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melt down in Dress Barn

elainyanna
elainyanna
I left dress barn in tears! I was happy I could fit into a size 12. But for the first time I looked at myself in a full mirror. I was in horror at what my body looks like. I have fat in strange places and baggy skin all over the place. How could I have done this to my body? Why did I wait so long to make the changes that I have now made? I am just so upset with myself! I am disgusted with myself. How can my husband even look at me? I am so gross! Sorry for the rant I just needed to vent..
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are welcome to vent anytime you need too. I am sorry to hear you had a meltdown, but its an giant leap when we realize what we have been doing to our bodies, but its a giant leap in the right direction. Hang in there it will all be okay.
becca1960
becca1960
((((HUGS))))) to you!

Size 12 is amazing! Try to focus on that... and maybe try talking to your hubby about how you are feeling! He loved you fat, hes gonna love you a much thinner, healthier, happier, more active, you! Regardless of the skin and lumps!
anewelly
anewelly
so sorry that happened to you. I can imagine the horror I look at the flab starting and think the same thing. But my hubby reassures me that he loves me anyhow
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry to hear this. You are right to vent here. From what I've read it takes a full 2 years for your skin to readjust. There is always surgery too. I'm sure your hubby loves you for you, and rarely thinks about some extra skin.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too am sorry for your melt down... I had a similar realization, in the tub. I saw all the skin floating around me.... was upset at first. Then I remembered why I had to put in the "big" tub.... that both my hubby and I fit in now. I could not fit in a regular bath tub for years. So I decided then and there that I was going to veiw my skin as a trophy , and be happy I don't have the skin , AND the fat. I have lost more than I weigh today...

Thinking about you today and sure hope you will feel better.

Robin
deleted_user
deleted_user
I also worry about the same things....but as a friend told me (also had RNY) long sleeve shirts and SPANX are a WLS patients best friends! We are beautiful inside and out...the floopy skin is our "battle scars"...and if they are horrible, then maybe someday we can have them removed. Sending hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
This journey was challenging in so many ways! You are an awesome person. We are beautiful in so many ways!! You have chosen to do something so that you may be healthy for many years to come! Congratulations on the size 12!!!! I know it is a shock to see ourselves in a full length mirror in an unflattering light! But we are our own worst critics. Others probably do not see you as you see yourself! Happy Holidays to you and yours.
Pam2011
Pam2011
Congrats on the size 12 clothes. That is great.
I know the feeling of what you are going through with the loose sagging skin. I didn't think it would bother me pre op but now that I have lost 116 pounds it does. Wrinkled butt, saggy deflated boobs, bat wings for upper arms, saggy innner thighs....UGH! I am mad at myself too for letting myself get as big as I did (270 pounds) and for so long (I've been fat my entire life). I am ok with clothes on but naked I am self concious especially with my boyfriend (met him after surgery so he hasn't seen me at 270 pounds). I would like to get plastic surgery but not for sure where that money is gonna come from unless I cash out one of my 401Ks or my savings account!