Thanks for sharing! I couldn't agree more. We are raising a generation that seems to have very little understanding of the value of hard work and discipline. SMH

StillInTheProcess1644

Thank you for the article. I'm paying for my masters degree out of my salary and that cost degree cost me $65k. It is what it is.

A sense of entitlement is pervasive in our society. However, I am a baby boomer and taught the generation that followed me how to live.

Do research on the "millennial generation" and "generation z" to learn more about their attitudes, beliefs, values. And baby boomers...which I am and, Messenger, you are, too. Which may be why we find the blowing away of a $90k college fund intolerable.

Oh I blew more then my share of money. I inherited $50,000 when I was in my early 20s. I spent it all in a year. I'm ashamed of it all. I blew it on sex, drugs, and rock n roll. It was a wild year of my life.

I look back at it now, as well as reading this article and know how easy it can happen. I do have some tolerance for kids with doing this. And that is the key point, they are kids.

I become extremely intolerant of grown-ups, at least by physical age, that still have this sense of entitlement. I admire you Donna, you are paying that bill. It irritates me how so many people just try and not pay on their educational commitments.

I have a stepson who spent over $40,000 on school and he hasn't missed a payment. He is now 35 and start paying when he was 22. I admire him for not falling into that sense of entitlement and paying his bills and now having a good career.

Sense of entitlement isn't just for the next generation... the real ugliness of it all are the baby boomers who carry this sense of entitlement. I have no patience for those folks.

I'm 57 and have been broke way to many times and even now with having a little money, I'm not entitled to anything. I have to work for it and earn it.

I'm 57, I'm not going to ask brothers, aunts, uncles (parents are dead) for money. My responsibility as a child on this earth is to except responsibility for my actions and not be a victim...

I am 57, too. Birthday Nov. 3.

Debtors anonymous provides 12 questions to help an individual determine if they are a compulsive debtor. I answer yes to all of them.
The 12th question is: A feeling or hope that someone will take care of you if necessary, so that you won't really get into serious financial trouble, that there will always be someone you can turn to.

I always had an "out" if I got into serious financial trouble. It was lie I told myself and when that lie fell apart I had to face the truth: I was living and believing the lie. My finances are greatly affected by my
gambling addiction so I have to deal with the financial issues from both compulsive debting and compulsive gambling but I know today that I have to pay the price for the decisions I make; pay the price or reap the rewards.

Today, I know that no one is going to bail me out and that the buck stops with me. I also came to realize that I can manage my finances and my life. What an opportunity I have before me.

I also know that my Higher Power, my God, can always be relied upon and that He or She gives me the guidance, ability and grace to manage my life.

Dave

I inherited 78,000 8 years ago and it went away in five years. All due to catering for my Gran and Brother. I did depend on my Brother and Gran to bail me out a few times, but now I have broken free of 'Financial Incest' and am managing well on my own.

To all those who are considering Student Loans to continue School, let me remind them, "A vision without solvency is a hallucination!"

I never heard of Debtors Anonymous until I came here... the more I read about it, the more I love it... as an alcoholic who practices the 12 Steps in all my affairs, it is great to be able to see the practicality of them working with debt.

The thing about it, which we have seen in the last three posts is that the 12 Steps demand rigorous honesty.

It was so empowering to let go of entitlement and to let go of being enabled and to let go of being a victim and learning how to be and act like an adult, like the Bible says, I put away those childish things.

Yes, rigorous honesty is the best way forward!

btw, That Biblical quote about giving up childish things was on 1Corinthians 13 following the quotes about Love.

http://biblehub.com/1_corinthians/13-11.htm

I came across this blog, and realized it talked about what you were saying. I hope the link goes through.

http://www.liveoncash.com/blog/freedom-from-responsibility-dependence-disguised-as-liberty?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+LiveoncashBlog+%28LiveOnCash+Blog%29

Lupe

Too many kids today are spoon-fed; including yours truly when I was that age; exacerbated mainly by the Fear the Parents had of their kids going broke. (I know I pleaded with Gran to bail me out so often, she would just go along with that)

Now I have to view God as my source, as opposed to my Gran being my source. I just have to keep doing the next right thing.

That is a great article Toty... thank you.

It does show how childish it can be to basically wait for a handout. Entitlement is more then just walking away from responsibility with our own lives but also gives us this sense that we are "better then."

I've mentioned before how I'm in research and development at the bakery I work in... in fact I am in charge of that department. I wasn't entitled to that job. I earned it and I worked for it. My first job at that bakery was washing pans. 8 hours a day of washing pans.

If I had that sense of entitlement, acting like I was "better then" I would have never taken the job of being a panwasher and would have never grown with the bakery - spirituality, financially, and career wise.

Being entitled makes you live in a bird cage waiting for the seeds to drop in to feed you... always relying on someone else. Like the article says, it keeps you a teenager. And the older a person gets, the uglier that teenager becomes.

Who wants anything to do with a 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 year old teenager? I raised my kids... I don't want to raise another.

It will be interesting in October of 2016 when disability runs out of money and deductions will need to take place. There have been plenty of warnings about the possibility of reductions in these benefits but how many have gotten prepared for it? I bet very few because, well, they are entitled to it...

I agree 100% some people do get giving things on a plate from there family, while some of us prefer to work hard for what we have. I sometimes wish I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth but I wasn't, but yet I am proud of what I have achieved to far in my life.

I would rather stick to all my coupon sites, saving money how ever I can!
http://www.wowfreestuff.co.uk/

People do not know what to do with money.

What gets me angry when it comes to disability is that I have seen a few able bodied people get awarded disability benefits when its clear that they are still physically capable of working a job.
Within the past two years my wife had a virus attack her heart and ended up taking 55% of her heart capacity away from her. 2 weeks ago she had an AED defribelator put in above her heart. Man she struggled just being able to walk. She has held good jobs throughout her life leading up to this and is someone who has paid enough money into the system. She is someone who needs it. Sadly all these con artists stating they have mental problems and others feigning injuries(trust me,i've seen them for myself) have ruined a legitemate deal for people who truly need it. It truly disgusts me. hows that for entitlement?

I understand the frustration about that sort of mentality. Although, I'll have to say, this lesson should be taught to kids because even people in their 20's shouldn't be acting that way. Once a person reaches the age of an adult, it's their responsibility through the lessons they learned as a child, to achieve success. As for the girl who inherited $90,000 for a college education, I could again feel your frustration because I know many other people who if given the same situation would make much better use of that money.

I was thinking that it is none of my business what other's do or do not do with their money, or how they get their money. I so want to have an opinion, and I do, but I first have to focus on keeping my own nose clean.

I recall a situation where I knew of a very able bodied person who was receiving rental assistance and had an apartment that was four times the size of mine, had no utilities to pay, a washer and dryer, a master bedroom and paid about $130 a month. I on the other hand, work. And pay my rent from my paycheck, use quarters to purchase a load of laundry, and pay my utility bills. There is a sense or feeling of unfairness. I work hard. That person did not work at all and had much nicer things that I have.

Well, life is never promised to be fair. And it is not. And I get to pay for these things.

I think it is in the Big Book of AA or other 12 step recovery literature that talks about comparing myself to others. There will always be those who have more and those who have less. In either situation, I am better or worse, good or bad, higher or lower than others to whom I compare myself. When that happens I either get egotistical or my self esteem us lowered.

So, it seems like I just need to work on me, and not worry about others.

I have more money than some, less than others, but I own what I own.