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Morning everyone. It's Wednesday and as usual I'm up wayy too early. Except this week I also need to do it tomorrow. And my period started yesterday. Is this week over yet? I have to bring Miki to my parents house today in case my dad comes up for the rest of the tree...all the big pieces are mercifully gone and he should just leave the few smaller pieces for me to throw into the woods, but it's 50/50 whether that'll happen. Yesterday he called and asked if he could let Miki out in the backyard with his dog, I said sure because I was going home to walk her like an hour after he left. It was a big thing explaining the new doorknob on the back door, you have to unlock it to open it from the inside and he was convinced he needed a key for that and it took 3 tries to tell him that if he's in the house he doesn't need a key. I may get questions about why I changed it. And they don't know that I'm changing the front door and deadbolt too. So that'll be interesting. Anyway, I got home and I'm fairly sure he rolled in the damn wood shavings because they were all over the house. I had to vacuum my living room. This is the other reason I'd like a heads up if he's coming, so I can mentally prepare myself..
So today I have a weird set of facts on psychopathy. I looked it up yesterday because I was reading a book where a character was revealed to be a psychopath, and I didn't know what the difference was between psychopathy and sociopathy. This stuff is fascinating in a morbid sort of way so bear with me through this tangent. Sociopathy is another more colloquial name for antisocial personality disorder, which is an emotional disorder characterized by a lack of empathy or remorse. It can be diagnosed only after a person has reached the age of 18, but symptoms must be present by age 15. Symptoms include: repeated violations of the law, lying or deception, physical aggressiveness, disregard for safety (of themselves and others), lack of remorse, and lack of responsibility in work or family environments. Psychopathy, on the other hand, is very similar to sociopathy but is considered a more severe form of antisocial personality disorder. All psychopaths are sociopaths, but the reverse is not true. Traits of psychopathy include: lack of guilt or remorse/empathy, inability to form deep emotional attachments, narcissism, charming demeanor, dishonesty, manipulation, recklessness/risk-taking. They are very similar conditions like I mentioned above, but generally sociopaths are more able to blend into society and are capable of forming some deep bonds, but not quite the same as people without the disorder. They may feel guilty hurting a family member, but probably not a complete stranger-and sometimes their symptoms diminish over time. They can also learn to reduce antisocial behavior and avoid consequences like damage to relationships, job loss, or jail time. Not so with psychopaths. 93% of psychopaths are in the criminal justice system-people tend to think of serial killers and in some cases that's true, but it can also be nonviolent crimes like fraud or extortion or theft. Psychopaths tend to be acutely aware and organized about what they're doing, but they can maintain good physical and emotional control no matter how horrifying it is. They don't (can't) care. They are also likely to come off as charming and mimic normal behaviors in order to con people for some sort of gain-be it to just mess around with them for the thrill of it or something much worse. It's also common for psychopaths to hurt animals or smaller children when they're young, and often the behavior spirals from there.
So yeah, that's how my mind works. I read a book and subsequently spend an hour looking up information on psycopaths. My Google search history is interesting, to say the least.
I hope everyone has a good day, I'm going to leave a cute picture of Koshka to offset the weirdness lol
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Welcome to the Perseid meteor showers, the "biggies" usually every year. (The Leonids beat 'em one year IMHO).AND today much of the northern hemisphere will see 5 to 99% solar eclipse. How cool is that? Your best bet is to be in the UK or norhtern Spain, where totality is excellent before sundown. Me, I'll get a super duper tiny itty bitty slice of it, so little that it won't be noticeable. New...
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... observed a solar eclipse.
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hello?
my checkins were all over the place, literally
arm is worse again today
told 'pain is healing'
someone help me kick that doctor?
hubby and i argued 45 minutes about my new disability
he seems tot hink the lack of huge plaster cast = i'm okay
no plaster cast b/c they still have to get to the surgery site, dumbass! i told him...
he was right there taking notes when doc said this stuff ARGH
physio today ouchies
blessings to all!
Miki, you have so much going on. Hope it goes well, and that you have time to rest.
Leo, wow. I'm so glad you're doing well after your surgery, but your husband is being an idiot about this.
Another day. Work continues to stink. That meeting I had with my boss? She's completely disorganized, and tells me yesterday about how there should have been a 6 month check in review to discuss my goals and expectations in preparation for my annual review. So she stumbles through drafting it--and then I sign it, back dating it two months to when we did have a meeting, only at that time I had no understanding of the review process. And then I got to hear about how there's too much human error, and how I need to communicate more.....as I said, always my fault, never hers.
In the grand scheme of things, I cannot care what that woman thinks of me. I do the best I can, and then I have to let go. I just have to hang in there, which is easy to say and so much harder to do.
