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Not sure where to start. My son who lives with his dad is here for the weekend. I have to get him to the train by 4:30. Our truck broke down a couple of weeks ago. My husband hasn't taken the time to fix it yet and when he was going to take the time he decided to go to work instead. I called my daughter to see if she could give my son (her brother) who is 16 and I a ride to the train station. She said no cause she feels that I take advantage of her. So far in the last two months, I asked for a ride to my doc twice and to have her pick up my son yesterday at the Jazz Festival that he was playing at. So now we have to ride the bus. Which I don't mind riding the bus but right now it's going to hurt. I had to quit my job two months ago because of pain. My daughter said she said no because my husband hasn't fixed the truck yet. Said she felt like he was just being lazy. Now I admit that he is a procrastinator. And there are times that he just wants to be with me instead of doing things that he should be doing. But in his defense he works three double shifts and two regular shifts a week. While in the last three months we have put almost 600.00 into her car as well as just Friday I paid for some meds for her because she was broke. I am mom so I always make sure she is fed when we go anywhere and put gas in her car. So I don't know what to do. I will ride the bus and put up with it. One of the problems that she has is that she doesn't believe in Fibromaylgia. When I was diagnoses she was going to college in North Dakota where my parents are. My mom talked to a doc friend of theirs and he said that it was just a basket diagnosis and that it was all in my head. So she has taken the opinion of them over the way I feel and look when I am really bad. She actually told me to day that life doesn't revolve around me. So now I feel even more that I should just hide how I am feeling to not bother anyone. I have never wanted to be a burden to anyone. I made sure when I married my husband that he knew what he was getting into. But things have changed lately and I can't do some of the things that we used to do more of. And I feel like his feelings have changed towards me. Might be just me imagining it. Or over analyzing it. I don't know. All I know is I have to make sure that my son doesn't think that all this is about him and take care of him. So I off to try and dress warm enough, and then off to catch the bus. Which by the way is a hour and a half ride one way.
Funny enough though when we go to the train station my daughter was there. No explanations just showed up. So at least I didn't have to ride the the bus home. So now I am home and waiting for my hubby to get home. Thanks to all of you for listening to my rant. And giving me some things to think about. I appreciate your input and I am so glad I found this site!!!!!
I give you a lot of credit for busing your son home and not making him feel bad.
Now your daughter seems to have forgotten that this is Thanksgiving week. That it is better to give then to receive.
I'm with Andikins. I raised my son to be respectful of his Mother. I never reward bad behavior. If he ever pulled what your daughter did I would pull back. No money, no calls, no nothing until an apology is made by her.
It doesn't matter if she believes in fibro or not. You are her mother and she left you and her brother stranded. That is not right or respectful.
If she wants to do for herself and you to do for yourself that is fine but the bank has to be closed and anything else she asks of you has to be NO.
I would pray for her. She may need this lesson to grow up a bit. Best of Luck, Keleee :)
As for hubby - after you feel a bit better sit down and talk with him in private. Let him know your fears and what your daughter is saying to you. Let him know your true feelings. Nothing is better than the truth.
I'm very sorry you are going through all of this. Hang in there! Maybe do something special just for you - take some of that gas money you give your daughter and spend it on yourself at a spa or getting your hair and nails done or lunch with a good friend. Hang in there- you are not alone.
How old is your daughter??
If she's driving, shes old enough to know better than to treat you and your son like that. Its also not her business if your husband has been so busy he hasnt gotten to the truck yet. Again...NOT her business.
She was being very selfish. My boys were taught if Mom needs you and calls you, you better come NOW, or else the money train stops! I also use the guilt card on their butts, LOL!
Sorry Sue, just my opinion.
Hugs to you,
Laurie
How old is your daughter??
If she's driving, shes old enough to know better than to treat you and your son like that. Its also not her business if your husband has been so busy he hasnt gotten to the truck yet. Again...NOT her business.
She was being very selfish. My boys were taught if Mom needs you and calls you, you better come NOW, or else the money train stops! I also use the guilt card on their butts, LOL!
Sorry Sue, just my opinion.
Hugs to you,
Laurie
I am so sorry that your family is doing these things to you. I really do truly understand how that is. It is a shame that families listen to the advice of other people so called "professionals" and they take it as a fact written in stone. The sad part is, they don't talk to other professionals about it or do any research about FM. My family said I was jsut "depressed" and that "it was all in my head". Although when my illness can be used as an advantage for them and something they want, they have no problem believing me then. Sighs, I wish there was something I could do. It is good that your husband wants to be with you so much. I know how it feels to be shunned by family. I am sorry your daughter wasnt of more help after all you have done for her. I know that if the tables were turned you would go out of your way to be there to help her in anyway she needed. that's what mothers do :). I will pray for you and your family hon. I will pray that God opens there eyes to your illness. I will pray for true understanding. I will pray for more patience, compassion, and understanding. I will pray that they are more aware of how you are doing and pull together to do all they can to take care of you and each other! I wish I could give you a hug. I am truly sorry. I hate feeling so helpless in not being able to truly help except to listen and pray. Just know I am thinking of you and praying for you. If you need me I am here.
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