Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group

Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.

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lineka 03/02/2012

Everything in my life lately had been going great. Yesterday my son, who I am very close to and my biggest fan, told me he is moving from Texas to Iowa. It is so far away. He lives now about 90 miles and we can see him at least once a month. Now he will be 950 miles away. He and I have been on this weight loss journey together, He had surgery 3 weeks before I did and was my inspiration to have the surgery. I am just so bummed about him moving. it is a good job offer but I also worry about him changing jobs in this economy. I guess I am selfish too for not wanting him to be so far away. He lived out of state once before and it nearly killed me. Thanks for the shoulder to cry on, if I say anything to my family they think I am not supportive of him.

Pam2011 03/02/2012

Sorry to hear your son is moving but you can plan trips to fly and see him or each drive 1/2 way to visit for a weekend possibly? You can also skype him on the computer too!

deleted_user 03/02/2012

Your post hurts my heart... I can literally feel your pain. I know I can't take it away, but I can and will pray that the adjustment gets easier. {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this, but happy your son has a new opportunity. I know how you feel my oldest joined the Navy and now will be stationed in San Diego, we live in Kentucky. I know I will miss him terribly but I know that it's best for him. I will be praying for you. (((((hugs)))))

My3Sons652 03/02/2012

Ugghh I can feel your pain too. I have three boys and I'm sure someday one of them of all will move away. It's so hard to let them go. Sorry your going through this. :(

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I know how u feel as a mom u always want to keep ur kids close to you...but sometimes we need to let them venture off and fulfill some of the things they want to do in life...but as long as they know that mom will support them and be there for them it will make it a lot easier...you will find a way to keep in contact with him.. As mentioned earlier Skype is awesome in these instances. I will be praying for you.. My son is in the Army and I miss him dearly and even though he is miles away he is still my # 1 fan

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I am sorry for that heart breaking information you have receieved from your son I can understand your closeness as I can say my mother is truly my best friend. I am sure that your son is going to miss having you closer as well, Hopefully you can connect often either by visiting, internet chat, telephone and just continue to support each other sounds like he is trying to do the most resposible thing for himself by gaining a better oppurtunity, I can understand that you are supportive of him you just love him and want him to be closer. *hugs*

deleted_user 03/02/2012

My heart goes out to you cause I am very close to my Son as well. He is 18 and just had an interview for a firefighter job in the next town over which is about 40 miles away but seems like hundreds due to we are so close....Prayer helps, I know I learned how to pray the first time he moved out at 17 when he wanted to try life on his own...It was so hard but God will be your stength... You are in my prayers as well as your son. Francis

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I, too, have a son who joined the army, did 2 tours in Iraq and now lives in Texas (I'm in Wisconsin). I feel your pain. I have felt with it for so long I would gladly take your pain from you, but it will only be some miles that will separate you. Hold him very tightly in your heart and know that he will do the same. I will pray that you will find peace.

imjj4short 03/02/2012

I'm so sorry you are going through this, hon!! You must have done a wonderful job as a mother to have such a wonderful relationship with your adult son.

JJ

Kathy082411 03/02/2012

Dislike!! I have four adult children and they all live within 5 to 20 minutes of my home. I can't imagine living so far away, but somehow you will manage! (Skype would probably be a good idea.) {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I can completely understand your pain. Its difficult when our children are so far away. My youngest child was in a car accident last night, nothing too severe, but enough to rock & roll him around. He's in horrible pain and immediately called mommy.

I'm 900 miles away and felt so helpless. :( Know that we're here for you.

Laurie

deleted_user 03/02/2012

oh, lineka, my heart hurts for you. my son lives 5 miles from me, but because his girlfriend hates me, he will not see me or they will not let me see my grandson. She put it out that it was her and their son or me. Of course he chose his son, but it still hurts. My daughter lives in North Carolina and we talk on Skype every week and I get to see my grandsons too. I haven't seen her in 4 years, but seeing her on Skype makes it easier to bear. Hugs to you.

deleted_user 03/02/2012

Aww I'm sorry Lineka. I know how you feel, first time my only child moved it was clear across the country and she was only 20! Broke my heart, I swear I cried everyday for a month. I'll be praying for you. On a brighter note, think of how amazing it will be to see each other later in your journeys :) "HUGS"

deleted_user 03/02/2012

I am sorry that you are struggling with your sons possible move. I say possible because, I think we all have a plan and a purpose and if it is not meant to be then it won't happen. I can totally understand your sadness though, if my daughter moved far away it would be very difficult for me.

janeekay 03/02/2012

I understand your pain, as a mother I think we all know how it feels when one of our babies moves away, I have three and they all live far far away from me, it was hard at first, but we skype and text all the time, and get together when we can, Take Care, Hugs Janeekay

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