Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group
Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...
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I got this off of DS on 11-30-2012. It was posted by Atticus.
Typically, the escape gambler becomes enthralled with playing the slot, video poker, live keno or keno machine. It is exciting, it is fun, it does not talk back, it requires her full concentration. She has to pay attention to the results of each roll; keep pushing the button or pulling the arm; She does not have time to think about her problems. After just a brief period of time at the machine an almost hypnotic trance occurs. She realizes she has found a way to completely forget about all problems in her life. She feels comfortable, happy, and free from turmoil. She may later report that, in retrospect, she realizes she was "hooked" the very first time she played.
The next time she has an opportunity to return to the machine, she has immediate relief from her problems. By the second or third visit she no longer goes with friends or family. They want to leave after awhile; she does not. She begins to go to the casino alone, stays for longer periods of time, goes to the casino more often and may graduate rapidly to the dollar machine. While at the machine, she does not have to worry about anything except how to stay longer and play more often. No one is telling her what to do, no phone calls, no one wanting this or wanting that, no demands, just freedom. Social needs are met. The change girl and other gamblers begin to know her and call her by name; she makes friends with other "regulars;" consequently, she begins to feel very comfortable while at the casino. Other problems are forgotten and she is having fun. She has selected a favorite machine. There are also second and third favorites. The gambler begins to call it "her" machine. If she goes to the casino and someone else is at her machine, she is angry. She will go to her second machine, but would much rather be at her "own" machine. She may talk to the machine, telling it to "come on, pay up", or swear at it, and thank it when it pays, but she will usually go back to her machine time after time. A lady recently said that she accused her machine of infidelity when she saw another lady win a jackpot at it. However, as soon as the winner left, she immediately returned to her machine, forgave its infidelity and continued the affair. Relationships with a machine are very real.
She begins to make plans about her next gambling trip, always specific about how much money she will gamble with, and how long she will stay. She vows that as soon as the money is gone or the time is up she plans on leaving. However, as soon as she sits down at the machine a trance like hypnotic effect takes place. She pulls the handle or pushes the button and all plans are abandoned. She will stay at the machine, often not even getting up to use the bathroom or eat, only leaving her machine to go to the ATM or to write a check, asking an employee or another gambler to watch her machine while she is gone. Even when she wins, she will continue to gamble until she has depleted all available resources at that session and leave only when she no longer has money with which to gamble. Winning at this point only means she can gamble longer. Money is not real; it is like play money and has no link to reality. While playing the machine, she may pray to God to just let her win, just let her get even.
When the escape compulsive gambler is finally out of funds, she is forced to leave the casino. She gets into her car feeling precisely like the action gambler who has just been taken out of action. She may pray , "Please never let me gamble again." She may swear that she will never gamble again, may curse God for allowing her to gamble; she may pound on the steering wheel, even scream and cry on the drive home and have thoughts about driving her car off of a bridge or into an oncoming vehicle (a thought she quickly abandons for fear of hurting someone else; as much as she wants to harm herself, she doesn't want it to appear self-inflicted and she doesn't really want to hurt a stranger). She will blame the casino, vowing never to return. But unfortunately, in order to escape the reality of the problems she already suffers and others she may have just created, she must gamble again.
Once home, she has already prepared lies about where she has been or what she has done, is already making plans about how to obtain more money to cover bad checks she may have written and to obtain money with which to win back her losses. She will probably be back at the machine the next day or very soon and the cycle will repeat itself again and again until finally her world comes crashing dow
Typically, the escape gambler becomes enthralled with playing the slot, video poker, live keno or keno machine. It is exciting, it is fun, it does not talk back, it requires her full concentration. She has to pay attention to the results of each roll; keep pushing the button or pulling the arm; She does not have time to think about her problems. After just a brief period of time at the machine an almost hypnotic trance occurs. She realizes she has found a way to completely forget about all problems in her life. She feels comfortable, happy, and free from turmoil. She may later report that, in retrospect, she realizes she was "hooked" the very first time she played.
