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does fibro = prime time (imperative?) to make up

favoritesong
favoritesong
with family?

urgh it's so annoying (to me) when fibro books say that

my mom thinks fibro = too sensitive = making big deal (moderate~ severe pain, disabled) out of nothing

she refused to speak to me and would only look at me with hateful glares (imagine your mom looking at you with hateful glares) for a while. she held a "secret" she thought "i did not know" ( "secret" being: fibro is all in my head) she blamed my debilitation (not only was i unable to attend some class of professional school, i was disabled after college) for troubling her marriage

this, after the two decade (well I'm 25 years old right now) of emotional, physical and other abuse suffered at my parents' hands

is anyone kind of in the same boat?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry to hear this! Your mother just does not understand. A lot of people do not understand, and I think that is the hardest part of it. People think that the regular day-to-day pain that they have is the same as what you have, but that you are making a big deal about it. When it is not the same at all! And, a lot of people ask what I have and when I say, "fibromyalgia," they don't know what means and so they just blow it off, and act like because they have never heard about it, it does not matter. My biggest thing is that I am not looking for sympathy, but understanding. Understanding that I can do things, I just can't do everything. And, the things I do everyday is way harder for me, than it is for someone healthy. I push myself to get a lot done at work, and so people think I am fine, but I am so not.

I couldn't imagine my momma acting like that, and thinking it is all in my head. That is one of my fears of telling people that I have fibro, is that they will just think it's in my head. But, honey, you are not alone. You have everyone on here that understands! All of us know it is not in your head! Fibro is REAL! xoxo
skinnybinny
skinnybinny
I've never read a fibro book that says that.

My family was toxic and it was much better for my health to distance myself from them.
Danara8
Danara8
Shame on her for putting that on you. I have heard studies that have been done relating childhood stress to fibro. I know mine was not a walk in the park either. If she (mom) can't support you or even believe you... move on. I have cut out the majority of my family due to similar issues. Is it hard? Yes. Is it worth the lessened stress and guilt? Definitely!

Here's to a better tomorrow.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm 23. I've been there too. I learned only recently that my mother has dissociative identity disorder (multiple personalities). She has fibro and chronic fatigue as well, but would "switch" back and forth from a mother that understood my pain to a stranger that ridiculed me for what she saw as weakness.
My stepmother convinced my dad that it was all a game and that my mother was controlling me with a fake illness.
It was a nightmare.
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