She lives in Alabama, but I have no idea what region. At least that is what her profile says.
She hasn't been in touch with me for a while.
Damn this isn't good.

I just joined the fibromyalgia support group today, I have been diagnosed with RA over a year ago and have fibro secondary to the RA. I am truly concerned for ExhaustedLady, as you all are. Depression seems to go with both of them. I have been through the darkest place over the last months and love DS. It has made such a difference in my life. I hope ExhaustedLady knows that every person with an illness deserves to be cared for, and I know during my lowest times, a bit of attention from some caring soul on here was enough for me to keep holding on to that knot that I had tied in the end of my rope. Some only have this support group. I hope not hearing from her may mean she has sought help. I will continue to keep her in prayer.

I haven't heard from her after giving her my contact info :(

Hi Youdontlooksick, I agree with you that this would be cruel if this was a person just seeking attention.

I clicked on view more post and she has been on here for a little over a year. I read a few and it's sad. Basicly stuggling with chronic illnesses and wanting her marrage to work but realizing her husband was setting her up for a divorce.

I've never been married but If I was and having to deal with a number of chronic illnesses and then a husband like she had over the past year I'd be devastated too and might snap.

I don't think her intention was to be cruel she just wanted to say goodbye to people who cared about her. I did a similar post not to long ago not planning on ending my life but to say Goodby and thank you because my health was/is so bad that I thought my life was/is almost over because lung and heart problems. I'm still trying to get well but it's a struggle.

It's sad but I can relate to her and can only hope and pray that she changed her mind and keeps on fighting to go on. I didn't call out for help I just went ahead and tried to kill myself in 2005 (it didn't work) and I still have days where I struggle with this.

Yes she needs to contact public agencies and professionals who can do more for her but sometimes that's not possible.

Sending Prayers for her and anyone that finds themselves in a similar situation.

On 6/11 she wrote that she was closing her account because she felt DS wasn't helping her ( says it on her profile). I think that she decided to leave but decided to go out having everyone talking about her. I think this was all about attention. I wouldn't be surprised if she is reading what we are writing. Most people who decided to commit suicide, don't make a public announcement. The just do it, and they are usually happiest right before they do it because they finally have some control of their lives. I hope she is ok, and I hope she gets the help she needs, but I wouldn't allow myself to lose sleep over it. Sorry if that sounds mean, but i have had experience with this before, so I know what I'm talking about.

Hi livingwithfm,

I disagree with you. The problem that youdontlooksick is talking about with another site is the depression group and that is what I think she was talking about with DS not helping her and I've heard this alot about that group from alot of members here.

She was not making a public annoucement but saying Goodbye to her friends here on DS and it could also be thought of as a cry for help.

I also have experience with this and I checked out a number of her post from when she first joined in March of 09 to the present. She was a normal member asking for advice and giving advice. You can see how this past year took it's toll on her and she snapped.

From experience it was the hardest thing I did when I tried to end my life and although I did experience some happiness that I was taking control and I believed that all the pain would be over soon there was an extreme amount of pain and sadness that I was making this choice.

I also still think of ending my life and at the times those thoughts are the strongest. I've thought of posting a Goodbye not for attention, and not to get someone to stop me but to thank those that have really been there for me and not just disappear from their lives.


Also if she changed her mind and is out there reading this post or the other post I hope she realizes she has alot of friends that care about her, would like to hear from her and would welcome her back with no judgements.

continuing to send Prayers for her and other people that find themselves in similar situations.

Maryca
don't get me wrong...I wish her well, and pray to God she hasn't made the decision to do it, but she was giving up on DS because she felt she wasn't getting the help she needed, and that's fine, but she has everyone here all worked up. In my opinion, that is cruel and screaming for attention.
I tried to end my life years ago, (thankfully I was not successful) and I didn't talk about it with everyone. I just attempted. I took a few handfuls of pills, but I vommited half of them and they pumped the rest out of my stomach at the ER.
We all have the right to our opinion, and I respect yours...I just feel this is a cry for attention, especially knowing we can't reach out to help her since we don't know her personally.
If she is reading this, I hope she reaches out and let's us know she is ok.

