Fibromyalgia Support Group

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bluesun
bluesun
Why is this so hard for me? I can't get in the mood.... and then when my husband and I DO make love, this hurts, that hurts, a cramp here and there, my hips are uncomfortable, something else starts to hurt, etc etc.... . And it's not like we are doing anything crazy. But the next morning, why do I always feel like just I survived I car crash? This is negatively impacting the romance in our marriage. Is this how it is for anyone else?
bluesun
bluesun
Premarin vaginal cream? is that Rx only?
isabelle1954
isabelle1954
The Premarin cream was helpful, but for me, because of IC (interstitial cystitis issues, brought on by chemo damage 20 years ago), we haven't been able to have sex due to the bladder pain. Compromise is the word and you can pleasure your husband at a time of day that works for both of you. We have pleasured each other standing up in a warm room so my FM doesn't act up. And take your pain killers,for sure before. There are solutions to these challenges. I have heard that 40% of women suffer with sex dysfunction. Hope this helps. Isabelle1954
larks
larks
I believe that the medication that some of us are on also has an effect with desire. I am on Cymbalta and it really helps to manage my pain and balance me. However, because it is also an antidepressant, a side effect is decreased libido. I am definitely experiencing this. It is frustrating but outweighs not being able to move about.

Yes, it is definitely uncomfortable and my low back ends up hurting all day. My husband and I are also out of sync. He is a night owl and I am a morning person. If only we both did not have to work and it could be afternoon delight!