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How much does stress play in ya flare ups

kittydodge
kittydodge
Without going into a long rant I am curious how many of ya get flares up if you become lets say overwjelmed with stress? Im in the missle of my Hubbies family feud and the moment I stand up for myself my brother n law becomes extremely nasty I talking about that he blames me for the excessive drinking my hubby has he refuses to admit he plays a part into it. That everything that is wrong is ALL my fault. He called me nasty names just so you get a taste he said Im nothing but a fat lazy drug sddicted bitch and thats the nicest way I can put it. He claims he loves me and wants to help John and I wprk out then he tells me John is considering a divorce but no one knows this but him I xhexked with his closet friends. So weather he is just telling his brother what he wants to hear or its true. John gets stresssed at work and admit he gets more from me when he gets home then he has his brother this poor man cant advoid any stress I have noticed I have been feeding off his stress they say I am always sick I wonder why!!! yes he is drinking too much but if he starts on non al. drinks it will help it did years ago. Problem sloved nope I will be honest if he kicks me out I can NOT survive w/o him period I might as well end it now but I cant I have to know if his brother is telling the truth. Does anyone know if ya commited do they allow you to have music?I got to know its getting late
Katy
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Sometimes in life I believe you have to decide who is most important to you. Put your time, effort, love and trust into that person and if necessary build yourself a wall to protect that relationship from others, who for whatever reason may want to destroy it. Just remember you married that one person, not the whole family, they dont need to be part of your life if they are trying to cause trouble.
Stress causes physical and mental pain and we have to learn to take control and cut it out of our lives where we can.
I have learnt this the hard way!
Hugs from England. x
PeaceN2You
PeaceN2You
Stress can be a huge factor - I have been under a lot of job stress recently and when it first started it came out of the blue and I was a basket case - couldn't sleep and had to get meds for both sleep and anxiety. I'm working on being better with it now that I've had time to process it, but it's still hard.

OK that was the question you asked - the one you didn't ask is, "is there any truth in what they are saying?" I don't know the answer to any of that, but the one thing you said that stands apart is your last post (#15) - " I feel so alone and Im forced to carry everyones burden "

You are never forced to carry anyone's burden but your own. Anything else you take on voluntarily. It took me years to learn to let go of other people's "stuff" and stop wasting energy on things over which I have no control. The only thing you can control is you, and the only burdens you have to carry are yours. There is some "victim" in trying to carry everyone's stuff, or even believing that you can or should.

Glad you're getting away - hope it will give everyone involved some perspective.