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I posted a New Year inspirational and I see more of us are in pain than should be at this time of our lives. To give some of the new comers who are just starting the journey of raising their GC some assistance.
Please keep the Hope message with you. We went through a lot too and if it wasn't for reading about Hope each and every day, I'm sure I wouldn't have made it as far as I have!
Please don't confuse The Love message with enabling. When you read that message only keep your GC in mind. Your mind will become clearer . You and God know you love your adult children. They have to learn to start loving themselves before they will feel yours and Gods love. So read with only the GC in mind.
Believe all things are possible. When I was at my worst the system was failing my GC and I was in fear that I wouldn't get my GC. This gave me the strength to move forward believing every second of every minute I was fighting for my GC. I was their only voice of sanity and love in an insane court system and world. When you believe, you learn to live it! There is no obstacle that will be thrown your way that you wont figure out how to remove. You have to learn to believe with all your might.
I know some of you are questioning your faith right now. I did to for the first time in my life. I downright told God I was angry at him for what he has allowed to happen to this family. I'm not saying my faith has returned 100%, but I also have to look back and say what my husband and I went through has made us stronger as a couple and as human beings. This has helped us become stronger parents than we were with the first generation.
I have made burial notes for when I get the call my DD has died due to drugs. It's a fact that it will happen.
This helped me grieve and let her go. I'm not saying I want this to happen, Yet I know the statistic are there saying I will outlive her. The notes I have, I HOPE allow me to function when the time comes. With a since of humor...The burial will be the last time I will be able to show her how much I love her and quite frankly it will be the only time she can't protest!
Bless you
Please keep the Hope message with you. We went through a lot too and if it wasn't for reading about Hope each and every day, I'm sure I wouldn't have made it as far as I have!
Please don't confuse The Love message with enabling. When you read that message only keep your GC in mind. Your mind will become clearer . You and God know you love your adult children. They have to learn to start loving themselves before they will feel yours and Gods love. So read with only the GC in mind.
Believe all things are possible. When I was at my worst the system was failing my GC and I was in fear that I wouldn't get my GC. This gave me the strength to move forward believing every second of every minute I was fighting for my GC. I was their only voice of sanity and love in an insane court system and world. When you believe, you learn to live it! There is no obstacle that will be thrown your way that you wont figure out how to remove. You have to learn to believe with all your might.
I know some of you are questioning your faith right now. I did to for the first time in my life. I downright told God I was angry at him for what he has allowed to happen to this family. I'm not saying my faith has returned 100%, but I also have to look back and say what my husband and I went through has made us stronger as a couple and as human beings. This has helped us become stronger parents than we were with the first generation.
I have made burial notes for when I get the call my DD has died due to drugs. It's a fact that it will happen.
This helped me grieve and let her go. I'm not saying I want this to happen, Yet I know the statistic are there saying I will outlive her. The notes I have, I HOPE allow me to function when the time comes. With a since of humor...The burial will be the last time I will be able to show her how much I love her and quite frankly it will be the only time she can't protest!
Bless you
These days of waiting for the court system to decide my GC fate and future are pure torture and ful of pain. I look into my GC eyes and I see the damage that has been done and I can only imagne the pain and suffering she has endurred. Daily and I go through times of self blame, asking myself and anyone who will talk to me why did this have to happen. Why is my DD so self destructive and so selfish. When it comes to the child why does she seem to not care about or is in denial of the abuse she has suffered. So many questions I know that I will have to accept that will never be answered. Leaving it all in the courts hands a judges decision to place the child back in that situation is killing me. I spoke a school counsler where my GC gets therapy and they assure me that the system will do what is in the best interest of the child. "Best interest of the child" I can tell them what is in the best interest of the child but will they listen?
When I see my daughter at visits I look at her and and tell myself that she is my child, my child is in there somewhere. The little girl that I raised and loved and cared for is in that person but why is she so cruel, mean and destructive. Where has she gone is she lost forever. I not ready to greive for the loss of her, I have hope that things will turn around and she will be that daughter that I throught I raised. But it's one disappointment right after another.
But thank you for you post it has given me hope and inspiration to keep up the fight for my GC. I'll never give up the fight for her.
Love and prayers always
Nana