Another question: the "booty call" call can be done by either him or me, right? Im not just going to be here when he wants me to, if I want it, I can call for it too. Right?

Yes. You call it as well.

Ever hear of a man not cumming all the time? Is this normal? Ive never had it happen before. Just curious. Im wondering if its me, where I am kind of inexperienced. He says its happened before and isnt alarmed by it. Should I just forget it and enjoy everything else? Im not used to a man not getting off, but we both enjoy the act even tho he doesnt.

Ok, so here is another question. I think I am ready for more than just fwb with anyone and I think there might be someone interested. (Remember I have been out of the dating game 16 years). We have messaged back and forth, have known each other for years, he has come back to visit twice in the last week, he was here last evening for a bit but I have no idea what he wants, he told me I think too much, and I do. So my question is do I tell my fwb I want more out of a relationship and see if he does too, I do not tell the guy I think is interested about my fwb. Do I continue the fwb till I know whats going on with the other guy? And then when I know what he wants stop the fwb? If we are just spending time together (we havent been out in public yet) not really what I consider dating, what do you suggest???? Im at a loss. Totally new situation for me.
Thanks again

Step one - figure out what you want. Do you want to just have fun and explore sex, date and be merry OR are you ready for more dirty socks and commitment ?
( I ve done both and I like the stable relationship better )
Step two - if you decided you want to date other people, you need to pick whether you want to FWB monogamous, date only one person at a time OR date/FWB multiple people at a time.
Whatever you pick, the people you date need to know where you stand and what your expectations are of them.
If you both agree to see other people - great. If you both agree on monogamy - great.
You do not have to disclose to the other person that you are seeing someone in details, but if you choose to poly date it is only fair to explain to your dates that this is what you are doing and ask them where they stand on this subject.

Thanks. Seems the other guy was an ass, only looking for a piece of ass. So, nothing to worry about. Do I have the right to know if my fwb is screwing anyone else? I have a feeling he is but when I asked him he didnt really answer. I have a right to know how many people im sleeping with, dont I?

FWB situations should be happening in between relationships with others. If your FWB partner meets a woman he is interested in, he should be faithful to her and not do you. Now, he could tell her he's doing you, but I doubt that would be ok with her. Same for you. Any man you date should know you're doing the FWB, or you should stop.

FWB is not complicated. The only thing that effs it up is if someone does something stupid like catching feelings for the other. If it's all about sex, then it's pretty easy to navigate.

Thanks, tryingtomakeit. Thats what I thought, but do I have a right to know if he has other fwb?

I think asking him if he is sleeping with other people should have been done before you guys began this relationship..but if you want to set the record straight you can ask him.
However, be prepared to answer questions as well.

from what I have read on these boards the past couple years, there are no general rules in FWB. Unlike a committed relationship.

If you want to know if he has other partners, of course you have the right to ask, but will he be honest, what has he got to lose by lying (it's not like he has a long term vested interest if you kwim?).

The more relevant question - is "are you using protection with everyone". It's not really any of your business who he's sleeping with - unless he happily volunteers that information, or if it affects your safety. In an FWB situation it's best to assume that both parties are sleeping with others. No false expectations that way.

I've had one running for about 8 years now. We have clear rules and it works well.

I am a bit confused.. Looking back, you said that the other guy was just looking for a piece of ass and it is almost like it offended you. Basically FWB is just that - sex without commitment. Do you think you maybe falling for the guy you are seeing because you also want to know if he is sleeping with others?

I was going to mention the same as Aronia, from my perspective it sounds like you are starting to develop more romantic feelings with your fwb.

Thanks everyone. No the piece of ass comment was for my comment on the 12th. About thinking there was someone interested in getting to know me and wondering if I should mention to my fwb that i was readyfor more. No I do not think I am falling for my fwb.