Hi, Hope:

I wonder if it's the calm before the holiday storm. LOL
Nothing new is happening with us - Pinky is popping in and out of our lives again, but no new drama yet, thank God. :-)

Things have definitely slowed down on this group. Personally I feel like Im coming in & writing about the same things year after year, so I've backed off some. Its also like I hesitate to share any positive changes for fear of the rug being yanked back out from under me, but as a Christian, I do feel like alot of that is the adversary keeping me from giving God credit & praise for some prayers that have been answered......for example, right now my son & daughter are both clean from heroin & im 99% sure my daughter is off everything. But there are
other big challenges in the mix now that Im just not up for sharing online. Sometimes I start feeling paranoid, wondering who might be able to get into my posts like this with a little computer search knowledge. This group has been a HUGE blessing to me over the last 5 years, though. Im still here......just kind of hanging back for now.

Hi all - feeling kind of sheepish - I admit that I mostly read on here. I, too, fear that some people might get on here and read things I don't want them to know. This group is awesome and has helped me very much. My husband and I have been guardians/grandparents for 6 years now and I still have many questions. Father is doing great and has relationship with kids, mother does not. Hope all have a very nice Thanksgiving and I will try to post more on here.

I have also been hanging back. Others have expressed my words of paranoia, who's watching? And I dont want to be complaining all the time, venting, and so on. I am also wary of times when things are quiet, waiting for the next shoe (boot) to drop aound home. Superstitious. But I am still here.

And I am tired. Very tired.

This group has been a lifeline for me through the years. Now things are calm. One granddaughter is on her on and has a good job, one is a junior at Radford University, and the youngest is 11 so I have a ways to go with her. She is a cousin of the oldest two. Both of my daughters are doing better. One is successfully raising her two youngest and the other still has mental illness issues from years of drug abuse. I still check in often.

Been here 7years, used to go to grandsplace also. Raising 2 grands , mom has 3 mo baby with current "fianc " he's leaving for a year and she's supposed to move local so waiting for shoe to drop,
Tune in next week when baby momma throws a fit, becomes homeless, or gets married and gets her kids back. Not to be seen includes Getting a job or getting kids to school on time or Accepting Reality....

Thank you all for your responses. I used to feel very wary of my daughter finding out things I posted on Grands Place. But she never did.

We NEED each other. Who else could possibly understand completely what we are going through? I have supportive friends and a very supportive sister, who I am very thankful for, but they are not in our shoes.

Please feel safe to vent and cry and celebrate! I will pray for each and every one of you and your grandchildren. I need this support., and I will try to never judge and to try to help with my experience. I have quite a bit of experience with the legal system involving our GD and hope it might help someone else.

scgramma ... love the humor .... where would we be without it ? This IS a splendid site... warm, wonderful, supportive people reaching out and helping each other.

Pinky wouldn't have enough brains to find this site, but if she did, and if she recognized me, I'd say "good for you. Now you know EVERYTHING about the way I feel about you." LOL

Hey Sara ... is Pinky popping in and or pooping in and out ? Sorry, couldn't resist !

Good one, Fortress! LOL!
We now keep a sheet on the sofa just in case. HAHA

Hi everyone :-)
I am relatively new to the site, I stumbled on it about 2 months ago while searching desperately for anyone out there who could understand what I am going thru. This site has helped me SO much since then. I check in everyday and read whatever has been posted, tho I don't always reply or post.
I have no fear that my daughter would ever find me here. She would have to be able to think outside of her own little world for it to even occur to her that I may need some support or understanding. Sadly, she is too lost in her own miserable life to spare a moment for the rest of us.
GS and I are doing ok tho. We have some issues with his bio dad, but nothing I can't handle. Also we have found out that GS is very color blind. I knew he was, but now I have proof for the school.
I am working on Thanksgiving, but will be off Fri, Sat and Sun. GS will spend Turkey Day with my ex and son, and then we will have our own holiday on Friday.

Beks, you wrote: "I have no fear that my daughter would ever find me here. She would have to be able to think outside of her own little world for it to even occur to her that I may need some support or understanding. Sadly, she is too lost in her own miserable life to spare a moment for the rest of us."

That is the best description of the way the bios are - it would never, ever occur to them that their actions have affected us the way they have. They just don't care about anything but themselves.

I just joined a few weeks ago but reading the posts have really helped and to know I am not alone in this journey. I check in everyday but don't always post. It is quiet here GS is doing pretty good and as long as I don't hear from my son things are good.