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bluesun
bluesun
I was crying last night that I just want to be a normal 26 yr old... I want to be normal. Matthew (my bf) who has been pretty supportive for some reason said some insensitive things last night, and even worse, today told me that he thinks I'm a hypocondriac! What happened to the sweet man that loves me? I told him about all the psych evals I've already done in the past year while he was in Iraq, including the neuropsych testing. I've done so much lengthy testing day after day by more than one doc, all of them concluded that i'm mentally sane! And they all said that the psychological distress and mild depression all is a direct result of the MULTIPLE CONDITIONS that cause chronic PAIN and FATIGUE. There is nothing that they can find psychologically or mentally "off" about me!! They have searched and searched...there's NOTHING! I told him today that just to make him happy I will do it ONE MORE TIME! just for him, and if it comes back nothing AGAIN, this is his ultimatum: we will get a third person (couples counselor) as a mediator for our problems with communication and lack of understanding, if he does not agree to go, then it's over for good! Cuz I WILL NOT, I say again... WILL NOT put up with unnecessary BULL SHIT from him or anybody that isn't supportive of me!

I NEVER asked for this shit, I don't want this shit! I want my life back, I told him. i'd rather be out there doing whatever the fuck my heart desires! I would be doing all physical activities I love, I'd be working, I'd be going back to school for auto mechanics and chase my dream of opening my own restoration garage for classic muscle cars! But this is the hand I'm dealt, and I gotta play this hand the best I can! I told him I pat my self on the back for the progress I've made whether he believes I deserve it or not! I don't give a flying f#ck what anybody else thinks I deserve, I know my body and the shit I go through and the progress I've made! So if he wants to be one of those ignorant people, than he can F#%K OFF!

Sorry about the anger and please excuse the language...I'm just so pissed!
deleted_user
deleted_user
honey dont ever let him or anyone say your pain isnt real they havent walked in your shoes.and if he is saying that now .it will get worse . sorry for your pain know how you feel.
tloree
tloree
Sometimes it is the frustration talking. If you think about how frustrated we get imagine how he feels not being able to fix you, since that is truly what our men think their job is to fix things. Go to www.fibrohugs.com and have him read a letter to normals that may help his understanding. And this is just my opinion but I don't think you should seek anymore psych test its already been established that is not the problem so don't put yourself through it. Good luck to you and your bf.
Tam
Trish50
Trish50
its so hard when they just dont understand.. my hubby knows im in pain.. but yet its rather old news now.. at first he was very attentive and helpful.. but after so long, think he is tired of it.. I dont say anything much to him anymore .. if i hurt i just go in my room and deal with it.. then they are a bit selfish and think they are left out.. I have always said that if i could take my finger and touch there leg or body and transfer the pain... i think they would think differently... mine would be freaking out. lmbo.. Im sorry bout your b/f.. being so insensitive.. better to find out now than later.. i do hope you can work it out.. takes someone very special and true love to conquer this illness. hugs to you hun... :)
bluesun
bluesun
He said he knows i have fibro and the back injury, but he has this insane idea that I'm a hypochondriac and that if I treat that instead, I'll get way better and the symptoms for the fibro and back pain will greatly reduce to a minimum. I told him he makes absolutely no sense at all! He doesn't know what the hell he's talking about! He was like, "trust me, i've seen what you've been going through for almost 2 years. I know." I told him HE needs to see a counselor for a warped mind! But still, he has been such an angel to me in the past, that's why I never saw this coming. Especially since he read all about the fibro! But that's why I want us to see a couples therapist. Someone needs to be the referee!! Cuz, believe me I have a temper and I am VERY stubborn! When I get mad, fire comes flaming out of me like a flame thrower!! lol
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