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ok... how do you tell someone that Doesn't have this crap, how it is to deal with multiple responsibilities WHILE having this shit??!
my bf (who is usually supportive, but not lately) just doesn't get it!!! ok, i get it, he is struggling with depression.... But he can do anything he wants! he just has to get up and do it!
but last night he called me 'inconsiderate"! because when i got home from buying a few things for the living room, i told him to go and pick up a pallet of drinking water. and that i didn't ask him to get it while he was out, or why didn't i get it my self! WTF!!! my leg was shooting crazy pain i wanted to scream, i couldn't go back out or barely even walk on it! we got into a HUGE fight.
let me list some of "responsibilities" i've taken care of over the last 7 days:
buying a new toilet (old one cracked)
picked out a new AC with him (old one uses free-on which is outlawed here) AC IS FOR HIM (i could care less)
refinanced mortgage (with over $1,600 out of pocket)
bought $200 worth of groceries
fixed my car for $1,200
and there's more i haven't even listed!!! you tell me, am i crazy for bitching him out??? for yelling so loud at him i thought my throat was gonna bleed?
i told him today that i am juggling multiple balls, and having chronic pain is like lighting those balls ON FIRE but still having to juggle them!!!!
BUT IT'S LIFE!!!! WE DO THESE THINGS EVEN IF WE DON'T FEEL LIKE IT (CUZ WE ARE IN PAIN) BUT WE STILL DO THEM!!!! that's what being an adult is! IT"S LIFE. am i right?
thanks once again for letting me vent here. you all ROCK!!
btw... i been tryin to change my profile pic to an actual pic of me, but it won't take. is me or DS?
my bf (who is usually supportive, but not lately) just doesn't get it!!! ok, i get it, he is struggling with depression.... But he can do anything he wants! he just has to get up and do it!
but last night he called me 'inconsiderate"! because when i got home from buying a few things for the living room, i told him to go and pick up a pallet of drinking water. and that i didn't ask him to get it while he was out, or why didn't i get it my self! WTF!!! my leg was shooting crazy pain i wanted to scream, i couldn't go back out or barely even walk on it! we got into a HUGE fight.
let me list some of "responsibilities" i've taken care of over the last 7 days:
buying a new toilet (old one cracked)
picked out a new AC with him (old one uses free-on which is outlawed here) AC IS FOR HIM (i could care less)
refinanced mortgage (with over $1,600 out of pocket)
bought $200 worth of groceries
fixed my car for $1,200
and there's more i haven't even listed!!! you tell me, am i crazy for bitching him out??? for yelling so loud at him i thought my throat was gonna bleed?
i told him today that i am juggling multiple balls, and having chronic pain is like lighting those balls ON FIRE but still having to juggle them!!!!
BUT IT'S LIFE!!!! WE DO THESE THINGS EVEN IF WE DON'T FEEL LIKE IT (CUZ WE ARE IN PAIN) BUT WE STILL DO THEM!!!! that's what being an adult is! IT"S LIFE. am i right?
thanks once again for letting me vent here. you all ROCK!!
btw... i been tryin to change my profile pic to an actual pic of me, but it won't take. is me or DS?
We have to continue to live. And we adapt what we can't do to do something that we can do.
If I just sat here....I'd ROT. I don't want that sort of life. God has still given me the ability to do things....so I'm gonna wear this body of mine out...every moment I can.
He does sound depressed. Lashing out is one of the first signals.
I've only been on the receiving end of depression....so I don't know much of anything else about it. Except it can really morph a person into something they are not.
As for the avatar, geez, I'm a puter dumby....maybe the other girls can help.
Hugs hun. I walked those steps before. Just don't turn them into eggshells.
i mowed my lawn last night, it really isn't that big, but am paying for it today. my mom says, see you shouldn't have done the yard. but it HAS to be done and i can't just quit life ya know.
We have to do what we have to do and it sucks big time!
Depression causes problems with decision making, everyday chores, and motivation. I know that we suffer with pain, and it is debilitating some, or many days, but if it is clinical depression, then he needs help in the form of medication in order for him to start living normally again.
I'm not excusing his behaviour, I'm just giving you a different perspective.
Don't stress yourself out. Try and sit down with him and explain where you are, and asking him to get help for his depression.
Devon, we have talked about it already. and he has began to seek help for his depression about a month ago. the meds aren't working he said, and i've noticed that he has now gone back to being angry ALL the time at EVERYTHING! i keep encouraging him to get a new psychiatrist. he finally took that route and we are waiting to see what happens next. hopfully he gets the right help.
No one can understand how we feel , unless they have it. I struggle with my hubby all the time over this issue , some days I can do what needs to be done , others...no way !!! I think when hubby was out of work and home for 3 wks was when he began to accept how bad some days are.
I hope you two can find some peace in your life.