Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group
Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.
Well it happened to me....kept putting off telling people about my upcoming surgery and for some reason I let it slip to a friend yesterday. I am still pre-op and don't even have a scheduled date but mentioned that I was on the path. Her emediate reaction was scowl followed by a "I wish you wouldn't!...You should read this book that i'm reading, it tells us about how everything we eat is poisoning us and killing us and making us fat."
I'm just listening to her go on and on and then she starts to tell me about this person or that person who did it and looked great but ended up gaining back everything they lost and then some. "I should give you their email so they can tell you their experience and how they wished they never did it."
Ugh....why did I open my mouth!? I was fine...excited...READY for this change!! Its things like this that make you wonder if your making the right decision....maybe this diet will work this time...maybe I can do it without the surgury!
But then I woke up this morning and realized that all this negativity that has me questioning my decisions came from a person that has only ever had to lose 50lbs at most! And even when they had this weight to lose (according to them) they still looked great to me! They don't know the struggle i've had since childhood! The fact that I have tried every diet and medication I could get my hands on. That I eat really healthy most of the time (i'll admit the occasional unhealthy choice..who wouldn't) that I haven't drank any type of soda or diet soda or fruit juice in over 13 years and still never seen the scale move an inch....people just clasify me as a lazy person that stuffs whole cakes, bags of chips, and gallons of sodas down my throught daily! They don't know that 3 months ago I built (with a team of course) 11 house from the ground up...blood, sweat, and tears for 11 months... 10 hour days and I only lost 2 pounds the entire time. So I am 100% sure that this one person cannot tell me that all I need to do is read this book!! I KNOW that the tool I need to get me where I NEED to be so that I can live a healthier life is WLS!!!
Whew...sorry...about all that!! My tiny comment turned in to a full blown venting session!!! LMAO
I'm just listening to her go on and on and then she starts to tell me about this person or that person who did it and looked great but ended up gaining back everything they lost and then some. "I should give you their email so they can tell you their experience and how they wished they never did it."
Ugh....why did I open my mouth!? I was fine...excited...READY for this change!! Its things like this that make you wonder if your making the right decision....maybe this diet will work this time...maybe I can do it without the surgury!
But then I woke up this morning and realized that all this negativity that has me questioning my decisions came from a person that has only ever had to lose 50lbs at most! And even when they had this weight to lose (according to them) they still looked great to me! They don't know the struggle i've had since childhood! The fact that I have tried every diet and medication I could get my hands on. That I eat really healthy most of the time (i'll admit the occasional unhealthy choice..who wouldn't) that I haven't drank any type of soda or diet soda or fruit juice in over 13 years and still never seen the scale move an inch....people just clasify me as a lazy person that stuffs whole cakes, bags of chips, and gallons of sodas down my throught daily! They don't know that 3 months ago I built (with a team of course) 11 house from the ground up...blood, sweat, and tears for 11 months... 10 hour days and I only lost 2 pounds the entire time. So I am 100% sure that this one person cannot tell me that all I need to do is read this book!! I KNOW that the tool I need to get me where I NEED to be so that I can live a healthier life is WLS!!!
Whew...sorry...about all that!! My tiny comment turned in to a full blown venting session!!! LMAO
this friend of mine is and elderly lady who has always been thin. she can gain about 30 lbs or so but usually manages to get it off as long as she stays away from certain things. The book she read is about wheat and HMO's ?GMO's? LOL! Forget which letters it is. Shows how much I paid attention during her lecture. LOL
You can do it and keep it off, you have to do whats right for you not what people say. Plus its so easy for someone skinny to give someone who is overweight advice, cause they dont have to deal with what we do. They just really dont understand...Stay Positive :D
Reading here though I know we do this for our health and the lasting effects is the weight loss. I know this we live it i have a fear of geting all those obesity related things i had and meds back.
However I think im a WLS snob because when someone tells me they are doing it and ONLY seem to be doing it for weight loss I get pissed and lecture them on it not being a frekin diet and its so not easy and not everyone goes through the procedure with out having issues. In my circle of peeps I know 3 out of 7 have had complications. I guess what Im saying is if you choose to tell others focus on the health issues and leave the weight out of it if its a person who dosent understand that struggle. I only told a hand full of people but I have family who burn up the phone lines with this stuff so I dont have to. Guess Im a chicken or something in that respect.
Forget her! You can do this. You can have the life you want. Go for it, girl! :)