First of all congratulations on 72 pounds! That is wonderful!
I have gotten similar comments like "how much have you lost" but then they add "of course you had the surgery". I have started to lie - saying I'm not sure. The same when they say "how much do you want to lose in total?" I again say "I'm not sure. I just want to feel healthy." The last strange comment I had was "well, I hope you keep doing well but I hate saying that". I am like "what???" So I just say nothing back to those whose comments I'm not particularly fond of but definitely look them in the eyes! It's hard to hear but maybe that is because we would never think of saying those things!!! I think smiling is all we can do and thinking "dang, I look good!"

I get the questions "How much have you lost" all of the time and "Are you going to lose more?" Sometimes I tell the person asking sometimes I don't. I guess they are just curious because it has been such a big transformation for me. I am down 143 pounds in 15 months so I am a considerable amount smaller than I have been in 20 years. The most important part is I feel wonderful!!!

That last comment is a puzzler??!? I think you are right about the fact that we would never say things like that to someone so it's really weird to hear. Dang, YOU look good. :)

For me, if they're people who don't really care about me or that I've let into my personal world....I turn it right back on them and say "it's interesting that you're so aware of how I look" or something like that. I like turning it back on them showing that they are the one's preoccupied with my weightloss. My family and close friends are just curious and supportive so it isn't as sensitive and I would just as easily tell them their comments are hurtful. I think coming up with a response that works for you and practicing it in the mirror or with a friend might help you de-personalize it some. Just my two cents :) I've mostly gotten great responses like "girl, you look amazing!" so that's better I guess than no one noticing the dramatic changes LOL

I agree with Libby that practicing your answer helps. I for one have no problem telling people how much I have shed because I am so happy I don't have to haul the fat suit around all the time. No one has said they are jealous but my potential practiced answer to that one is "why on earth for." I haven't had skinny bitch either but have been called skinny and I just smile, twirl and say thank you! Being called skinny was a weighty memory that I had to release and now I love being called skinny, tiny, and little

I get asked all the time too. I'm a little over 2 months and have lost around 66 lbs since my journey started in February. My body has and is changing a lot and more so now.

I don't always tell people how much I have lost to date, because quite frankly I really don't know. I made a promise to myself not to weigh myself everyday, but only once per week. So, given the day it could be a give or take a few pounds. Usually I simply respond with "I'm not totally sure" with a smile.

As for how much do I want to lose, that is really none of their business, so I usually say "enough to make me feel good and healthy".

I do socialize somewhat on Facebook, but I have not announced that I had the surgery-so many of my friends have no idea until we meet again. This is kind of fun, because next year at my 40th class reunion not many people will recognize me. Then I will be smiling big! Most of those people will remember me very heavy. Won't they be in for a surprise....

I agree with everyone, practice an answer and stick with it. Just know you are doing this for your health and not for anyone else. =)

I actually had someone say "You look good, you skinny bitch" to me today. She was totally saying it in jest. I, of course, told her that I am no where near skinny, but thanks for noticing. I think some people think they have to insult to be complimentary. Kinda bassackwards for sure!

Skinny bitch has become trendy with the skinny bitch products and books hasn't it? I don't like being called any kind of bitch LOL.

First, congrats on your success!!

My responses...
"How much have you lost now?" - I didn't have any problems answering this one. I was an open book.

"I am so jealous of you..." - Nothing to be jealous of! It has been a lot of hard work! I'm more than happy to let you know what it takes to get the same results (assuming the person isn't morbidly obese...if they are, I'd talk about the surgery)!

"Hey, skinny bitch!" - I'm not used to being called either skinny or a bitch...but I will take that as a compliment.

Weight loss has become part of American entertainment. I frequently had people tell me they felt like they got to watch an up close and personal version of "Biggest Loser" as I shrank.

Keep your eyes on the prize...a healthy body and the ability to participate fully in life!!

JJ

Congrats on your weight loss!!!

Forget what they say, you rejoice in your success!!!!

Jealousy, or astonishment, whatever...it's your life, and you have done wonderfully!!

Boo

Congratulations on a job well done. I tried not to let anyone not in my close circle know. I however have a 80yr old mom who has a huge circle of cronies that all talk about their kids and then they all go off and talk about each others kids to people so they can pray for all of us....uggg

Anyway I only share things with my closest friends I even leave out mom as much as possible but being sick all the time makes it hard to hide things.

I have avoided as much as possible without being rude. I have a difficult time editing myself though so sometimes I have insulted. About a year ago one woman who cant understand its not your business asked again at the wrong time how much I had lost ....I actually started bombarding her with how much do you weigh now , how much insulin have you had to take today, are you and your new man rickin the sheets now? How much money do you make a week? my brain went to the most personal stuff I could ask. I felt bad after because I don't normally attack but I couldn't be nice about not answering that day.

Great replies from all. Thanks. KatLin, you made my day ;)

You are doing so great with the weight loss, congrats!!! I don't mind my good supportive friends and family comments, but the gossips and such bother me. The one the bothers me the most, that I bite my tongue every time I hear it, is my very snobby, very overweight, next door neighbor who says "I'm so proud of you"...she never talks to me, but she is proud of me???? I guess part of my problem is that I'm not proud of me yet, because I can't get past how I let myself get so out of control in the weight area in the first place. Head games, got to keep working on them.

love it is hard to get through the emotional........personally I think I will always have to deal with that and the body image and I am so grateful to have a wonderful therapist because I was crazy as a bed bug way before I went from fat to morbidly obese. lol

Your neighbor needs to check herself. Fake people somehow do not know that you (any one) can see through them.........I don't like the I'm proud of you comment from anyone so I admire your restraint from telling her how unimportant those words from her are to the core of who you are. You are doing great just seeing the emotional stuff that needs work is a huge step forward.

Hummm.... lots of good comments! Kat, I'd have liked to been a fly on the wall for that one... and just might file that away in case I ever have the need!

From my previous wt loss adventures.... I'm pretty much an open book. But then, I tend to be an open book on just about anything! LOL!

Pickle, I do hope you find what works for you!