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and not in control of my own life anymore!Yesterday my hubby told me about 2:00 that I needed to take nap and that he and my daughter were going to take the babies to town while I did so.I didn't argue because I was already exaulsted and had been thinking about it anyway.Him and my daughter both have taken to telling me to take naps and to go on to bed at night.Even though I know that they are right I still get irritated because it makes me feel like a 5 year old.I know that they love me and are trying to take care of me but it still makes me mad sometimes.At this monster[fibro]not them.
Today is my b'day and they[hubby and daughter] gave me a surprise party last night with all of my family,about 60 people in all.I really enjoyed it but around 8:30 everyone started leaving and by 9 they were all gone.When I asked my hubby about it he told me that he had told everyone that they needed to be real carefull and not overly tire me out.And that he had asked everyone to leave by 9:00 because he was afraid it would be too much for me if it lasted longer than that.As soon as everyone was gone he asked me if I thought I should go on to bed.I knwo that he is trying to take care of me but I still feel like a kid.Being told when to take a nap,how long my guests can stay for my party and then when to go to bed at night.My daughter has almost completely taken over my house,doing the cleaning,cooking and taking care of the babies.She also helps me my personl hygeine like clipping my nails and brushing my hair.When I am in the shower she will keep checking on me[because I have fallen before].She never complains about taking on so much but it makes me feel horrible.She had a real bad break up here awhile back and now she tells any guy who wants to take her out she can't because she has to "take care of Momma".She is only 20 years old she should be out having fun and making plans for her own life,she won't even go to collage because she says she needs to be here for me,to take care of me.I don't want her tied down to me and not have a life of her own.When I say anything about it she says"Mom,you have always taken care of me,now let me take care of you."
Am I being petty and ungratefull?I don't mean to be,I just want my old life back!!To an adult again!
Today is my b'day and they[hubby and daughter] gave me a surprise party last night with all of my family,about 60 people in all.I really enjoyed it but around 8:30 everyone started leaving and by 9 they were all gone.When I asked my hubby about it he told me that he had told everyone that they needed to be real carefull and not overly tire me out.And that he had asked everyone to leave by 9:00 because he was afraid it would be too much for me if it lasted longer than that.As soon as everyone was gone he asked me if I thought I should go on to bed.I knwo that he is trying to take care of me but I still feel like a kid.Being told when to take a nap,how long my guests can stay for my party and then when to go to bed at night.My daughter has almost completely taken over my house,doing the cleaning,cooking and taking care of the babies.She also helps me my personl hygeine like clipping my nails and brushing my hair.When I am in the shower she will keep checking on me[because I have fallen before].She never complains about taking on so much but it makes me feel horrible.She had a real bad break up here awhile back and now she tells any guy who wants to take her out she can't because she has to "take care of Momma".She is only 20 years old she should be out having fun and making plans for her own life,she won't even go to collage because she says she needs to be here for me,to take care of me.I don't want her tied down to me and not have a life of her own.When I say anything about it she says"Mom,you have always taken care of me,now let me take care of you."
Am I being petty and ungratefull?I don't mean to be,I just want my old life back!!To an adult again!
I think so many of these wonderful postings have given you great advice. A good discussion is in order where you thank them, tell them how much their love means to you!! First and foremost..then ask for a bit more freedom as far as you deciding how much you can handle, unless they notice you pushing yourself. I tend to really push myself, so it has taken me 13 years, yes 13 to finally learn to take things easier and in peices so I can get things done. I cannot believe how personality A I am! I also find a regular routine super helps!!! You could ask if they would help you write up a daily schedule! Maybe then, they would stop telling you what you need to do because its right there in front of you.
AS far as your daughter. Thats a tough one. She may be using you as a shield for life but you cannot change her, only yourself. You can however encourage her to take a class, online or at a local college. That would get her out in a new social setting plus help her future. Just make it a first step forward for her, and tell her you want to hear all about it, that you want to live through her life experience!! It would mean a ton to you. lol. try that!
I know I am approaching that point myself. I have been on bed rest for over a month now and so isolated from people that Im about to explode. I will probally end up pushinf my self (with in safty limits for baby) so that I can feel normal again.
Let them know you need to feel normal from time to time. Fibro wont kill you even if it feels that way some times and its ok to push its limits. If you are being so limited now what will life e like in 5 eyars? 10? will your bed time be 6???