The next time she has an opportunity to return to the machine, she has immediate relief from her problems. By the second or third visit she no longer goes with friends or family. They want to leave after awhile; she does not. She begins to go to the casino alone, stays for longer periods of time, goes to the casino more often and may graduate rapidly to the dollar machine. While at the machine, she does not have to worry about anything except how to stay longer and play more often. No one is telling her what to do, no phone calls, no one wanting this or wanting that, no demands, just freedom. Social needs are met. The change girl and other gamblers begin to know her and call her by name; she makes friends with other "regulars;" consequently, she begins to feel very comfortable while at the casino. Other problems are forgotten and she is having fun. She has selected a favorite machine. There are also second and third favorites. The gambler begins to call it "her" machine. If she goes to the casino and someone else is at her machine, she is angry. She will go to her second machine, but would much rather be at her "own" machine. She may talk to the machine, telling it to "come on, pay up", or swear at it, and thank it when it pays, but she will usually go back to her machine time after time. A lady recently said that she accused her machine of infidelity when she saw another lady win a jackpot at it. However, as soon as the winner left, she immediately returned to her machine, forgave its infidelity and continued the affair. Relationships with a machine are very real.
She begins to make plans about her next gambling trip, always specific about how much money she will gamble with, and how long she will stay. She vows that as soon as the money is gone or the time is up she plans on leaving. However, as soon as she sits down at the machine a trance like hypnotic effect takes place. She pulls the handle or pushes the button and all plans are abandoned. She will stay at the machine, often not even getting up to use the bathroom or eat, only leaving her machine to go to the ATM or to write a check, asking an employee or another gambler to watch her machine while she is gone. Even when she wins, she will continue to gamble until she has depleted all available resources at that session and leave only when she no longer has money with which to gamble. Winning at this point only means she can gamble longer. Money is not real; it is like play money and has no link to reality. While playing the machine, she may pray to God to just let her win, just let her get even.
When the escape compulsive gambler is finally out of funds, she is forced to leave the casino. She gets into her car feeling precisely like the action gambler who has just been taken out of action. She may pray , "Please never let me gamble again." She may swear that she will never gamble again, may curse God for allowing her to gamble; she may pound on the steering wheel, even scream and cry on the drive home and have thoughts about driving her car off of a bridge or into an oncoming vehicle (a thought she quickly abandons for fear of hurting someone else; as much as she wants to harm herself, she doesn't want it to appear self-inflicted and she doesn't really want to hurt a stranger). She will blame the casino, vowing never to return. But unfortunately, in order to escape the reality of the problems she already suffers and others she may have just created, she must gamble again.
Once home, she has already prepared lies about where she has been or what she has done, is already making plans about how to obtain more money to cover bad checks she may have written and to obtain money with which to win back her losses. She will probably be back at the machine the next day or very soon and the cycle will repeat itself again and again until finally her world comes crashing dow
Welcome, 2mcdphnurse . . we can all relate to you; let us know how the counseling goes next week..
Regards,
Smokeygirl
While it doesn't precisely answer as to the 'why?' it does provide a good idea to non-gamblers what the compulsive gambler goes through mentally and emotionally while gambling. Thank-you.
Life is too short to be sad all the time.
This site is also a great community for building confidence and support. People here are great.
You deserve to be happy. Don't ever forget that!
Peace, love & blessings
Yet, with counseling and this site I am realizing that I have only perpetuated the problems and added new ones.
Now I must face reality, a reality that I created and that added to the reality that I was trying to escape.
This I believe is what makes the recovery so hard and the relapses likely since I want to escape again and for more reasons now.
The vicioius never ending cycle and merry-go-round to hell and worse if you continue.
We all know that we feel, we think and we react.
Now is the time to learn new coping skills and work the recovery program with all of our might !!
Now is the time to say, hey, I'm tired of this existence and this is not working.
Now is the time to reach out to whomever can help us because we have made is so bad that stopping needs more than just our effort.
Now is the time to look at our life and make some healthier choices and remember what our life was like before because......
Hey, it really wasn't nearly this DAM BAD.
This is probably about as bad as it can get.
thank you all for being with me.
yeah, okay just which one of you was looking over my shoulder and recording this post. Takes me back to hell.
Only they forgot the part where I had an attendant shut the machine down so no one could play until I got back.
Just have to put some humor in this hellacious addiction.