Gastric Bypass Surgery Support Group

Gastric bypass (GBP) is any of a group of similar operative procedures used to treat morbid obesity, a condition which arises from severe accumulation of excess weight in the form of fatty tissue, and the health problems ("co-morbidities") which result. If you are considering gastric bypass or have had it, join the community where we share our experiences and find support.

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Thepbourn 02/13/2013

I woke up this morning on an absolutely positive note but returning home I am in a royal slump.

I had a horrible day today because i feel like i failed miserably at loosing the pre-op weight - Funny how I felt okay about me until I ran into a friend i hadn't seen on the joy in months and she told me she heard I was having the surgery to my dismay because I only told those I wanted to know.

Needless to say, she literally begged me not to do it and suggested i try it on my own. I wanted to scream because if that was the case my name would be twiggy and not Tami. We talked and she said it looks like you're already started to come down, well duh I have but certainly not a lot. For the first time in weeks i felt like i could have tried harder to get more off than I have. Not sharing that disaster i lost to gain some back (enough said) I spoke to my nutritionist and she said not to worry about it if i could do it on my own........................

I truly haven't felt depressed and anxious in a while and i pray this passes cause i don't like it. My chest feels like a ton of bricks is in it (the anxiety part). I wish like nobodies business i was getting up tomorrow and heading into surgery but i have a few weeks left to go. This emotional roller coaster sucks massive turds.

I am rambling on in venting formation because i simply need to clear my head - sorry I realize this too shall pass. Please God, just hurry and thank you.

deleted_user 02/13/2013

yeah people can be a real buzz-kill!!!
sorry it ruined your good day :-(
BUT!,...we are here to cheer you up
heres a joke
a priest a rabbi and a muslim walk into a bar
and the bartender says 'what is this a joke?''
**rimshot**
anywhoooo....you just keep on keepin on!!!
and we wil be right here the whole time!!

anewelly 02/13/2013

Its hard. I recently had someone tell a mutual friend of ours that I haven't went down in weight at all and she didn't think that the surgery worked for me. I was pretty solid when I went in and am really loose now. I am down a lot and when the mutual friend saw me she said that she could see the weight loss

SgtSmith 02/13/2013

My sister had a fit when she heard I was having the Roux En Y. She says You gonna die! I told her I was dying anyway! Once I decided there was no changing my mind. The surgery was worth it. It is a new lease on life to me.
Don't let other folks get you down. After all it is your life you are saving.

deleted_user 02/13/2013

Tami - so sorry. Sometimes we're not sure who our real friends are.

Hang strong my friend - only you know what is best for you and you have made your decision. There are many doubters out there, but stay true to your heart and know that you WLS family is here for you.

Diana

becca1960 02/13/2013

Oh poop! I hate it when people rain on our parade!! Grab your umbrella, rain slicker and rubber boots so it will run off and not soak in!!

(((HUGS)))

My3Sons652 02/13/2013

At know I've learned there is always someone out there that is going to pee in your Cheerios! Don't let them get you down. You are so close to surgery. Tomorrow is a new day, stay positive and focused. You've got us here cheering you on!!

deleted_user 02/14/2013

Tami...

Hang in there! Silver linings are ahead! Several weeks ago I was ready to pull the plug on surgery because I had such a traumatic day with one of my sisters and my mom...today my mom told me she was looking for a flight to come up here to help me recover...things do turn around if you just let God do His thang...I am so happy she is coming up I could just cry...I know she doesn't like the idea of surgery, and your friend either...but they haven't lived our life so they don't know where we stand in all this...

Keep your head up! God is smiling down on you, you have Favor with our Father!
BLESSINGS!!!
Tracie

Thepbourn 02/14/2013

Good morning everyone and thank you so much for all you've said here. I went to bed a little down last night and not doing too much better this morning but I know this feeling will soon be gone. I'm just a little heavy hearted right now but i am not turning back - i've come to far.

Picklelilly 02/14/2013

I know its hard not to let others influence what we think but you are a strong, intelligent lady and are making decisions that are right for you. I don't understand how people feel its ok to say things like that, I've never been one to deliberately stick my nose where it doesn't belong but there sure are alot of people out there that think its ok. I think sometimes people have their own reasons for raining on our parade...jealousy, insecurity etc. Love, Kathy

deleted_user 02/14/2013

Tami there will always be the naysayers and the crepe hangers you must be confident in your decision to proceed with wls. You are having this surgery to save and enhance you life and the choice was made after much research and deliberation, and was not made lightly. Your path is YOURS AND YOURS ALONE to determine. Have the courage to change the "thing" you can. Best to you. d

Pam2011 02/14/2013

You have to do what you have to do. No one else can make the decision for you about WLS. My Mom was worried about me having sleeve surgery. I told her I had been fat all my life and had tried every diet there was and had never been successful. My knee was hurting worse and worse due to my weight and if I continued to weigh what I did what would happened to me. I also told her if the surgery is so risky why are there so many nurses at the hospital I had it done having WLS with my same program. That quieted her down. I was deteremined to do this and not have anyone talk me out of it.
I hope today goes better for you. I know sometimes you work so hard and don't think the day will come when you get that surgery date and insurance approval but it will come for you. Keep your head up girl!

deleted_user 02/14/2013

Tami, you just stomp that ol' devil right back into the ground where he belongs! Remember, it's the principalities and powers of darkness we fight, no matter who they use to try to keep us in bondage. You are going to live free, girl! Not just of the wieght but of all yuck that weighs you down. You know the Lord has you covered. You keep smiling and believing:)

minkmoxie 02/14/2013

You are making this decision to give yourself a better life. Like you said, if you could have lost the weight in another way, you certainly would have done so. There will be people around you whom you thought were close friends/family who will try to knock you down. Focus on those people who are supportive. If you've done the research, you know that there are always risks to any sort of surgery. You just need to be the best prepared you can be beforehand. Stay strong and focused on yourself in this - you can do it.

Lucy
RNY 11/1/11

deleted_user 02/14/2013

Tami- Just want to offer my support to you here. Like you, I told very few people that I was doing RNY in advance. I am pretty visable in my community, so people know that I have been out of pocket, as they haven't seen me and my mom is here helping me and is driving my son around. And luckily, I had my gall bladder removed and it was a great starting story.

Anyway, I saw someone tonight and told her- and her response was- Oh, I didn't know. My response was- I didn't tell many people because after the fact, no one will tell you what they might have thought about telling you before you do it. She stopped for a second and said- true ;-)

I've also had people tell me- I could never do what you are doing. My internal response- WHAT????? You weigh 120 pounds, of course you could never do what I'm doing!! That's the part that they don't get.

I was always, always, always hungry before RNY. At just over 4 weeks out, I am hungry only when I am hungry.

Like others have said- be true to you. This is really about you, you, you. While it sounds like you have great support and loving people in your life, only you can make this change for you.

Stay focused on you. Sending you a big hug.

Sally the cat ;-)

Thepbourn 02/14/2013

All i can say tonight is thank you - your love, words and support are immeasurable and I am truly appreciative. My strength is returning but is it normal to start flipping out when you get close because i think I need someone to slap me pretty much the way cher did nicholas cage in moonstruck complete with the words "SNAP OUT OF IT" my emotions are truly doing cartwheels and my brain is working triple time thinking about and focusing on everything from the subliminal to the sublime. OKAY LORD, TAKE THE WHEEL.

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