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milily 08/29/2011

Now that my husband has a decent job and can consistently help pay the bills, I am considering having a house cleaner person a couple hours a week. I actually know someone who does this, our kids have been friends for years, so I would be comfortable having her in my house.
I have trouble just keeping up with the dishes and the laundry. Everything beyond that majorly increases my pain and sends me into spasms. It is hard on me to go to physical therapy twice a week and then pool therapy twice a week but I do it because it is the only physical things I can do at this point. I guess for me it is part of acceptence. Wouldnt it be nice to have my tub/shower consistently clean for daily soaking baths? The male gender in my house just dont care or do a really poopy job. With my son starting school again next week, he will only have time for his basic chores that he is responsible for- schools sure give out more homework than when I went to highschool. The month of August he has been working for me for 8 dollars an hour, he is saving up to get his own laptop, so somethings are getting done around here that have not been done for a long time.

deleted_user 08/29/2011

I know just how you feel. After being up and around for awhile I get a couple things done then my energy is gone. I just putter away at it, one job at a time. I miss the days when I could clean the whole house in one day. If u can afford it go for it and get some outside help.

Actually I have heard that more people are now looking for the occasional odd jobs due to the economy.

deleted_user 08/29/2011

If I could afford it, I would have someone in here helping me in a heartbeat. I say, as long as you are comfortable with the lady doing it, go for it.

deleted_user 08/29/2011

I don't blame you one bit! My ex thought that "disability"meant that I was his maid! My roommate understands and does the lions share of housework.

PeaceN2You 08/29/2011

Now that our renovations are almost done, as soon as I get back to work and get a couple of paychecks I plan to go back to having someone in to do the heavy stuff.

If you can afford to do that it doesn't even make sense to do it yourself. Even without fibro there is so much more to do and cleaning toilets has just never been something I considered a good use of my time.

Go for it!

fibrolizzy 08/29/2011

Oh, I'm jealous! I wish I could have someone come in to clean my house. My husband won't pay for it, so when I pay off my car, I'm going to do it for myself!

Muneraven 08/30/2011

I think it's a great idea. Heck, you're helping the economy! ;-)

deleted_user 08/30/2011

Go for it! I'm happy for you. I'm sure we all would love to clean our houses like we used to. However, since we can't do it ourselves, getting someone else to do it, sounds like a great idea.

I know that when I'm feeling really bad and can't do even the usual picking up, I can't even relax in bed and feel even worse. Like a loser. On good days, I can do a little. Last week, I even cleaned all the floors. I paid for it dearly. Usually I just try not to make messes or clean up right away when I make a mess.
I keep chlorax wipes in the bathroom and wipe the toilet sink and the outside of the tub. Sometimes, I clean while sitting on a toilet. I know, tmi. ;-) Well, one has to do what they have to do.

I have to keep most of whatever little energy I have for work. When I win the lottery, I will get someone to help be clean, too.

So Mililly, good for you, it will help you, and I'm sure the lady will be glad to get another customer.
Take care.

deleted_user 08/30/2011

I don't blame you a bit! I wish I had someone to do mine. I have a friend, that cleaned mine for me one time. She needed some extra money, and I needed the extra help. And it was wonderful, when I came home from work that day to a clean house. Once it was clean, all at the same time, it was much easier for me to stay on top of it.

PeaceN2You 08/30/2011

hurteveryday the last person who cleaned my house was also a friend who needed extra money. Unfortunately she moved across the country so not here anymore

deleted_user 08/30/2011

Go for it!

tonirexx 08/31/2011

I couldn't have survived the past few years without them. My mom always told me it was about priorities... and the amount it costs to have them come once every three weeks, we spent going out to dinner twice. So - less going out to dinner, in exchange for bathrooms that are nice enough to actually use. Well worth it for me. Once every three weeks certainly doesn't make for a spotless house, but it made for a comfortable house. They do the things that are hardest for me... bathrooms, floors, dusting... and I keep up with the rest in the middle. It was a compromise that really made a difference for me.

deleted_user 08/31/2011

I've been doing this every few months, since it's a little too much to pay for every week, but it's been great! Definitely try it ot!

deleted_user 09/01/2011

I clean houses. It is pretty easy for me to clean even with fibro. Only because I have good tools like a floor steamer and lightweight vac. It is hard on my body, but it is only a few hrs at a time at my own pace and cash in hand. Better then a full shift with little to no breaks. It works for me. I just had a car crash so I cant work for a while. Now I need someone to clean for me lol. I would say get yourself some nice cleaning tools. Then you can clean yourself when you need to. But you should still have someone come in to do the heavy stuff. It is sooo hard with fibro.

milily 09/01/2011

Thanks everyone for your support. I dont like to have people over because I am unable to keep up with the cleaning, so this might help with the isolation thing too. I cant wait to have a clean house consistently. Now if only my husband and son would quit putting their things all over the floor and table...............Fibroguy1 if you lived near buy, I would hire you and even feed you lunch.

deleted_user 09/01/2011

Totally go for it.

I live in a tiny studio apartment, but with two cats. I can keep up with the picking up and litter box, but laundry is hard for me (machine is on a platform and I'm barely tall enough to reach the bottom of it).

Dusting, vacuuming, mopping... you have to do them all in one go or it's useless. And the one time I tried, it put me in bed for the next day.

I have to remind my boss to find me a new person (my previous one was too flaky). I wish I had the energy and mental capacity to pick up with my Korean lessons again. But at this point it would be throwing money away. I can't keep vocabulary in my head longer than 30 seconds (or so it seems)

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