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I was asked out to dinner this afternoon, and have agreed to said dinner engagement for this Thursday evening.
I am slightly excited, and a bit hesitant and dreading it at the same time.
I am 8 months out ... the man who asked me out doesnt know about my surgery or the little bit of no food I am still eating in one sitting. One dinner out easily feeds me for 2 or 3 more meals. We are having Indian, which I LOVE, and there are choices on the menu that are good for me post-op. So, the food is not the problem, it the awkwardness of not eating thats the problem.
So, back to the question that has been posted here many times ...
Do I discuss my surgery with him, which I really do not want to shape all of the conversation of our first date, or not? Do you think that it matters to men that I've had gastric bypass? That he would think negatively of it and no longer be attracted to me? Why do these things even need to matter?
Ugh. I want to date. I feel great. I look terrific. I want to do this. Why does this have to be so complicated?!?!
I am slightly excited, and a bit hesitant and dreading it at the same time.
I am 8 months out ... the man who asked me out doesnt know about my surgery or the little bit of no food I am still eating in one sitting. One dinner out easily feeds me for 2 or 3 more meals. We are having Indian, which I LOVE, and there are choices on the menu that are good for me post-op. So, the food is not the problem, it the awkwardness of not eating thats the problem.
So, back to the question that has been posted here many times ...
Do I discuss my surgery with him, which I really do not want to shape all of the conversation of our first date, or not? Do you think that it matters to men that I've had gastric bypass? That he would think negatively of it and no longer be attracted to me? Why do these things even need to matter?
Ugh. I want to date. I feel great. I look terrific. I want to do this. Why does this have to be so complicated?!?!
later on when you feel like it you can tell him why you have a small appetite and must eat small meals
val
Good luck and have a great time !!! Let us know how it turns out.
BTW, which dishes are good for us WLS people?
Enjoy,
Colleen
Laura
I agree with Hoping2lose, he won't notice :) Try and remember to eat slowly, that's one of my biggest flaws when dining with people who don't know.. but otherwise, decide if you like him first and then go from there..........
Have fun!!
Tandoori, lentils and anything with chickpeas will do it. Some Indian restaurants concentrate on quality flavour and not quantity at all (most, excepting buffets) - you will be fine with smaller portions.
If he had a vasectomy (a surgery which is sort of reversible which is a private choice and effects his whole life) - would you need to know on the first date? Absolute disclosure is not common courtesy or common sense. You can be all about it if you wish or if your conscience requires that, but this is not a social nicety - it's personal information between people who have a relationship. Once / if you get there, then of course, do what your conscience dictates.
Some could and would tell all on the first date. I say: depends on your heart and comfort.
And. You GO you hot little mama.
Love.
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I find the most awkward part of restaurants to be the wait staff who insist that there is something wrong if you do not pig out on the food. I hate trying to convince them that everything is fine...by ordering the box sometimes I circumvent that delicate situation.
IMHO - Don't sweat the small things.
I hope your date goes well. :)