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seattlesue
Not sure where to start. My son who lives with his dad is here for the weekend. I have to get him to the train by 4:30. Our truck broke down a couple of weeks ago. My husband hasn't taken the time to fix it yet and when he was going to take the time he decided to go to work instead. I called my daughter to see if she could give my son (her brother) who is 16 and I a ride to the train station. She said no cause she feels that I take advantage of her. So far in the last two months, I asked for a ride to my doc twice and to have her pick up my son yesterday at the Jazz Festival that he was playing at. So now we have to ride the bus. Which I don't mind riding the bus but right now it's going to hurt. I had to quit my job two months ago because of pain. My daughter said she said no because my husband hasn't fixed the truck yet. Said she felt like he was just being lazy. Now I admit that he is a procrastinator. And there are times that he just wants to be with me instead of doing things that he should be doing. But in his defense he works three double shifts and two regular shifts a week. While in the last three months we have put almost 600.00 into her car as well as just Friday I paid for some meds for her because she was broke. I am mom so I always make sure she is fed when we go anywhere and put gas in her car. So I don't know what to do. I will ride the bus and put up with it. One of the problems that she has is that she doesn't believe in Fibromaylgia. When I was diagnoses she was going to college in North Dakota where my parents are. My mom talked to a doc friend of theirs and he said that it was just a basket diagnosis and that it was all in my head. So she has taken the opinion of them over the way I feel and look when I am really bad. She actually told me to day that life doesn't revolve around me. So now I feel even more that I should just hide how I am feeling to not bother anyone. I have never wanted to be a burden to anyone. I made sure when I married my husband that he knew what he was getting into. But things have changed lately and I can't do some of the things that we used to do more of. And I feel like his feelings have changed towards me. Might be just me imagining it. Or over analyzing it. I don't know. All I know is I have to make sure that my son doesn't think that all this is about him and take care of him. So I off to try and dress warm enough, and then off to catch the bus. Which by the way is a hour and a half ride one way.
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There is NO reason she could NOT help you...I would at the very least say her words BACK to her a time ot 2...and then a gentle reminder that families HELP each other.
Your husband may just be feeling frustrated that he cannot FIX you or protect you from the pain...wait that one out a bit...I tend to over analize things as well...
I am from North Dakota !! what area are your parents liveing in ??
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Bonnie
Anyway, Sue...your daughter is wrong. She shouldn't be taking anything out on your and her brother. She's part of the family and should drive you(in spite of your hubby not fixing the truck). She's being immature and actually maybe a bit lazy about this. (Sorry...but I had to say it).
As far as her not believing...who cares...she doesn't have to...and maybe it's time to pull back on some of the money for gas, food, etc. That you've been giving her. Maybe she needs to understand that you ARE always there for her and it works both ways!!!
I'm sorry you have to sit on that bus for two hours +....not fun and doesn't help the fibro. DO dress warmly, can you bring some music (Ipod or headphones of some sort??) Can you read on the bus??(Not everyone can tolerate that). Whatever comforts you, bring it! But I think that your daughter is being really nasty about this. I think you need to let her know that you don't appreciate her lack of helpfulness!!
As far as your hubby goes, I think you're just feeling super-sensitive right now because of all of this. I'm betting he knows (like you said) what he was getting himself into. Men don't always know how to react when we most need them. And if you're really worried about his feelings...well, ask him. I bet you will find you have NOTHING to worry about. Communication helps alot!!!
I'm sorry...I wish I was there to drive you to where you have to go and we could chat and commiserate the whole way. I'll be praying for your comfort, your daughter's attitude(!) and that the trip is quick and painless for you.....
Hang in there and please let me/us know how it goes for you!!
hugs, love and understanding....
Morus
Tell your daughter that since she's NOT a doctor who is knowledgable about Fibro she is not in the position to make such a judgement about your illness.
Tell her that the Bank of Mom is now CLOSED! You helped her in time of need. If she cannot do the same then she shouldn't be taking money from you.
It's time for HER to stop being "lazy" and should be taking care of her own financial wories from now on.
No.. life doesn't revolve around you, but you ARE sick so she could show some freakin' compassion!!! You did after all devote YEARS of your life and finances to her upbringing & well being, yes? Time to remind her of that.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but she sounds like kind of a selfish snot. What you asked of her was perfectly reasonable. It's time the girl got a reality check. >:/
I agree with the other comments about you husband. Men do want to fix things and when they can't, they get frustrated, pull back... Talk to him. He'll feel good that you noticed something was up with him.
For daughter: I am an extrememly patient, easygoing mother, BUT, I also have a line. When that line is crossed my kids know it. I think your daughter ran over your line while sticking her tongue out at you. You have tried communicating and she seems to not be open to other ideas about fibro. Taking her to your doctor is a good idea. I would also refer her to websites to read what other info is out there. It's definitely time to put your foot down to her and apply some tough love.
Good luck with all of this. When you get home, take a nice hot bath, light a candle, grab a cup of tea, and relax.
Gentle hugs
love trish
You are not doing your daughter any favors by letting her believe that she has the right to pick and choose when she can help people whom she should love and want to help. The next time she tells you she doesn't believe in FM tell her you don't believe in putting up with selfish children. I also don't mean to be harsh, but I am angry on your behalf. I have been where you are now and it won't get better till you demand some respect for yourself. You are worthy, and we love you. I hope the car and your daughters attitude get fixed soon, in the meantime I am hoping good thoughts for you...hugs jilly
Is there any reason why your son can't get a ride with a friend's parent or take the bus home with a few friends?
Know what? I think we should all send FM brochures to your mom's friend and your daughter. We'll bombard them! That's what I was talking about before....why the heck is it so hard to believe that FM exists? Are we just being too strong all the time not to upset the apple cart? I'm sorry but yes, it IS all about us! LOL