you will feel better and it will show...................through your stride, your personality, and your spirit ( you will glow)

It's funny, my family doesn't believe my personality has changed but the people at work do. I am more confident and assertive (good thing, since I am the boss) and they are all having to make adjustments. I'm less likely to excuse problem behavior and more willing to be up front.

My hubby and kids have no complaints. I have more energy, am more excited about life, and happier with myself.

The psychologist I saw at the beginning of this process said that, in general, after surgery good relationships get better and weak relationships get worse.

JJ

Happier, more confident definitely. Feeling good!

I think you can't help but change. Everything about you is just different.

I was always a talkative extrovert. Believe it or not I am even more so now. I am more self confident and happier! It shows in my life and the way I am. I am not content to sit by and watch anymore. I want to be out doing things and enjoying life. Meeting new people. Having fun!

People treat you differently too as a skinny person.

Relationships change. Some change and survive some don't. It's just the way it is.

It's just the way it is! LOL

but it is all good! As opposed to being a fat slob

I just love being skinny and fit

Lu

I think your personality does change, and agree with all of the above comments. I also think it had a tendency to alert the personality of the person you were in a relationship with. I say this coming out of a 6 year relationship that just ended. The psychologist that did my pre-op testing said to me..."GBS changes the dynamics of most relationships in your life whether personal or professional. It will make good relationships better and bad relationships worse." Certainly doesn't apply to everyone, but it rings true for me.

I really hope my personality changes after...

Right now I am always down and sad and I am not happy just being me.

I want to leap out of bed and smile in mirrors and love myself and feel pretty!

I am too much of a grumpy butt to enjoy life as I know I should.

As I know in my heart I really want to!!

I do feel that my personality has changed. It has changed b/c I actually care about me. As mentioned by everyone you do have a better self-esteem about yourself that radiates and transcends to those around you. I take pride in how I look.
I dont treat people any indifferent. I feel like I am not so uptight and can actually let loose and have fun and enjoy my time.

With regards to your partner and the line of questioning is simply fear of the unknown. Relationships can be impacted by wls. Some individuals prior to the surgery feel trapped (like they cant find someone else) and once they see the changes in themselves relationships can be left astrayed.
Or temptation can lurk from attention that you were not receiving before.
It is all about respect, dignity, honesty, and trust. As long as you have those traits you should be able to balance a healthy lifestyle and relationship if that is what you choose to do.

Best Wishes Mike.

I do not think I have changed one bit. Even though I was obese before I still had a lot of confidence. Just my appearance and of course my health changed. I am still the same girl I was before surgery.

I think some people change after surgery b/c they were never content/happy with themselves in the first place. As long as you are confident and know yourself before surgery, I don't think you will change.
I know I have always loved myself (as corny as it sounds) so i don't need to lose weight to feel differently.
I would think your changes will be in a positive direction!

well i am glad you all are here you are so helpful.. I thank you all for your input ... it has helped. I just let her reed all of them....

The big question here will be If she sees changes on you? because you might feel you did not change but for her you might have.attitudes that you did not have before or answers that she does not expect.
Best thing to do is talk about it like you are doing it
Whising you the best!

People tell me that I've changed and that my personality has changed.. they say I'm HAPPIER and that my personality has changed for the better - I must've been a real big BITCH before. HAHAHA!

Krista