This is a lot like what I go through... I go weekly. Twice weekly. I need that money. But.... Yeah. I see-saw.

Honestly, if I look back a year or two or five to when I began therapy? I can see I made tons of progress. So can the therapist. But...

Why do you need a "why" to be depressed? you're in pain and life can be overwhelming. It's possibly chemical. I mean, hello? That worries me, that a therapist would even say that. Outside the context of "Let's talk through all possibilities based on what you've told me," that is.

Take a break, maybe find a different therapist. If you're not getting anywhere, it may not be *you*.THat's all I can think to offer.

Supportive purrs.

I think you need a new therapist. The one I saw for a while was that way, kind of just wanted to talk and ask how I"ve been. I like structure, a plan on helping me to reach my full potential despite my struggles. It was hard to find for me, and the only people I have found that are helpful don't take my insurance and most of them are also Christian based. I'm not saying they that need that quality, but usually those work best for me.

I personally like it when they try to get to the bottom of how things are and finding patterns, and ways for me to work through them. It seems better when they actually teach me ways to deal and how to treat myself. One important thing I have learned is to tell myself positive things everyday. It sounds ridiculous, but truly makes a difference. I have to empower myself often. Like last night I wanted to give up with the lice, instead I said I've got this I'm going to tackle this fast and we aren't going to spread it. I still feel rundown and like everything is constantly taking me down, I suffer from depression too, but I'm still standing. I may be tired but nothing can take me down.

I'm praying you find somebody better. The therapist honestly doesn't sound very good to me. Hang in there and you will find somebody, it just may require some searching.

I was in my early teens when my depression hit, it was actually before anything horrible happened, far as I know. So probably chemical or genetic, but antidepressants have never helped, even when I've been suicidal. I was hoping to learn better coping mechanisms for things with my current bf. Like how to be intimate with him without having too much anxiety...I'm not sure I can identify the line between the amount of discomfort I'm inevitably going to feel at first and damaging anxiety. I guess I'm leaning towards a break at least because right now between the cost and my body not being able to handle life it's not giving me much in return?

I agree about dropping this one.... why keep them if it's not helping? I agree about trying a different therapist, though. I'm sorry you've struggled with depression all your life.... I'm sure chronic pain doesn't help any, sigh. Also sorry for the anxiety that comes with intimacy. I totally understand that and sympathize since I've dealt with it for years and it still creeps up from time to time. I finally landed a cool PTSD therapist, ironically a male. You will find a good one, keep looking. Hang in there. (((hugs)))

I agree that it is time for a new therapist. Let the new person know what you have worked on and what you still need to get through. Ask that person if they can guide you through it. Make it clear that you are invested but are overwhelmed and need guidance. Depression can be chemical changes in the brain. Maybe it is time for a different med. I will be praying that you find the right therapist. There should be therapists in your area that go by your income. You might be better suited and not have to worry so much about the costs. Bottom line is you need someone trained to help you.

How long have you been seeing the therapist? Maybe you could just tell her that you don't feel that therapy is helpful and you need a break. Tell her the truth, that her approach is abrasive (or whatever it feels like). Let her know you will take __months off and let her know if you want to continue.

It is true that you need to bring up the content that is bothering you. However, she needs to know when you are overwhelmed and in need of support, so tell her. Of course, it's always ok to let go of this one and seek another.

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I don't know much about you, but I suffer from FM, UCTD, and depression.
These are all life altering illnesses. I guess that I would consider telling your therapist how her comments made you feel.
Maybe you could suggest that she provide some education on various skills at each session vs. putting the whole load on you. Having worked in the field, there are those therapists who just come to session and look to you to
talk and carry the session and those who take responsibility for providing some direction when needed. What does she mean by work? What work is she expecting to do? Do you have a treatment plan? If you do, maybe it's time to review it. If now maybe the two of you should set goals collaboratively. It may help at the end of each session to talk about what you will focus on the next time that you meet. Hope that you are able to have a conversation with your therapist that helps to clarify her comment. If it doesn't help and she continues make comments that are not helpful or productive, you may want to tell her that the therapy is not working for you and either ask her for a referral or find a new therapist on your own. Good Luck.

I agree with above...if you feel you have a relationship built that is worth investing in, than let her know you feel it would be more helpful if she gave you more direction. But the reality is that it is up to you to talk about what feels "up" for you to talk about at the time, no one else can know what is important to you but you. Part of the process is learning how to firm your feelings and needs and communicate them. This doesn't have to be a sign of the end, it could mean opening up a new level of depth with her and even better work. I wonder if she said it in a way that may have hurt your feelings.....If a therapist said that to me, and someone did once, I felt a bit hurt and wanted to run. But I sat with it and realized she was asking me to go deeper.....which is hard work. And then there was the last therapist I had who I had great expectations because years before she was the local expert on children from alcoholic families...Seemed to have a thriving practice....so I was expecting her to have some valuable input...she literally for 4 or 5 sessions said NOTHING except a word here and there to repeat what I just said. I could tell she was sympathetic, but no feedback whatsoever! I'd ask point blank questions about studies and she knew less than I did....and I'd known her and of her as a colleague for over 30 yrs. Baffled, I realized I wasnt getting anymore out of it than if I were talking to a wall, and I could do that for free. So I let go of that one! Usually it isn't good versus bad therapist, but it has to be a good match or chemistry between the two people.

I've been going there since June, so 8 months or so. And I did bring up issues at sessions if something had come up over the week leading up to my appointment, but that didn't happen every week. The comment did hurt because that's what my mom always said to me when I was severely depressed or suicidal, that I felt like I wasn't good enough because I was lazy and needed to work harder. And my therapist knows about all that. Some weeks she gave me homework which I made effort to do. Last week it was writing affirmations on sticky notes and putting it on my bathroom mirror, etc. I did it and told her honestly that after a few days I started unintentionally tuning them out because I was used to seeing them, and that's when the conversation about effort started. I don't have a straightforward treatment plan because we've jumped between issues so much I guess, idk.

My therapist of many years assure me she wanted me to tell her if she said something that hurt my feelings, so it helped me tell her things. I hope yours has an equally intact ego for you to tell her how you feel about her words. Therapists are people too, and sometimes words come out the wrong way. Just you telling her upfront about some issues isn't going to mean she is always going to remember the right way to say something. You deserve to assert yourself and how it impacted you, even if she didn't mean to touch a sensitive issue. It's all about communication and building trust that you can tell her how you feel about what she said, just like any relationship. If we keep starting over every time somebody says something that hits us wrong, we are missing an opportunity to deepen trust in the relationship.