Gambling Addiction & Recovery Support Group

Compulsive gambling is an urge or addiction to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop. A preferred term among many professionals is problem gambling, as few people described by the term experience true compulsions in the clinical sense of the word. Problem gambling often is defined by whether harm is experienced by the gambler or others rather...

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healing57 09/04/2016

Whoo Hoo I made it to 90 days. So happy and grateful. Thanks for everyones help and posts. I know the fight will never be over and I can't let my gaurd down but it should start getting easier.

skip88 09/04/2016

You should be so proud and happy. Way to go.

blkjcklady 09/04/2016

You should be proud of yourself! Congratulations!!!

katmandu34 09/04/2016

Yay! Congrats! This is a huge accomplishment. I'm so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself too. Keep up the great work. Yes, it seems like a ton of work but you are well on your way.

healing57 09/04/2016

I thought today would be a good day but it was a really sucky day. I feel like gambling and I feel a lot of self hate and all that goes with that. The thing that I need to learn but have not learned yet is that you can't control other people. This concept keeps me up at night. I think I need to go to an AA meeting because they talk a lot about this and there is only 1 GA meeting in my area and it sucks. I don't like the format or the way I was treated when I was still gambling. But I really need to get this concept down, it is ruining my life.

Qwit4Good 09/05/2016

Attempting to control others is definitely something that will keep one up at night, as it ultimately cannot be done. Many recovering gamblers go to AA meetings when they can't find a good fit with a GA meeting. It does not take much work to apply the same concepts to gambling in one's head.

You cannot force people to behave in the way you think is best, you can however teach people, through direct communication, how you expect to be treated, set your boundaries, and be willing to remove yourself if they don't treat you the way you should be treated.
People often try to resort to attempting to control others and to control their environment when they feel out of control or on the verge of getting out of control themselves.
Life is much freer without the responsibility of the world behaving correctly on one's shoulders.

Qwit4Good 09/05/2016

Great job getting to 90 days! Three full months! Good for you! As you get more time under your belt you will more easily be able to recognize and steer clear of abusive, controlling and unhealthy people and situations. As you practice giving up control, or realizing that you can not control others, you will get better at it.

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