Sorry,using that ugly racial slur is beyond a matter of being angry.See a therapist.Perhaps your doctor meant her comment in a literal sense.I stopped reading half way through your post,you are about a thousand miles past angry.

Speak as you wish to be spoken to and give love if you wish to receive it....all that i have to add. x

wow.... out of everything I said most of you focused on one word/phrase and I did put in the post that it is NOT about race..
I guess I just should not be part of this group I see it's not what it seems to be.

I had a response but decided to "click"

Actually a whole bunch of people have tried to respond to the rest of what you said and get past the offensive word.

I think if you're looking for the bad stuff you're going to find it - try re-reading the posts and you'll find a lot of advice and concern here.

We did respond actually, the way anyone would...to your absolute SEETHING Anger..

You are Most Welcome to Stay..all anyone has Asked is that you have a bit of Respect....you Can Easily Express Anger, Frustration Without the Derogatory, and Inflammatory Names.

breece,

I believe that you are so angry you are unable to control yourself.

It is clear that you are a few steps beyond anger. I would suggest that your first line of attack be on your anger. As others have said here, it is not the world's fault that you are ill, depressed, and in mourning. When you find yourself losing your temper, stop for a second and remind yourself that you are not really mad at that person/situation but at your life right now.

Find something to smile about. Literally! Find 100 reasons to smile each and every day. It does not have to be a full belly laugh to feel better. It can be a puppy or a flower or an old couple or you loved ones....Anything. Seriously, seek out reasons to smile. You will be amazed at how it helps you to cope with life.

As for your therapist. Perhaps she meant exactly what she said. Perhaps you are a bitch. We see the word bitch as a personal attack and something that we would never admit to being. However, Psychology will tell you that some people are just bitchy. It is their nature and they need to learn to cope with it.

So, I would suggest, instead of walking away from your doctor, think about what she said and decide if she is right. Are you a bitch?

If the answer is yes, then you have something to work on. Think about when and how you are bitchy and change it. Only you can change your own life.

If you are unhappy with life then change it. Look inside, study yourself, decide what you like and what you do not like and make the appropriate changes.

Now go out and smile at someone you do not know. You may be surprised at the response you get.

Very nice D, I was not going to touch this with a ten foot pole but your answer made my fear go away...I agree and I feel we all may have been in your shoes at one or more times...anger from fear of the unknown is scary and we all have been scared at not knowing what was wrong.

I look back at those times and remind myself being/acting like this is not going to help me at all...

As the saying goes...you can catch more flies with honey...so being sweet even if it is sugar coated can be better then a sour puss...

Hugs

Sue Bee smiling till my mouth hurts...

The most important "ah-ha" moment I've ever had in life, which made a positive impact on EVERY other aspect of my life, is that if you want to have friends, you have to be someone people want to be friends with.

That's work WE have to do - no one else can do it for us. Sometimes in order to help others find the path, that means offering "tough love" and I believe that's what you're getting here - not unconcern but advice from people who have learned these lessons and figured out how to turn things around.

I really hope you'll come back and read the messages in the spirit in which they were intended.

hi,
i never responded to the core of your post,i will now...you are suffering with the death of your parents,ive been there,i lost my mom in 2005,it hurts,i miss her badly...your also dealing with depression and fibro...two more things added to your anger...i want to let you know that you are going through the grieving process of all 3 things and your in the anger stage,ive been there too....your therapist really had no good reason to tell you that maybe you were a "b%^*$#....when you told her you didnt want to be one...n
now,reading your post disturbed me and alot of folks..but im here if you need me,send me a message,just please refrain from cussing,i dont do it and dont like to hear it or read it..but i do want you to know that i care about you and what your going thru..i have some hope to share with you
hope to hear from you
hugs
amy

I see what you are saying and I like the way you put for people to look between the lines.
@Susanbanthony I like your post as well

I'm sorry that you are so angry. You have been given some very good advice here. If you will just read it and not get angry at the posters. Your anger seems to be controlling you. Just remember, your anger hurts you more than it hurts anyone else.

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