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At the end of 2011, we went to our nephews funeral in Chicago. This was at the beginning of the end with our dd, she was left at home and gd went with us. Upon our return, I removed my wedding ring as I do each night and noticed two rings missing from my jewelry box. Upon further inspection, more items missingas was some of my husbands jewelry. We found out that dd had let our gds father in the house and after the police were called we soon realized dd was in on it. Of course, they both deny and accuse the otherpolice did NOTHING! We NEVER left her in the house alone for one minute again.
Some of the more important items were in a different location and I was relieved to see they were not taken. My grandmothers tennis bracelet, two gold herringbone necklaces, a charm (hand of God holding Jesus on the cross). We took these items and placed them in a very hard to get to placeyou would need to move two dressers to find them.
In 2012, Just days after we told our dd she was no longer welcome in our home we were set to leave for vacation to northern MN, I texted dd to ask if she was returning for gdwanted to be sure she didnt call the police and claim we kidnapped gdshe said she could not yet We left for a week with gd.
Shortly after we returned, we found out dd left Columbus, OH and current bf and took a bus to Gary, IN to be with gds father. I suspect, she actually, took the bus to Indianapolis and made a stop at our home.
Yesterday, I wanted to wear different necklace and could not locate it. I dont wear a lot of jewelry often, but am trying to make an effort to look more professional. When I returned home, I figured I would check this hidey hold to see if I mistakenly placed this necklace there, since it was not of high value. We pulled out the dressers and all the cases were empty! I almost broke down entirely.
The wounds are so fresh now. My dd visited in July for the first time in two years and I wish I would have known before, because I would not have allowed her in our home. I know it was her! How else would NOTHING be disturbed? How else, would a necklace she purchased still be there, and another gold necklace with gds picture on gold still be there?
I want to confront her when she makes her call this weekend, I know she will deny, but I seriously just want to stop all contact at this point. She knows those items were family heirlooms! She is the only one that knew they were anywhere in the house! How could she?
Some of the more important items were in a different location and I was relieved to see they were not taken. My grandmothers tennis bracelet, two gold herringbone necklaces, a charm (hand of God holding Jesus on the cross). We took these items and placed them in a very hard to get to placeyou would need to move two dressers to find them.
In 2012, Just days after we told our dd she was no longer welcome in our home we were set to leave for vacation to northern MN, I texted dd to ask if she was returning for gdwanted to be sure she didnt call the police and claim we kidnapped gdshe said she could not yet We left for a week with gd.
Shortly after we returned, we found out dd left Columbus, OH and current bf and took a bus to Gary, IN to be with gds father. I suspect, she actually, took the bus to Indianapolis and made a stop at our home.
Yesterday, I wanted to wear different necklace and could not locate it. I dont wear a lot of jewelry often, but am trying to make an effort to look more professional. When I returned home, I figured I would check this hidey hold to see if I mistakenly placed this necklace there, since it was not of high value. We pulled out the dressers and all the cases were empty! I almost broke down entirely.
The wounds are so fresh now. My dd visited in July for the first time in two years and I wish I would have known before, because I would not have allowed her in our home. I know it was her! How else would NOTHING be disturbed? How else, would a necklace she purchased still be there, and another gold necklace with gds picture on gold still be there?
I want to confront her when she makes her call this weekend, I know she will deny, but I seriously just want to stop all contact at this point. She knows those items were family heirlooms! She is the only one that knew they were anywhere in the house! How could she?
It should be standard practice for all of us, change locks, give them no access, lock up our valuables. Sad but it needs to be part of our way of life.
The one thing Pinky has never done is stolen from us. That would be the absolute end of her changes of EVER stepping foot into our home.
I do no want any contact with her anymore. I want to ask her about it, to which she'll deny, but there is no way this could have been anyone but her. No sign of break in, nothing else disturbed, it's been two years and we had no clue anyone had taken these items. All was well when we returned home.
I want to tell her that I cannot have any dealings with her outside of gd anymore. My heart is broken when I thought it couldn't get any worse.
Druggies will do anything....they don't care about anybody but themselves and whoever the latest dope, bed partner is!
I understand completely how you feel.
I am so sorry any of us need to go through this with our children. Thank you all for your kind words and sharing your experiences.
The worst thing was when she stole $160 from a friend of hers and blamed it on my gs. That was just before I got him. He was barely 3 yrs old.
As it stands now, we're going through with the adoption.