Oh you ar so not alone! We have all had these same thoughts. I am pre-op as well and know exactly what you mean about leaving your kids behind. I just know we have to be strong and have faith and really focus on the goal. good luck to you!

Lol!! Welcome Lurker:)
You sound like your exactly where you should be
You will be surprised how NOT hungry you will be.
Foods I was sure I couldn't live without I don't even care about anymore.
The kicker is I work in a restaurant! The thought of going back to work terrified me. Didn't bother me in the least.
BTW I'm 3 months post-op and never been happier

Yeah, we've all been there with the same thoughts !
I just realized that my family will be better off with a
healthier mom/wife after having surgery. The real risk
is NOT doing something! ;-)

For me, it came down to being more afraid that if I didn't do the surgery, my kids would be left with no mother.

You are not crazy, and you will be fine. Welcome to the group! I'm 12 weeks post op tomorrow, have lost 64 pounds and feel so good! It's not easy, but it's so worth it!

Welcome... Glad you decided to join... It was one of the best things I have done for myself since my surgery.... I wasn't scared of the surgery (it was my 16th surgery), but I take the outlook that I could get hit by a bus tomorrow.... And my chances of dying during surgery are about the same as being in a fatal car wreck tomorrow... I have put faith in my docs and anesthia people and the last thing I usually tell them is: just wake me back up....
This surgery was/is scary... But oh so worth it... I will be 7 weeks out on Wednesday and already see so many changes, and feel so much better... The first couple of weeks I thought I made the biggest mistake of my life because I had NO energy, and could barely get out of bed.... But right about the four week mark, that changed... I went back to my water fitness class and upped my iron supplements, and forced myself to get moving...
I still rarely feel hungry... Food bores me honestly... I spend half the day trying to come up with something tasty to eat, then I can eat so little of it that I wonder why I wasted so much time.... Someone here told me: You used to live to eat... Now eat to live.... I hear that in my brain 100 times a day.....
It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.... Stick with the people on here.. They are amazing and inspirational.... I look forward to seeing you around and hear all about your journey...

First of all, if you don't have this surgery you have a bigger chance of leaving your kids behind, you will be much healthier after surgery when you are off all your medications, cpap, etc.

And something that no one told me before surgery, is that once you are at goal weight, you do get to eat your old favorite foods. However, they don't have the same addictive hold on you that they once held.

Things you won't care for are bread, and starchy things like potatoes, and most things fried. Pizza is not that pleasureable anymore. I consider myself lucky to have had this surgery.

Welcome to the group! Perfectly normal thoughts.....you will be better than fine. Just follow the dream and make it a reality. d

It is a whole new life. I think we all had your concerns. I was just in a hurry to get it over with. It is a very safe surgery now days.
I was to the point I didn't much care about the risk, I tired of living like I was. But all turned out well. No regrets wish I had done it long ago.
No you are not crazy to be scared. Read a lot about it and understand what you have to do. It's worth it all in the end. Watching the clothes get too big and the scale numbers roll down. A week shy of 4 months now and 80 lb down.

You are not crazy and everyone feels pretty much the same way! And I'm not saying that just cause its what you want to hear... it is true, as you can see from all the posts!

Its a big decision, if it didn't give you room for pause and ponder, something WOULD be wrong...

I too am preop. Won't be till Aug for me....

Welcome to DS!! Glad you decided to post! :)

I am so battling the same things. I'm scheduled for RNY 4/12. My adult step-daughter and others are really against me doing this procedure. They don't understand why I can't just diet. I have - I've done every diet in the book and I've been successful many times - but for the short-term. I have 2 small kids and the adults are judging me in the same way they are you. "you're going to take a chance in leaving your two kids" etc. I get it....I'm freaked about doing just that, but I'm also determined that this is my last real chance and I need this to help me.

My surgery date is 4/29 and I am experiencing the same feelings. Some days I can hardly wait and then there are days when I feel I may need more time to think this through. However, this forum helps a GREAT deal. Just about every question I've had, has been answered here. On the days when I'm questioning my decision to do this, I pray and come here for encouragement. I'm not taking this lightly because I know there are risks, but if I'm going to be honest with myself, I know carrying around all this excess weight is an even bigger risk.
I thought I was a little crazy too until I came here and realized the emotional roller coaster I've been on is a normal part of the process. Before too long, we'll be posting our successes just like the rest of the group and the inspiration you'll get here will make all the difference in the world.
Congratulations and I wish you the absolute best!!

GoldenRivers, welcome, welcome!!! I'm so glad you finally felt safe enough to post.

As the others have said, your emotions are totally normal. You are not crazy. Everyone has the same (or at least similar) lines of thinking.

This place/these people have been my therapy. They have held my hand through the process, cheered me on, picked me up, and done the happy dance on my behalf.

Glad you joined us. I can't wait to watch you shrink!!

Jj