I sleep with hubby, but fall asleep easier if he's not in the bed at the time. Wonder if that's common, too? Hmmm.....

That is what I ended up having to do myself. Hubby had diabetes and was up a couple times almost every night. It took me forever to get to sleep and would wake up each time he got up. If he would snore, that would wake me up. We have to do what we have to do to survive, it's a hard decision and we have to handle it in a way as to not hurt their feelings. It's not what we want to do it is what we have to do sometimes.

It is a bit embarrassing but I sleep in the room adjoining our bedroom. The main reason is my husband snores terribly. The poor guy has tried everything; he even had surgery to remove his uvula and tonsils but the procedure did not help.

With sleep being so important for pain control, etc., I find that being in my own space helps me to sleep better. I am such a light sleeper that I cannot fall to sleep or stay to sleep with him around. When we have to stay in a hotel room as a family, it is torture for all of us. My kids beg me to have him sleep in another hotel room!

We just have "conjugal" visits to each others sleeping space. Hey whatever works in a marriage and keeps everyone happy is how I look at it.

I think it may be more common than we know. My husband has four brothers and three sisters and they all snore; It is hereditary. My sister in laws all say that they, for the most part, have moved to sleeping in another bedroom when their grown children move out.

There is no way I could share a bed, the person next to me would be miserable all night. I toss and turn from bad sleep and frequently wake up swinging from nightmares. My legs kick and I'm constantly turning because of pain. By morning I'm lucky if I have any covers left on the bed.

Cuddling is fine, but when it comes to sleep I need serious alone time. LOL

I sleep with my husband but we almost went our separate ways at night.

He snored horribly I couldn't get to sleep. If I went to sleep before him it was better.

I know he had sleep apnea but the docs had to do the sleep study to dx it, we had to pay a bundle for deductible and co-pay to ....guess what .....find out he has sleep apnea.

Now he has the Darth Vader mask on at night .....no snoring and I've moved back in!

It's nobodies business where you sleep.

I still sleep with my sweetie when we are together (we don't live together yet) but he has learned to sleep very very very still because ever time he moves I flinch. Luckily he only snores when he doesn't feel good & normally if I put my hand on his back he will roll over & stop. Either way sleep is so important for us that it's no one else's business. Find another way to be close to your spouse.

We sleep separately, too, and it is a little embarrassing. It started when my husband was still working and having to get up early in the mornings. He claimed my thrashing around and getting up in the night kept him awake, and he needed to be rested for work. Of course, his snoring didn't help me any either!

So that's been about 3 years ago, and it works out great for us. We both realize we sleep better alone, and now I know how important my sleep is to me. I agree that it's probably a lot more common than we know.

Hubby and I also have our own rooms--on opposite ends of the house! This started after my hubby retired. He would stay up late and come to bed and turn on the TV.Then he would go to sleep and snore like crazy! Plus he had a back and leg injury so he would lay on his back with his legs spread apart and I would curl up on the corner of the bed. If I tried to move him, he would cuss and carry on so I would go to the couch. Neither one of us were getting enough sleep so he let me have the master bedroom because it had the big master bath where I got ready for work. We had two other small bedrooms so we fixed up one for him. Since then he has developed sleep apnea but is up and down all night and I have developed diabetes, fibro, RA, OA, spine pain, etc. and I'm up about every two hours and sleep all over the bed trying to get comfortable. So we'll stay in our separate bedrooms, get our rest and and have a much happier marriage for it!

Hubby and I still sleep together. Once I get to sleep I am out. Rarely move during sleep. I usually get to bed about an hour before he gets up for work :(

Nothing embarrassing about separate bedrooms. It's just terribly upper class British! Very upstairs.

I am afraid my husband and I are nowhere near this classy. We are still very downstairs. LOL

Emily

Loved your comment.

I still sleep with my husband and would never consider sleeping without him. It's a personal promise that we made to each other on our honeymoon. I know many couples that do sleep separately, though.

If you find it embarrassing to be sleeping separate, I have a simple solution for you. Don't tell anyone. Your personal life and your health has nothing to do with them. (A nice way of saying it's not their business.)

I Am so glad to have stumbled on to this topic. I haven't slept in the same room with my hubby in a long time. #1 tv, #2 toss and turn, #3 up and down frequently #4 c-pap machine/mask leaks, Hubby would get mad when my mask would leak and if he had a hard time waking me up to fix it. So now with the exception of hubby's hateful reaction to mask leaks, I don't feel so abynormal and my feelings are not quite as hurt. I now sleep in a 12x30 absolutely beautiful sun room. The thought of going back to our bed room is claustrophobic! Thanks to everyone for sharing..

If we had a spare room, I would be in it!! Like others have said, I fall asleep much better without him in bed. Recently he snores, which keeps me awake, or I toss and turn. Eventually one of us ends up on the couch many nights a week.

I have considered keeping an air mattress in the living room to spare our couch, that is how often one of us is on it!!

I sleep with hubby, but if his snoring continues to get worse, I will have to leave.