Dee

Hi livingwithfm, I agree with you that if this was for attention that it was cruel. I just don't agree that was what she was doing. I think she just snapped with everything hitting her at once over the last few weeks.

And for me I don't have that feeling of being glad that I survived. I just don't want to hurt my brother and I'm afraid if I tried again and it didn't work I'd be worse off. I was just lucky that I didn't end up worse off that time. I don't know what it is but I just relate to what she wrote.

I was so shocked and scared about this post. I hope she didn't go thru with it. I wish we had more info. I sent her some info on resources for homeless and she wrote back and said she had talked to that center. The info i sent her was for Huntsville, but i never knew what city she lived in-i only knew she was from Alabama. This is so sad-i hope someone on here was closer to her and knows more about her. Has anyone ck'ed to see if any of the ppl on the depression support group knew more about her???

Maryca
there is one thing we can agree on, that she is safe and finds the help she needs.
I'm sorry that you don't feel that you want to be here, you seem nice and I'm glad to know you, even if we don't always agree. I'm glad I didn't succeed because I feel that God has a plan for me...and he's not ready for me to go home yet. I still have too much to do here first. I feel that if I try to leave before IRS my time, someone will miss out on something I'm supposed to give,do, or teach them. Sounds silly, I know, but I strongly believe you are here for a reason too. MAybe you don't know what it is yet, but I think God will let you know when the time is right.

Hugs
Dee

Hi livingwithfm,

Yes we can agree on that. I'm glad we've gotten to know each other to. I would like to appoligize for the reply I made to your other post. I was at a very low point that day and I took something personnelly and I realize now that it wasn't meant that way. I'm sorry for any hurt I caused you.

I also agree with you about God having plans for us there was a reason God kept me here and that was my brother needed my help (after my mom died I didn't think I was needed any more and I could find some peace). My other brother and sisters would have stolen the house from him. My being here stopped that from happening and I was able to see my mom's last wishes honnored. I guess God still has plans for me and if I were to get my health back I would be glad I was still alive and even if I don't get my health back God has his reasons. I just have to make the best of today and keep some hope for tomorrow.

Sending Hugs & Prayers,
Mary

Maryca
no need to apologize...we were both having an off day. I try not to take too much personally. I learned we all have different opinions. And we are all entitled to them, we just need to learn to respect them, and I respect yours as much as any one elses.

Hugs
Dee

I just noticed that exhausted had a couple of more posts after her "goodbye". She answered to a couple of others. One was at 2:33 am and the other at 3:44 am. At 2:33 she still sounded just as down and maybe it's my wishful thinking but I didn't get the same feel from the 3:44 am post. Check it out, see what you think? Continuing to hope and pray.

I saw those post too and I'm hoping she read some of the replies to her post and reached out to someone. Hopefully she went to ER and may have been admitted and that could be why she hasn't been back on.

Will continue to pray for her.


If she has been admitted to the hospital it could be awhile before we here from her if she decides to come back on and I hope she does.

I too found the original post disturbing to say the least.
And i believe it is possibly a cry for help.
As someone has pointed out already, Exhausted lady's original post was at 1.25a.m

and by reading it, we would gather that at this time Exhausted lady is in such a state of decline that she is threatening or intending to take her own life.

However a couple of hours later, 3.44a.m. Exhausted lady makes some comments on another thread. And I notice they are helpful comments and ones that tend to have a tone of empathy to them, she seems to be understanding how difficult it is to be working and being sick.

So I am presuming, and I hope my presumptions are correct Exhausted Lady realised that she still has something worth living for and realizes that she can still give to others and help them and be of encouragement. because she herself knows what it is like to be in tough times and tough situations.

You basically don't threaten suicide and then two hours later you are typing away on your computer being supportive to someone else.

I don't know you Exhausted Lady and I know you have friends here in the fibro group but as one person to another, another sufferer to another, I hope you are ok and you do get the help you need for your living arrangements and health needs. I know people have offered help and suggestions and you have been given a wealth of support here in the fibro group. There is not much else we are able to do, only professionals and resources in your area are your best hope. And I hope you reach out to someone in your community and get the help that you need and they take time to listen to you and serve you well.

I hope only the best for you.