Stress is increasing my pain levels, and my anxiety is very high as well.
Wish you all a great day.
Leo, your hubby needs to suck it up and take care of you. It's ridiculous how spoiled men get and then they won't budge when we truly need help. I could smack him. I hope PT isn't horrible, but I must admit it sounds painful after surgery.
ZK, I'm glad you got the evaluation over with, and man you were right about everything being your fault. I bet she's that way with everyone My boss is super mean. Luckily, she works from home now and I only deal with my supervisor. Have a good day.
Well I have my recliner ready for surgery. I'll have to sit up around the clock and I'll have drains on both sides for a few days. The chair is older but still my favorite recliner so I got a memory foam pad and cut it to fit the chair and then just put a small blanket over it. I hope that's enough for my tailbone pain. At work I sit up so I never get that awful pain. I also started cleaning my shower, one wall at a time, it kills my arms they burn with pain.
I got a call from an IV infusion place yesterday, Briova. My neurologist referred me to them and they said they can generally get insurance to approve IV therapy for neuropathy so they are going to try and get the ball rolling for me. If this works out I can start 6 weeks after surgery and see if that improves my neuropathy pain at all. I know I've been down a lot lately, but I have been praising God for lining everything up for me and making big changes in my life. I'm so thankful for this group too.
I hope you all have a good day, I'm overwhelmed at work.
ZK, to erris human. to take responsibility... apparently beyond yiour boss:-( hugs
napped
saw a site for one-armed life hacks
going shopping!
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Leo, I'm so sorry to hear that your husband is being such an @$$. My recommendation is a cast iron skillet to the head. :P
ZK, I think your boss was my boss at my last job. :) Nothing is ever their fault, their communication is good, so it's all you. Hang in there!
Twin, I think the memory foam should work for you. Do you have a little bit left over? You might be able to/want to put a little extra padding under your tail bone. Good luck with the IV therapy!
The cleaning lady came today, so now my house smells nice and is clean again! We'll see how long it takes the dog to mess up his areas again. :P I've already been to the gym (DH was in a hurry to get out this morning) so my main goal for the day is completed.
Feel better everyone!
I spent part of the morning sorting out how to get a Swiss death certificate for a female relative who served in WWII. She was a translator with the RAF and worked at Bletchley Park (which is where the Egnima code was broken). I can't access her military records without a death certificate. She contracted TB from working long hours at Bletchley and crowded living conditions. She went to a famous sanitarium in Davos, Switzerland to be cured. Died there in 1949. The funeral home that handled her remains has offered to assist me. I have to run by the post office later and send them what they need to get the certificate.
Meanwhile, I am honing the portion of the family tree that I need to print in triplicate. I am hoping to start downloading the book in the next few days. In the interest of saving time and reams of paper I am going to cull some of the information. My cousins have no idea how time consuming genealogy is and how much information gathering it entails. They'll get the really important bits.
We are supposed to have the twice post phoned dinner party this weekend. I'm going to ask my partner to hold off until the weekend after Easter. Between the fish fry, weather side effects and getting these books ready I don't have time to clean and do everything that I want done now. I think that he'll be OK with it.
Leo - Have your PT therapist go over your limitations *again* with Hubby. I can't tell you how pissed off I was after gall bladder surgery to come home to a really smelly litter box. You can't do everything right now. I'm sorry that your arm is so painful. I hope that PT isn't too terrible today. And, that you find the stuff that you need for some hacks to make things easier. Hugs!
Zombie - I'm pretty well convinced that a lot of bosses should not be in that position. And, it always seems that a lot of severely under qualified people seem to be bosses. My brother's boss is a class A example. He just put up a motivational sign for employees the other day with a typo. That's the least of his sins... I hope that you can get your anxiety and stress under control to lessen your pain levels. Hugs!
Twin - Great plan with the recliner! I got a memory foam topper for the futon that I slept on after knee surgery. That was one of my better ideas. Next time, I'm going to get an even thicker one. Getting that call about IV infusion had to be a great thing! You've been trying to get that going for awhile. I hope that they can get insurance to approve you. It sounds like things are coming together pretty well. Hang in there because you've got this! Lots of support and sunshine headed your way.
Time to get some other stuff done around here and get to the post office. Shout out to Bear, Maynard, AngelaJo, Milily, Ida, Wonder, Blue and Autumn. I will check back later!
Miki, LOVE the picture of Koshka. Your dad is thoughtless and sorry he let wood chip covered Miki run through the house. Not cool. Good luck getting him used to the new door locks. Based on your description, my ex could be a psychopath. Although, he wasn't a calm person and had major anger problems, and was incapable of caring about anyone but his mother (who had an unhealthy bond with him). He always played mind games with people and manipulated them to get what he wants. My husband may be a dufus but at least he's not a psycho.
