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This time I'm not going to mess around with her.
On Friday, she told me that her shelter stopped overnight visits. She knew this on Thursday, and could have warned my husband and me that we wouldn't be able to go out to dinner as we had planned for more than a month. Of course, none of that was her fault even thought she missed the group meeting when they announced the change in policy.
So she said she wanted to come here on Sunday. Naturally -- it's Mother's Day and she wants her accolades from the kids. She asked if I could pick her up at the bus stop in the morning. I told her there's no way -- it's just too chaotic, getting three kids and myself ready for church. She called back yesterday and said that Lover Boy would give her a ride. I said "fine."
Then she left a message this afternoon asking if I could pick her up at the bus. Lover Boy would pick her up to take her back home. When she called back, I said "you changed your schedule. I cannot pick you up in the morning. It's too much."
When she called to talk to our eldest granddaughter later, I listened in. Something told me that I should. Sure enough, she was poisoning our eldest granddaughter's mind. This is what I heard:
"Mom-Mom says she's a Christian, but she can't be if she won't pick me up at the bus to take MEEEEEE to church and to see MY children."
"(Lover Boy) is willing to drive me back AND forth to see MY children. He LOVES you children! And there is Mom-Mom, refusing to pick me up at the bus to GO TO CHURCH."
" I don't want Mom-Mom and Pop to adopt you because then I wouldn't be your mother anymore."
"I'm getting an apartment and I will have you three kids back with me."
And so on and so forth. Pinky claims she will discuss these topics with me when she gets here tomorrow.
I can't freaking wait.
I'm going to tell her that we need to talk along with my husband, not just me. Then I'm going to let her spew her crap. All of it. Then I am going to very calmly tell her that I heard every word she told MY granddaughter his evening. I'm going to come down on her like a ton of bricks. I'm going to ask her how DARE she mess up HER daughter's mind by telling her lies and false promises. I'm going to slam her like she's never been slammed before. I'm going to make her admit to HER CHILD that she said false things about me. She will either confess to our eldest granddaughter that she is wrong, or she will NOT step foot in our home again.
She IS Jodi Arias. She is evil. I wonder how long this kind of thing has been going on, even as she smiles ever so sweetly to my face.
Psychopathic B**ch. I can't WAIT for this confrontation to happen. How DARE she screw with "her" children's emotions like this!
Oh, it's going to be an interesting day for sure.
On Friday, she told me that her shelter stopped overnight visits. She knew this on Thursday, and could have warned my husband and me that we wouldn't be able to go out to dinner as we had planned for more than a month. Of course, none of that was her fault even thought she missed the group meeting when they announced the change in policy.
So she said she wanted to come here on Sunday. Naturally -- it's Mother's Day and she wants her accolades from the kids. She asked if I could pick her up at the bus stop in the morning. I told her there's no way -- it's just too chaotic, getting three kids and myself ready for church. She called back yesterday and said that Lover Boy would give her a ride. I said "fine."
Then she left a message this afternoon asking if I could pick her up at the bus. Lover Boy would pick her up to take her back home. When she called back, I said "you changed your schedule. I cannot pick you up in the morning. It's too much."
When she called to talk to our eldest granddaughter later, I listened in. Something told me that I should. Sure enough, she was poisoning our eldest granddaughter's mind. This is what I heard:
"Mom-Mom says she's a Christian, but she can't be if she won't pick me up at the bus to take MEEEEEE to church and to see MY children."
"(Lover Boy) is willing to drive me back AND forth to see MY children. He LOVES you children! And there is Mom-Mom, refusing to pick me up at the bus to GO TO CHURCH."
" I don't want Mom-Mom and Pop to adopt you because then I wouldn't be your mother anymore."
"I'm getting an apartment and I will have you three kids back with me."
And so on and so forth. Pinky claims she will discuss these topics with me when she gets here tomorrow.
I can't freaking wait.
I'm going to tell her that we need to talk along with my husband, not just me. Then I'm going to let her spew her crap. All of it. Then I am going to very calmly tell her that I heard every word she told MY granddaughter his evening. I'm going to come down on her like a ton of bricks. I'm going to ask her how DARE she mess up HER daughter's mind by telling her lies and false promises. I'm going to slam her like she's never been slammed before. I'm going to make her admit to HER CHILD that she said false things about me. She will either confess to our eldest granddaughter that she is wrong, or she will NOT step foot in our home again.
She IS Jodi Arias. She is evil. I wonder how long this kind of thing has been going on, even as she smiles ever so sweetly to my face.
Psychopathic B**ch. I can't WAIT for this confrontation to happen. How DARE she screw with "her" children's emotions like this!
Oh, it's going to be an interesting day for sure.
She asked me many very intelligent questions, too -- questions that show she's thinking straight about the whole issue, and that made me feel so much better. I did apologize for the outburst in the car, and admitted I was wrong to let the argument get out of hand like that.
Apparently Pinky has called just about every family member to tell them that i'm evil. Most of them simply hung up on Pinky, because they, too, know how she tries to manipulate everyone. One or two think she must be using again. Time will tell...
I had to laugh at that one, since (a) I didn't call her anything at all and (b) Aside from the badmouthing, I actually don't think she's a bad mother - just a stupid human being. And I didn't even call her stupid! (I did call her Jodi Arias, however. And she's so stupid she thought I meant the murder part. LOL)
I think she was projecting when she used the term "bad mother." Where else could that have come from?
My husband told me to block her phone number, so we'll see what happens next.
She has been taking math classes to earn her GED, and it really seemed as if she was finally working toward her goal of getting the GED, a job and a place to live.
Out of the blue when she called Thursday night, she sounded high to me, but I couldn't be sure. Then, again out of the blue, she became SO angry when I told her it would be majorly inconvenient to pick her up at the bus on Sunday morning. She has never, ever, been disrespectful or nasty to me unless she was using -- so my husband, her brothers, her mother and I think she's back on the pills.
My husband just called to talk to me about it (it always takes him a couple of days to process negative events. LO) He wants her out of our lives at least until we see what's going on. He said he believes she's using again, too - change in appearance and behavior.
YIKES - this never ends, does it?
On Mothers day I found a mothers day wish that I re-posted on Fb. My GD hurt me because line 1 stated "To act like human beings." I wasn't thinking about my adult children I was thinking about the three I am raising. My GD replied and said, Gramma I had to laugh at line one...Have you met your kids? It's like I have this stigma of my bio kids and not the ones I'm raising. And of course to top it off my SIL liked my GD reply, she who has no kids and keeps marring men who have kids just to send them back to their mothers when times get tough instead of working things out with them.( another story)
You have a good head on you, I've always loved reading your responses and taken what you've posted and applied to my situations and they come out pretty darn good. Keep loving your grandchildren, husband and most of all yourself .