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I went to Easter dinner with my mother and I had to keep reminder her that I couldn't have any thing with wheat in it. Then she wanted me to try some strange stuffing and it had bread crumbs in it and she seemed to get offending which I didn't mean but you never know how people are going to take things. My mom and I are planning a bus trip to a flower show in Ohio and she had to say something to me right as we were leaving about me having to call the bus line. I of course asked why and she said I may weigh to much for the bus seats. I said I don't weigh that much and she said well you should at least check. My step dad was offended for me but she said well she will want to be comfortable and I said I don't think I weigh enough not to be comfortable and then she said something about the bus lines asking her how much she weighed. I just said my goodbyes and left. I should know better than to be able to go there and not be offended and have my feelings hurt. I should be able to let it roll off my back by now but sometimes she still finds a chink in my armor.
I've had to do that with a family member...and said "well, you don't like the way I raise my kids, you don't like how I look, you don't like that we bought a van etc." and then said "gee, is there anything you DO like?" This person didn't realize what she was doing and how hurtful it was. Once she realized it, then she stopped.
Of course you're going to be offended, that was a horrible thing to say.
Or, you could do what d2M would do, and just hold your hands over your ears, (smiling, of course) and start singing, la, la, la, la, la,la so you dont hear her and perhaps she will get the idea??? Maybe you could tell her in advance that when she starts her hurtful comments, that this is what you are going to do -- then, she will know that she is not being nice, and you are telling her so without being really rude - I'd say it is worth a try.
I just wish my Mom was here to insult me, sure do miss her, but she tried to not hurt my feelings, though she could be very blunt sometimes. She's been gone 12 years now.