Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
I was just wondering if any of yall have worried about how you will pay for health care for yourself and college for the children at the same time when you in your 70s. I am 52 now with an 8 year old and a 4 year old. I will be 70 when the 4 year old turns 18. My husband and I both work now but I am not sure if we will be able to or want to when we are in our 70s. Right now everything we make goes to care for the boys putiing a little away for vacations and emergencies. Just wondering if any have a plan.
I have talked to a lawyer and have an appointment with her again tomorrow as my husband is acting like a 15 yr old and spending so much money like there is no tomorrow. I need to protect myself financially as well as physically and emotionally. I removed him from my Mastercard today and had my son text him to let him know he has one credit card and a checking account with a small amount of money in it. I suggested he keep track of his expenses in a letter, so he makes sure he has enough money to live on.
I got free Family Law software from a divorce financial planner and have spent the last couple of months filling out the data in case it came to this. I talked to her today and she suggested I meet again with the lawyer. I had planned on doing the divorce papers myself, but because of the restraining order affecting mediation, I need to involve a lawyer to make sure I am protected financially.
The judge will have the final decision. There is a formula in my state that looks at the years you were married and the contributions of each partner. It was to protect women and I understand this as I was once a young mother with 2 kids on my way to a women's shelter with $14 to my name. The experience made me determined to go back to school. I worked full time as a CNA and had my LPN for 7 yrs before going back to school for my RN. I have been an RN for the last 24 yrs. What's frustrating is I will be supporting him because he doesn't have the guts to be an adult, get physically and mentally healthy and get a job.
I did have hope when this first started as we both quit drinking and smoking 26 yrs ago and the next 22 yrs were good. But, I think that man has disappeared and not sure he will ever be back. So my grandkids and I are my priority and I am going to be the adult no matter how scary it is and no matter how much I have to work. I am still extremely blessed that I am not a 24 yr old women with 2 kids living in a women's shelter.
Thanks for your encouragement! No more waiting.