In the beginning I was like this as well, I think its a fear of going back to our old ways, and old self. Just have some confidence in yourself that you will continue to do well. If you are measuring and watching your portion control you will be just fine. Try not to stress so much and enjoy this new life!

~Jessica
RNY 9-23-13

Yeah, I think its because we want it to work sooooo bad and we are afraid we will mess things up! Jessica is right... And learning to listen to our bodies, for most of us, at least in relation to our eating... is very new to us!

Sometimes, for some at least, it is even a fear of 'hurting' ourselves... fear of a creating a leak or breaking something!

If you are eating within your guidelines.... i would suggest trying to remember you are doing the deed... following the rules... and all will be well!

My surgeon explained to me that our pouches are made out of the very toughest part of our stomachs... and that stretching it out of shape is really not all that easy or possible. That often when people think they have stretched it out, its really just because they've learned to eat around it... some foods are easier to go down than others, or grazing all day long... or making high calorie food choices or carby choices... NOT because our pouch is stretched out.

There is even a five day pouch test out there... (you can google it) and the idea behind it is to reshrink our pouch... but what many say, and I believe, what it really does is get us back to basics and reminds us our pouch still works. I've done it... and it helped get my head back in the right place and reminded me I am the one in control :)

You are doing fine! It is much better to be worried you are doing it right, than wondering how you can get around it and eat XYZ as some people do!

Green, I think you put voice to something we all fear.we fear we will screw this up, too. All of us have tried to lose weight and have failed (or at least gained the weight back). We've promised ourselves each diet will be differentbut they all failed. RNY is differentit programs our bodies to work with us, not against us.

We didn't become obese because we were emotionally healthyyour issues are indicative of the "head-work" we have to do for this thing to work long-term. Keep at it!!

JJ

I think it's normal to be a little afraid we will eat to much and damage the pouch. When I was first out of the hospital after my RNY I was very careful to drink slowly and measure what I ate, chew and so on. I was afraid I would damage the pouch, tear the stitching or something. It was probably a good idea to be a little scared so I would stay on my plan.
Stay on your plan and make wise food chioces and try to relax a little. You will do fine.

This thread is very helpful. right now I am on the liquid stage and I see my physician next week for my follow-up. Should move to the pureed stage. My 'food' is so plain right now, but I am almost nervous for when I have to start planning/figuring out my meals instead of just easily following a list. I'm sure you have all been through this, when you have to figure out eating on your own....just nervous about 'screwing' my pouch up I guess.
I am great at following lists and instructions, just not creative in venturing out on my own in this new life change.
Thank you everyone here for the support. Belonging to this forum has been so HELPFUL for me!