Leo, I would like to take your husband's notes and wack him over the head with it. Maybe he'll absorb the knowledge that way!
Twins, great idea for getting a foam pad on your recliner. I'd have another pillow sitting around just in case you need to rotate one or add more cushion (it happens to me). Other than that, good job getting ready!
Holy guacamole, I actually slept! Not great sleep, but SLEEP. That's way better than what I've been getting. And I'm surprised because I went to bed with a belly ache.
The nutritionist told me I need to take in more calories. Tell me something I don't know. She said to try eating more snacks between meals like potato chips, 1 - 2 Tbsp of peanut butter a day, toast with jam, glass of juice, etc. She said to try adding one vegetable a week to my diet and log in a food diary how I do. Starting with cooked carrots.
My shoulder blades and back hurt from standing around, bending down, and folding laundry at the laundry mat for hours. I can't wait to have my own laundry facilities again. And it's pouring cats and dogs today. I've got more than half of my paper done, but I also need to catch up on my regular studies which have been neglected. I'm staying home today to do just that.
Back in a bit.
Leo so sorry your in more pain now :(
Zombie Sorry for all the stress with your boss
Twin I am so glad things seem to be working out in your favor more now, you deserve some relief!
PainedOne always nice to have a clean house its why i try to do my normal chores in the morning, love the fresh house!
Fantod i would never have the patients to do all that ! Good luck!
I hate the colcrys but im doing better than i expected since last night with it. I skipped the morning dose since i had to get 9 labs which was 5 tubes of blood, thirsty vampires today! then had to get my pain med script and get my depo shot at ANOTHER Drs office, got the all clear ive had ever STD test there is and all are clear, i wanted to make sure after what an a**hole my late husband was and he was never tested and with how i had one when i was 5 years old from abuse. And from being raped as an adult never know! But im in the all clear! YAY! That made my day. Then mom ran in st vinnys while i ate in the car FINALLY at almost 10 am i was starving. It was fasting labs. I am now crashed on my parents spare bed they have a room set up for when they need me to dog sit or when i need to be around people. I got my dog snuggled up with me. I took the colcrys for gout after i got back here and i am now headachy and nauseated but so far no IBS flare i took the meds first thing today and so far only had one bout today. My mom has the second part of her hiatal hernia surgery tomorrow please keep her in your prayers. major snow storm tomorrow and they have to go an hour away for it. They normally do both parts at once but mom was so bad it was on her heart and lungs and took over 6 hours they waited a year till she was fully healed and tomorrow is the day . I worry mostly because she has a mitral valve prolapse. The weather scares me too. I wont be with her ill be here with the dogs and thats really hard on me :( Shes my mom i worry :(
Blue, I can't believe your test result score. Sweet! And I tried adding more snacks too, it's not working for me except I can do peanut butter on one slice of bread once a day. Yum. And yay for sleep. I need more, our power out at 3;30 am so that was it for me folks. Once I got up and lite candles everywhere I was wide awake and hurting.
Fantod, thanks for the support and sunshine. And what a great genealogy find. I bet your cousins will be shocked and excited. I know I would be. I hope you have more luck with locating the birth certificate. Good luck on the dinner plans, I hope you are right.
Angela, I'm glad this morning is a bit better, I hope you get over that gout fast and it doesn't return. I am praying for your mom's surgery. I know it must be nerve wrecking not being there. I will pray for you as well.
Painedone, I like getting a workout in early in the morning so I can feel accomplished and done for the day. Granted I must go slow, but I'm moving my body. I'm glad you can rest now and try to enjoy your day and fresh home.
Twins, that's a lot of pillows. I think you're good! lol
Zombie, no joke about your boss being a jerk! I would love to send her to boot camp to get a little discipline and integrity beaten into her system.
Sorry I'm not replying to everyone... I have to run. *cue whiplash*
I went to the pool and my hands and elbows are hurting after, weird.
Thurs the dog goes to thegroomer and I have another dr appt.
That's all i've got planned, prayers for everyone!
My sister and Hubby went back to the Cleveland Clinic today.The doctor there decided he wanted to run the tilt table test on my BIL himself to see the effects firsthand. BP went to 78 and he almost passed out. Now we wait for the final diagnosis. They came home to discover that their 13year old Malamute was dying. Horrible ending to an already stressful day.
We are getting a bit of snow overnight. Nothing major at all. I hope that everyone in the path of the storm stays safe and warm. Hi Mrs Otto (Karan)!