which I love doing, but my problem is the trust I had in her through our marriage is now broken and I do want it back. The things that get me the most is that she has blocked everyone including me from seeing her friends on face book and then there is the fact that the man she was seeing I know works in the same area as her but she denies that he does. How do I trust that she is being honest with me?
As to whether you can trust her again, carefully watch her behavior and look for motivation. She might just want to use you to take care of the kids while she goes on making bucks and galavanting around.