Fibromyalgia Support Group

You're not alone in your pain. Fibromyalgia is a condition that can be difficult to diagnose and manage. If you're trying to cope with pain throughout your body, sleep problems, general fatigue, or other common fibromyalgia symptoms, you're in the right place. The community is here for you to talk about therapies and share your challenges.

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breecee 10/02/2011

I'm so tired of being angry about everything. One little thing can set me off and I know the anger is from not dealing with the fibro/depression/parents deaths.
I see how happy other people are and I wonder "why cant that be me?" I've talked to my Dr about it I told her that I'm a bitch all the time and I don't want to be and she said "well, maybe you are a bitch" and I think she was trying to lighten the mood but REALLY!?!?!?!
I'm so sick of people yelling at me at work (customers not employees)
they think they own the world and everyone OWES them something free. well I hate to break it to them but I will not put up with it and the world doesn't OWE them a damn thing other than an ass kicking. these niggers(not a racial thing people - just a trashy thing) need to grow the hell up and get off the high horse because I'm fed up!!!!
what is it all for anyway why do I stay in this trash infested world anyway.
these people are like cockroaches they breed and infect others with their shit. it would be so much easier to not deal with all this, but I know I'd be hurting dave and a select few other people if I were to do what I want to do.
decisions...decisions.....

deleted_user 10/02/2011

Sounds like a pretty outrageous thing for your doc to say....
but maybe what she was trying to get across to you, in an unconventional way, was that she didn't want you to think that it was CAUSED by the fibro. I myself UNDERSTAND completely what you mean and feel, and I too BLAME my pain for many of my actions and reactions and for being depressed and despondent etc. etc. For, if not for my pain and condition, I would be a different person, indeed.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

I feel that I should add (as I hadn't read thoroughly before) I am unsure of how you worded some of your post and I would not use this terminology myself.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

The Word "Nigger" is Completely Wrong, Just as Is the Word BITCH..and Most (If not all) would Appreciate it IF you would Refrain...you speak of Trashy People, Then you Talk Trash.

You Canot Change other People...Only Yourself..perhaps you should Start There...

Just Sayin.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

I feel very bad as I OBVIOUSLY did not read this closely enough. I responded to quickly, with a compassionate ear to the poster as I thought I could make her feel better. But then I saw in the post the other reference and felt HORRIBLE and do not want the poster or anyone else believing that I understand her feelings or wording there.
This is terrible and I feel terrible that I did not see that in the first place.

steva 10/02/2011

Breecee I hear you. I'm not happy with my life maybe it's the same with you and the people you deal with that makes us all so bitchy.
I try to understand why myself and others are the way they are, could things in life that go wrong or the pain and suffering be the cause of so much anger and self pity?
I'm not trying to beat you up. I just want you to know that we all are fed up with the downslide of things.
But try to be positive and try to think of the good in life.
Please stick around things will get better and don't hurt Dave and me.

steva 10/02/2011

Fibrogram I think you read it right the first time. She is only crying out for help that is why we are here. The term Nigger used in the way she has does not refer to race but of a particular type of personality. Word meanings change over time. I'm sure she isn't refferencing black folks.
Fibro and DR I understand were you're coming from too. Some for thought is needed in piblic forums.
Please give a second chance.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

hi,
anger makes you cuss,i see that...you really need to know that you shouldnt use racial slurrs like that here or anywhere for that matter.i understand you are angry and maybe ready to end it all...thats what i gather from your post...if you want positive feed back..this is not the way to get it....i know you want to be happy,you have to find it,its there..

there are good people in this support group,you can find them to be helpful...i do however suggest you take this post down or write one to apologize for your cussing...just my point of view

LeoX3 10/02/2011

I've been in anger mode lately myself, Bree, I know the feeling... Just remember, all you're going to get back is the same thing you're putting out. Yeah, I know, sounds smug, but seriously, it's the only way I can get back to a good place: To remember that the more I allow the anger, the worse it is for me in the long run. Only thing I can control is me, gotta leave the rest of the world to itself---and to judge not, lest I be judged.
Lordy, must be Sunday, I'm preaching a sermon.
Hope you can get into a better place mentally.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

Well I dont have fibro if you have read my post you know this. But rest assured I have my moments. I can be a male bitch from hell on my bad days. Actually a few DS members have been the unlucky receivers of my tyranny. A little advice if you dont mind. this can be a cruel world and I am not saying it is fair for others to belittle you. I wont reprimand you for the language as I have been guilty myself of some pretty strong remarks. These illnesses can take a terrible toll on us. I know I am far less tolerant of people's crap now. And I was just a laid back old country boy who didnt let too many things bother me. You are right the world is full of people who have a mental entitlement mentality. I know its hard but just try to overlook those idiots. Dont let that add to the stress you already deal with in having fibro. Easier said than done I know. Best wishes. flyboy57

Wonderbaby 10/02/2011

Breecee...

I don't know really what kind of support you're asking for here. Clearly this was more of a rhytorical posting.

As for anger. I had a choice back when things were at it's worst for me. You have that same choice. Anger = energy...plain and simple. I choose not to waste my energy on anger.

I don't know your world. I don't know what your work is like, what your family/friend are like etc. So I don't have any answers on how to pull out of an anger pit.

But I do agree with the others....if you came here for support, please be respectful with your words. We all would appreciate that. For what you don't want to refrain from...use your journal.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

I got one for you all. Anger does more damage to the object in which it is stored than the object to which it is poured. Cant take credit for that dont know who said it. i read it somewhere once. Also anger allows something or someone to live in your head rent free until you gather the courage to evict it. Author unknown.

PeaceN2You 10/02/2011

Anger only hurts the person who carries it around - most other people are oblivious to what you are thinking or feeling.

It does sound a bit like you are blaming other people for what's going on in your life, and as others have said, the only person you have control over or can change at all is you.

I don't care what context it's used in - that word is so hurtful and hateful that there is no context in which it's proper. If you mean "trashy people," then say "trashy people." There is cursing, which is in the eye of the beholder and really doesn't hurt anybody, and then there's "hate speech," and that word crosses the line and is actually hurtful to people reading it.

We all need a good vent now and then - I've never been shy about expressing myself in whatever words are in my head at the time. My customary philosophy is that words only have the power we give them and cursing used as "punctuation" can serve to express the depth of our feelings - but that word - never.

deleted_user 10/02/2011

amen peace/.......ive had a very bad experience with a male who destroyed my house and wrote that word on my childs portriats....it hurt me to no end...its never right to say.....never!!!

deleted_user 10/02/2011

Hey Breecee I have read your post twice and I think ( I am not a Dr or anything just a concerned person) what you need to "deal" with first is the 3 things at the beginning of your post. If you have not dealt with the death of your parents that is adding to your depression and causing your fibro to flare. Your are stressed. You are not taking care of yourself. You need to start taking care of yourself. You need to find someone to talk to and help you with this before it totally takes you over. If you also have a family you need to do this for their sake also. Keep us posted and let me know if I can help. Will be thinking of you.

MAGICpill 10/02/2011

I didnt appreciate some of the words in your post either and will try to overlook them this time.

I will say, ALWAYS ALWAYS LOOK FOR SOMETHING GOOD IN YOUR LIFE EVERYDAY. ALWAYS FIND ONE THING TO SMILE ABOUT EVERYDAY. LOOK AT THE POSITIVES IN YOUR LIFE.

I see one very POSITIVE YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW AND ONE YOU SHOULD BE THANKFUL FOR IN THIS WORLD WE LIVE IN NOW

YOU HAVE A JOB, that is something million of people wish they had and could do.

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