That really stinks!

OMG!

This man is dangerous and frankly, I would give him his eviction notice asap.

He is mentally and emotionally abusing you.

I fear he has potential to getting physically violent.

Getting him out is gonna have to be a carefully and delicate plan.

I lost a beloved family member on 9/11.

Yes, I, too have heard the conspiracy theories, but I do not believe it. Osama Bin Laden is 100% responsible in me and my family's book.

Yep...I, too think people of all cultures/religions, etc..are beautiful and I do not hesitate to mention it if I see someone in a movie who is, to me, georgious in one aspect or another.

Bottom line is this...

Ricky-boy (he behaves like a boy-well, a bully boy) He needs to go.

You deserve to live in peace.

No amount of rent money is worth his shit.

And I bet, there is someone out there who is wholesome and compassionate towards human life who WOULD be a wonderful asset to you and your home and whom also needs a place to live.

I hope this helps some.

Hugs

thank you so much, Rap and jaded!
but i think i will just leave the room empty as a guest room. i don't want drama anymore... i just want peace. i'd rather pay the extra money if that gives me peace of mind...
thanks so much for reading the whole thing! and i'm so sorry you lost a loved one to 9/11. i feel your pain. i cried last night over 9/11 again, because he brought that tragedy back in my life. i cried for like an hr, and i'm not the crying type. it hurts me to remember what happened and all the death. the smell of death... hurts.

You are very welcome.

Thank you for the condolences on my loved one, I appreciate it.

I can totally see how upset you would be to listen to his shit :( I am so sorry, too that you went thru what you did on 9/11.

It just proves to me, that if this man knows what you went thru AND he proceeds to behave in the manner that he did....he just needs to go.

Yeah..I hear ya...I, too would want to just leave the room be a guest room and live in peace.

You deserve peace.

Hugs

I'd tell him to leave you don't need the aggravation. With him gone you might meet someone else that you can rent to with out the aggravation. His reaction to your comment about the actors eyes sounds like a dominering jeleous boyfriend instead of a roommate.

I agree with Rap, Jadedgirl and Maryca that you need to get him out of your house now. Not tomorrow - NOW! I know that 9/11 happened and that Bin Laden was behind it, I cried long and hard on that day and whenever someone mentions it, I cry a lot of tears. My cousin was working that day at the Pentagon and I prayed for his safety and the other people. I still remember watching the TV on CNN - and crying a lot of tears that day. Whenever I hear the song "Where Were You When The World Stopped Turning" by Alan Jackson, I cry a few tears. Why don't you make the 4th bedroom into an office for your computer, fax machine etc. To Jadedgirl, you have my sympathy on losing a relative on that terrible day that did happen.

Thank you, Browneyedgirl, I appreciate it very much. I cry a lot, too :(

I also agree with Maryca that this man acts and behaves like a domineering husband or boyfriend; an abusive one at that.

Make sure you evict him legally, tho. I have absolutely no idea what the laws are, but I do think a landlord must give so many days notice.

If you think he could get violent, is there a place you can stay until he moves out?

Once he is out, I would also change the locks on the house.

hmmm... good idea about the locks, jaded! thanks!
if he gets violent, i will have my ground here. and my bf (who lives with me) is a former Marine too. not to mention my bro is a former Marine and he lives here too. so if he gets violent, he is out numbered by 3 Marines!!! lol. plus with his history of jail time, if i call the cops,they will not hesitate to put him back behind bars Immediately!

he;s a freind and i tried to help him by letting him rent here. but now this is what i get in return. he did not sign any rental agreement. so if i verbally tell him to leave, then he must. if not i will put a legal eviction notice on his door. if he is not out by the written date on it, the cops have all rights to remove HIM and ALL his belongings. i've seen it done before! lol

Sounds like this guy needs to pull his head out of his ass and start packing his crap up.

I was a New Yorker for 30 years and now live in Jersey, right next to NY....I saw the burning, the fires, the smoke and the trauma...We also were in a drive-tru later on when some guy approached the passenger side of my car...I locked the door and rolled the window up....As we were finally pulling away, the cops had the guy that approached us and some other guys face down in the next parking lot next to white van.....When we got home and listened to the news they said that the cops had just caught other terroists with a white van with guns/ammo right where we where...These were the guys!

I hope you are able to get this Ricky guy out of your house ASAP...You don't need his mindless, idiot opinions being pushed at you, and possibly upsetting your life. You need peace, because of your illness, and also for what you've been thru...Good Luck!

Hugs, Debbie

Kick the SOB OUT!

If you are asking the question, you probably already know the answer. Follow your intuition, I say.

Sweetie, he doesn't sound very stable. I know you took him in when no one else would, but I think he might need more help than you can give him and it's not very good for you to try dealing with this by yourself.

Everybody is right. You are being too nice to him because he is a 'friend'. But honey, he is not being a friend to you.
He is trampling all over your feelings and you are too strong a woman to put up with it.
He is inconsiderate of your health, despite the fact you've been trying to teach him about Fibro and how it impacts your life. Also, the way he is acting about 9/11 is reprehensible. No matter his feelings he should respect what you have endured and it is obvious he doesn't.
He's adding so much stress to your life, and I bet no one would be surprised if that was adding to your symptoms.
Get him out of your life, unfortunately we can't save them all.
Your a strong, kick-ass woman and you deserve better!!!

Rhayne