My wife was diagnosed with Gravess disease over two years ago and Ive watched her slipping slowly since before then which tells me it may have went undiagnosed for some time. At the time she was diagnosed she had told me how severe it was and that emotions would come into play occasionally but I told her no problem and so as time went on and she claimed to have finally gotten the correct dosage down to combat the problem everything seemed to be fine. Only a couple months ago she has grown so distant from me that its impossible to live with her anymore. Recently I have noticed severe paranoia in where she has her mailing address changed to her moms and slowly moving all of her things out of the house. I noticed she didnt care anymore about what the house looked like and didnt seem to want me to sleep with her because when I would come to bed she just roll over the opposite way, and if I asked her why she was quiet. She would in a smart devilish tone say what do you want me to talk about. She never was much for asking me things in bed, but I would usually make the moves and all was well. Now I cant get near her or even touch her and she is on fire. At first I figured she was cheating on me, which I was having a hard time believing and come to find out it wasnt true. Now she gets up in the morning takes her shower and storms out the door shouting what needs to be done in the house with no breakfast hug or kiss goodbye. The smallest thing sets her off like a time bomb. We got into an argument a couple weeks ago about why she didnt want to make love to me anymore and she went ballistic on me screaming all the problems in her life namely her grandson that has a serious problem and that I have been a no good cheat and I lie to her all the time and on and on and once she started actually hitting me and screaming to the top of her lungs I made statements about her family that I immediately took back. I swear I didnt mean them it was heat of the moment and I felt like an asshole, believe me. These are good people that I love like my own family, but it shut her up. And it was better than hitting her back. I am not a violent person, last Friday I just come home from work to see her backing out of the garage and I waited till she pulled out so I could tell her I was going to the boat that night, then she drove off not even slowing down. Later she said it wasnt her it was her son that was driving. Like that was an good excuse. That same the morning all was well so I couldnt figure what was up. But it pissed me off as it would any other normal person and I called her cell phone and said what the fuck asshole, you could of waited a second so she gets to her mothers house and I am sure she edited what had really happened to make me look like the bad guy and later she told me I played what you said for my family and they hate you too. I asked her if she told them also that she just drove off and could have waited but she cut me short and changed the subject..I havent had the chance to explain myself clearly until today because I am going over there now while my wife is at work and talk to her mother. Now at home when I try and make things right she says she cant forgive what I said and when I ask her to think what led up to me saying that to begin with she ignores my question... It wasnt because she was talking nicely with me over a game of rummy or something, she had lost her mind momentarily and was and still is a nervous wreck at all times. She goes into her own world and will not say a word for hours and when I ask her anything the blame always goes on me. She is very short when I ask a question. Sarcastic , I finally just walk away when she is around to avoid confrontation. The other day she had been threatening to have me thrown out of our house for no reason by calling the cops. I told her she was the one who abandon me; all my stuff is still here. Still I dont understand this Graves disease problem and it takes a lot to push me over the edge to say the thing she makes me say. I am an easy going guy who loves her totally and it just dawned on me this morning that she has that Graves disease and I am not sure if she has been doing the meds or not so I did some Googling and came up with this site and looked at literally hundreds of stories exactly, not close but exactly like mine. And I want to help her badly because they explain that the person has no control over their actions and needs the correct dosage of medicine to bring down the hormone levels being produced. It is vital that this be done NOW. It states if untreated long enough mental problems will occur that are irreversible. I know my wife loves me deep down but this disease is overcoming her and I want my wife back. Her eyes bulge out at times and when she looks at me I feel the creeps. The disease is something to do with the devil I am sure. Now it has come to the point she will not even acknowledge my presence except to shout out a derogatory statement of some petty thing I did like leave my car top off for too long. I almost positive she will go nuts if I even suggest her going to another doctor to get a second opinion of the problem she has. She always tells me she is going to die soon and I really am at a loss but I wont give up on her. One time she even confided in me that she cant help the way she acts sometimes and apologized in tears. At the time I didnt realize that this was so serious but now I do. I am going to talk to her mom who she might listen to get her to a new doctor A.S.A.P... I am so happy I found this group to talk to and I appreciate the help and advice you can offer.

Sincerely,

Jeff Wiley