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Reading posts lately, and then the article eggface (shelly) posted, has gotten me thinking...
We all know WLS will improve our quality of life in many little and big ways... Less pain, more confidence, etc.
But lets explore what it DOES NOT fix.... I think it is important to keep our perspective. So if you would, please tell us...
If you are post op, are there things you thought it would fix that it didn't fix"
If you are preop (like me), are there things you need to accept, things that it won't fix, but you might be fooling yourself into thinking it will?
For me, and I have a feeling this will sound silly... but I am struggling at school since I transferred to the University. I use to get all A's, with the occasional B... Now, this term, my main 2 classes, I have C's in so far and am working like hell to at least get them to B's!! (It's hard for me to even admit this... I am so stressed over it right now!)
For some reason I have it in my mind that surgery and the following wt loss will make this struggle go away! So, I have been working on finding a new way to tell this "story" to myself. Here's the new story: Sure, it might make some aspects of my college life easier, such as getting around campus, fitting into desks, maybe even more confidence around all the young folks, and probably a lot less awkward and out of place in my PE classes... But it WON'T make homework easier! I WON'T make the pressure of succeeding any less. It WON'T make getting into grad school easier... And I need to accept this because if I don't, I will be disappointed!
Anything to add???
Thanks!
Becca
We all know WLS will improve our quality of life in many little and big ways... Less pain, more confidence, etc.
But lets explore what it DOES NOT fix.... I think it is important to keep our perspective. So if you would, please tell us...
If you are post op, are there things you thought it would fix that it didn't fix"
If you are preop (like me), are there things you need to accept, things that it won't fix, but you might be fooling yourself into thinking it will?
For me, and I have a feeling this will sound silly... but I am struggling at school since I transferred to the University. I use to get all A's, with the occasional B... Now, this term, my main 2 classes, I have C's in so far and am working like hell to at least get them to B's!! (It's hard for me to even admit this... I am so stressed over it right now!)
For some reason I have it in my mind that surgery and the following wt loss will make this struggle go away! So, I have been working on finding a new way to tell this "story" to myself. Here's the new story: Sure, it might make some aspects of my college life easier, such as getting around campus, fitting into desks, maybe even more confidence around all the young folks, and probably a lot less awkward and out of place in my PE classes... But it WON'T make homework easier! I WON'T make the pressure of succeeding any less. It WON'T make getting into grad school easier... And I need to accept this because if I don't, I will be disappointed!
Anything to add???
Thanks!
Becca
I can now sit in a booth, don't have a thing to do with school, just a perk of the surgery. No it don't make your world perfect but it sure makes it a whole heap better!
my insecurities.
my desire to please people.
the pain of rejection.
my desire to eat when I'm stressed.
the fact that some people are just jerks.
JJ
And JJ, what do you mean it won't fix the jerks!?!? I am so disappointed! LOL! :) But I do think we can come up with a different surgery for them!
Depression....... In fact I believe it makes it way worse... The meds seem to work a while then seems they don't any more....
Emotional baggage...... Losing the weight actually makes those things come into better focus.... You can choose to work on it for the better our you can allow it to consume you...
A BAD marriage.... Your weight is not the real issue.....
Make closer friendships..... Seems friendships that you had change, especially if you are a woman.... Women act like your weight loss is a threat to them, when it had nothing to do with them.... Some are so vain and do the surgery for vanity...... In those cases I believe that disappointment will be greater than the expectations....
however hers some battles that didnt get better:
It didnt make doctors take me any more seriously when I was so sick from my complications.(i still think my first team was more concerend with there stats)
it didnt change my bipolar better or allow me less meds for it. My eating goes according to my moods as well so its a battle if im in an episode of mania or depression to feed myself properly.
It didnt cure the progression of the arthritis in a couple of my joints either. (they should of given me the age reducing surgery instead lol)
becca this will come together and you are working so hard be proud of yourself for how far youve gotten and holy crap school and plans for grad school. woman you are an inspiration!!!! I want to be you when I grow up / ok at my age if i grow up :)
And thank you KatLin.... Some days I just think I'm crazy for doing this at my age, but hey! What the heck! :)
Lucy