Gay Men's Challenges Support Group
This community is dedicated to the challenges that gay men face, both between the partners in a relationship and from other influences (family, society, etc.). Find support and talk to others who may be facing the same challenges, and share your experience.
I know this is kind of a depressing topic, but does anyone else out there have this? I try to stay positive that I'll meet someone special, but it's so hard sometimes. Relationships have never really been my strong suit. I suppose I should make an effort to get out more and connect with more people, but it just seems so futile sometimes. The few times I've met people in my life with whom I seemed to have great chemistry the cards just didn't seem to be right. And being gay over a certain age one sometimes feels invisible; I feel like my options are steadily dwindling. I suppose there are worse things than being alone, but it would be nice to have even a close friend to share the second half of my life with. Ay, me. :(
What kinds of strategies do others of you employ to keep your spirits up?
What kinds of strategies do others of you employ to keep your spirits up?
I believe almost everyone has this fear at one point or another. Some people are stronger in that they can live alone and be just fine with that. I'm in a relationship and it's not too great all the time and I still feel alone, but I have a comfort zone in that I was married and had a daughter and she loves me and I love her and even though she's young I have this faith that she'll always be with me. Don't get me wrong I love my partner but since I've became sick he's not the person I once knew, and I certainly am not the one he once knew either.
I try and try so hard to be just content with myself and comfortable that I could be alone but in the back of my mind I think and I know I would need someone. As everyones different your question is answered in many ways. As for myself and really everyone I wish that we are all content in our later years, may it be with someone or not.
Rob
As my current relationship "drags" itself to an end, I am looking forward to being single again. Instead of putting so much energy into being in or looking for a relationship, I can put that energy into me and the things that make me happy. I think that if I am truly happy inside then maybe I'll attract that special someone and unconditional love. Until then, I love me.
Its hard not to get all bunged up by the scene around you - the bodies, the clothes, the travel - the marketable gay lifestyle. Those folks are probably not truly happy.
Years ago when I was in between realtionships I went to group therapy. The crosstalk and constructive criticism I received was valuable. Maybe try a support therapy group - the face to face dialogue is good practice for meeting and talking to new people.
All the best.
BradM