Gay Men's Challenges Support Group

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Oney 01/31/2010

HI! A friend wrote to me to say hi and he was "surprised" when he found that I was a closet. I came out when I was 19 and as far as I remember I am out to family, friends and co-workers, so... why did he said that?
Well, happens that I don't have any references to my sexual identity in my blog or in any public profile. So basically to the public I look straight.

Am I doing wrong by not anouncing I am gay? Should I gay-it-up a little? Am I being dishonest with the people who visits these profiles? Should I place the gay banner as avatar in my FB account?

deleted_user 02/07/2010

Then how is your reply to me helping anyone?

And if you want to talk about a different topic then start a new thread otherwise the topic at hand is the question asked.

Which was

"Am I doing wrong by not anouncing I am gay? Should I gay-it-up a little? Am I being dishonest with the people who visits these profiles? Should I place the gay banner as avatar in my FB account? "

My reply stands.......it's FACEBOOK

You using that foul mouth helps no one!!

deleted_user 02/07/2010

You all do what you want I already deleted everything with my account....this was and is my last post

deleted_user 02/07/2010

" You all do what you want I already deleted everything with my account....this was and is my last post "

How very dramatic of you.

deleted_user 02/19/2010

You don't have announce yourself. Hetrosexual ppl don't go and say. Hi, I like members of the opposite sex. It's up to you. There's a space on Facebook to put up there that you're intrested in male or females. I don't put that in. Only my true friends know about me and that's the way I like it.

deleted_user 02/19/2010

Oney,

I think that the option to tell anyone about our sexuality it our choice. I do not always share that with people I just meet. For me, I do not meet someone and think are they gay or straight. That is just not my way of thinking.

If someone is surprised to find out, then it is there surprise not mine. I do not feel that anyone else has an opinion of my life and if they do, I choose not to hear it.

Now to address something that George wrote, I think that the only drama queen we yourself. Because you did not fully understand or read the query you are misinformed.

T3JTL was very direct and honest in pointing out that you have a nasty mouth, and i firmly believe that his responses were correct.

Instead of jumping on someone, I feel you have a duty to everyone here to be there for help and assistance. Not a critical comment.

I am sorry that T3JTL had to try and give dignaty in explaining the query to someone could not be bothered to give the same respect back...

deleted_user 02/20/2010

Yeah I guess I didn't fully understand. Though you didn't see some of the earlier discussion. I wrote a blog on MySpace about being out about my sexuality. And it was about a discussion of this that I had with my older friend at the time. My friend is in his late 60's and he didn't think it was good for me to tell people that I am gay. And basically in that blog I said that I am very out about my sexuality and dont care who knows. T3JTL told me that he grew up in New York and was out too, but he didn't wear his sexuality on his sleeve like a badge. I took offense to that because I am out, and I do tell people, but I dont necessarily wear it on my sleeve. So therefore, he was judging me because I am young, thinking that I am like every other young gay boy out there sleeping around and stuff. So there, now you can see why I blew up as much as I did.

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