Pictures. Other's comments. Those were my two biggest helps. When changes are happening so fast, we truly don't see them. By gracefully accepting compliments, we are acknowledging the truth...even if it is only seen through the eyes of another.

Like raising a child, we still really truly need the comments of others (like parents to a child) to instill the reality of our changes in our minds. We are not capable of seeing the change for ourselves. Our norm is no longer our norm, so we need to begin to understand it from a stable source...other people whom we respect.

Learn to accept the compliments. To play them down devalues the hard work we put forth, belittles us and calls those we respect liers.

We've done enough of those things in the past. It's a new day! Let yourself shine!

Blessings!
Spotz

Affirmations. Look in the mirror and say positive things about yourself and your body. Out loud. Choose a few to say every day. You need to rewrite the scripts that run in your head saying you're fat, you're unattractive, etc.

Google weight loss affirmations for ideas.

Good luck!

Still working on that one myself. I'm 8 months out now and just recently started to walk into regular size clothing stores without feeling like an imposter. I think it just takes time and lots of reassurance.

I agree. Pictures and other people helped me get a more realistic view of myself.

I had a dear friend who helped me learn how to dress my new body. Working out helped me connect with my new mobility, strength, and sense of space in a room.

I kept a pair of pants and a shirt from my largest size and tried them on when I felt "fat."

Time helps. Talking here helps. Friends help.

(hugs)

JJ